Selfish liveries!

[squirtlysmum]

It never ceases to amaze me how many people want want want and never ever give!
My big horse generally lives out however due to the mud he and his field buddy have been coming in to a big barn on the yard. They are tucked away but still on the yard.
Generally me and my friend are first down in the morning so we feed the whole yard. My friend also turns a particular liverys horse out without fail every Saturday.
When asked if she could feed our two in the barn tomorrow as we'll be down a little late she said 'No, I havn't got time!'.
I've always wondered what the M U G written across my forehead was for, now I know. Maybe I will start being very selective in the mornings as to who's horses I have TIME to feed!!
Ok moan over, does anyone else suffer this??

 

[Moggy in Manolos]

God, don't get me started. The last yard I left I was thoroughly taken the pee out of over 2yrs by one particular lady, boy am I glad to be shot of her, she was a user through and through and manipulated me no end, so happy its just me and my girl again, with the odd chuck out of hay into the field by the other very lovely lady on my tiny yard

I too was a mug, but no more

 

[4leggedfurries]

I've had that on many occasions and on one yard i was going up an hour earlier than normal just to feed and hay the other 10 horses in my block. when no one offered to let me have a lie in one weekend i told the lot of them to shove it. Why should i get up ealry feed thier horses then go to work, when none of them did and wouldnt turn up till nearly lunch time because i had. I also had one on the land i have now, that said 'oh would you mind for tomorrow' i said no and before you know it, it was every day. I just stopped one day when i realised it was happening again. For what she gave him, he could eat it in the time it took her to rug him, so just left it there for her. So glad i dont have anyone on with me anymore. Only have to worry about my own and if i were you i wouldnt bother doing hers anymore.

 

[miss_bird]

I offered to help the 2 girls on my yard as they both work and i am at the yard all day, so offered to rug and turn theirs out every day in return for a favour now and again.
So now, 1 girls is mega accomodating and hays 5 of mine that are in 2 morning a week when i have to do another yard before my own, the other one, wont lift a blasted finger to help anyone bar herself

 

[E_Lister]

I have never yet been in this situation and on my yard there are only two owners (and me the sharer). If for whatever reason one of the others can't make it down till late etc I will do her ponies for her but she is training to be an instructor and gives me free lessons so generally I feel like it is me taking the mickey out of her... not the other way round!

 

[Luci07]

dont wonder about it DO it!!! and tell her straight that when you help her out, you expect a favour in return. As she is not happy with that arrangement, then you will no longer feed her horse in the morning. Be straight, there can be no confusion, you are not being rude, but think said livery needs to have a wake up call!

 

[TS_]

If she's not willing to help you out you could ask her for money in return for the things you do, I'm sure she'd help you then so she didn't have to pay. Although I guess you couldn't charge much so it probably wouldn't work in your situation, thinking about it.
I think if I were you I'd just come out with it and say I'd like a favour in return or she can do it herself.
I tend to suffer this at my yard a little, I do one of the liveries horses once a week for her and she offered to pay me in the beginning so I accepted as I knew otherwise I'd be doing it for nothing. However she never pays me and if she does she leaves it for weeks and pretends she's forgotton and under pays me. I've seen her most nights for the past week or so and not once has she even said thank you let alone that she'll get my money to me at some point. However it's not all bad as I help my YO in return for things like trips out when she has a space in the trailer and her helping me out. So I totally know how you feel and I never say anything to the woman as I'm to much of a wuss

 

[Tinypony]

I think I've got a miserable livery story to add to these. Picture frozen, icy yard one evening after dark. It's a DIY yard, but the YO is really helpful. There are other animals to be cared for as well as the horses, so loads of water used every day. So nice YO has put big containers in the kitchen, so that they can be filled up with water whenever we can get a tap defrosted, and then everyone can fill their buckets etc. They only just last for two days.
So, myself and nice YO have got one tap defrosted enough to get a slow flow of water going. Remember, it's dark, icy, and added to that this tap is on the end of the block in quite a dark area. We are filling 5 litre containers, hauling them into a wheelbarrow, taking them to the kitchen... we are freezing and our gloves are long ago soaked.
Another livery turns up. Goes to say hi to her pony. Wanders about a bit. Tops up water from the barrels in the kitchen. Walks past us a few times. Goes back to car and leaves.

 

[scally]

Totally agree with the others, stop doing her horses until someone appreciates what you do for them, they will carry on taking the mickey out of you.

Stop doing her horses until such a time as she returns your goodwill.

Hard to do, but something I am learning I stand in the mirror and have to practice "NO".

 

[soulfull]

OH YES its the same on most yards! There is always one or two that take all the time

 

[AmyMay]

It's awful how selfish some people can be. Luckily the first person on the yard has to feed, no choice. But bet many wouldn't if it wasn't a rule.

 

[Hippona]

When I was on DIY I had 3 horses- people knew I had a lot on and worked full time so never asked me unless desperate- when I would help out if I could. My mate and I used to bring in/turn out for each other on a weekend so we could have a lie in/go out early etc but generally I didnt get involved that much....not because I was being nasty- I simply only had enough time to sort my own out.
Got my own place now...only got to worry about my own horses....much less stressful.