Selling a pony - heartbreaking

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I think I have sold my pony - just finalising the ££. Its the first time I have sold a horse and I have just burst into tears.

This is normal right?

He's got soooooo much potential and I don't have the time to nurture it. He's the only thing in my life that can guarantee to make me smile and now he's going.
 
Oh poor you - are you sure you have thought this through properly? Sell him if you can't afford him, or haven't got time to look after him, but don't worry about you not fulfilling his potential - he honestly doesn't care about, or even know he has unfulfilled potential! He is just happy being a horse and if he gets to spend lots of time dossing about in the field rather than being jumped/dressaged/whatever everyday, I bet he is a very content chap.

Hope I haven't just thrown a spanner in the sale :)
 
Llewelyn said:
Oh poor you - are you sure you have thought this through properly? Sell him if you can't afford him, or haven't got time to look after him, but don't worry about you not fulfilling his potential - he honestly doesn't care about, or even know he has unfulfilled potential! He is just happy being a horse and if he gets to spend lots of time dossing about in the field rather than being jumped/dressaged/whatever everyday, I bet he is a very content chap.

Hope I haven't just thrown a spanner in the sale :)
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Ditto this! Potential just means he could if the rider wanted to, if the rider is simply interested in happy hacking I don't suppose the horse could give two hoots. If he's the only thing making you smile in life I wouldn't be parting with him.
 
I'm with the others who say the horse has no idea that he has potential, or even what potential is! If this is the only reason for the sale and you are happy with him, then don't sell.
 
touchstone said:
Ditto this! Potential just means he could if the rider wanted to, if the rider is simply interested in happy hacking I don't suppose the horse could give two hoots. If he's the only thing making you smile in life I wouldn't be parting with him.
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Ditto this.
I will add though that when I bought my mare, she had been for sale a few months before and the seller changed her mind that time and then changed it back again. She was upset when she sold her to me. But that was all very different because she had lost confidence on the mare.
 
I got my boy last September, he was a 3yo at the time, we had a few moments lets say and i decided to sell him, well i was in tears for a week just couldn't stop crying at all. I just couldn't bring myself around to the idea of him being out of my life so i decided to keep him and we are having a great time together and our bond is stronger than ever.
So please make sure it is what you want because once he has gone he has gone!
Could you imagine your life wthout him in it? I know i couldn't?
Have a long hard think
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Kate x
 
Well I'm a right softie and quite emotional but I've never cried when I've sold a horse on! I've sold 3 and it's always been because the horse wasn't right for me. I was attached to all of them but selling them on was the best thing to do for me and the horse. They all went to lovely homes and I still keep in touch with them.

Are you not able to give him the time to give him a good home are are you worried about his untapped potential. If it's just the latter I would have a good think about what you're doing. I've had a few horses that I would never have sold, I would have starved rather than let them go because I would have cried buckets over them!
 
I cried all day when i sold mne, and still feel upset now. However in my case t was the best thing for him as i had lost confdence and had tried for many months to get it back. It wasn't his fault. Having said that I would buy him back, but i know that he's doing well in his new home and loved to pieces
 
I agree with the others who say you shouldnt seel him unless you cant afford him anymore.
He doesnt care if he isnt fullfilling his potential!
If he is a happy hoss and your happy too then keep him.
 
Yes it's normal! I didn't stop crying for 3 days when I sold my first pony and it still makes me sad to think about her now. Believe me though, it does get better, particularly when you know you are doing the right thing and that you have found a lovely home.
 
The reason for selling is that he stands in his field from one week to the next. He runs over to see me when I come and visit. I juts don't have the time and he just looks at me disappointed that I'm not noing to play with him. Its guilt more than anything. I haven't ridden him (other than today) for 4 weeks, before that, 2 months. I just feel devastated.
 
Would a sharer not be a better compromise for you? I know someone who has recently started to pay to ride a horse that never gets ridden by the owner. That way he is still there for you to ride when you want to.
 
My circumstances won't change. I have another horse too and its all about having time. He hasn't reached height either which isn't ideal.
 
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