separation anxiety

[_Libby_]

one of the mares in my field has become totally attached to my placid gelding. He doesnt mind being away from her and comes in happily but the mare goes mad, galloping around and screeching (even though their are 8 other horses in the field)

The mare's behaviour has gotten worse and worse, she doesnt like being caught and refuses to be lead in from the field away from my bemused boy.

Anyhow I arrive at yard yesterday to find my horse has been moved fields! Which would be fine except he's now alone and in a field with poor grazing. I am not amused , the owner of the mare and YO are friends and it seems she's made out she's doing it for my good- saying my boy was getting stressed too when infact he wasnt bothered at all.

i hate this type of situation and dont want to complain but i am really not happy. Some of the things she's been saying about my horse and just total fabrication.

 

[Box_Of_Frogs]

I can understand the 2 horses being separated but I would have said it was for the benefit of the mare rather than your ned. With your boy moved, the mare will probably have a few days where she thinks her world has collapsed and then she should make some different buddies and hopefully settle better. Two things though: sometimes a horse like this mare will always be insecure and will always form intensely strong pair bonds so her owner may always have problems with her. Secondly, it isn't fair that your boy is now on his own. Can't a couple of the other 8 join him in his new field?

 

[_Libby_]

i agree and think she will just latch onto someone else as she is insecure.

I am p*ssed that a) no one spoke to me first, and b) my horse is now all alone.
I am going to speak to YO and see if another horse or two can be moved in with him, the problem being I imagine no one will want their horse in the other field as the grazing is poor.

 

[nadinek82]

I sympathise with you on this one. Typical bloody livery yard politics! Similar things have went on at my yard concerning my pony and other peoples. It seems like if your face doesn't fit or you are a good livery you get treated the worst! When i was in a similar situation i ended up losing the rag with my YO, my pony was moved when someone else's horse was the problem. In my opinion the mare should have been moved, not your boy. Have a chat with the YO and see if you can resolve this. They didn't have the right to move your horse without discussing it with you first and the mares owner should have approached you to see if there was something that could have done between you's to resolve it.

 

[kate081]

I'd be furious. They have no right to move your horse without your permission. I'd see if you can persuade someone else to move their horse in with yours. Although the grazing isn't safe, it sounds like you're best out of it.

 

[pelly]

I can understand your Problem Fully

About the seperation problem .The 2 in my Sig are like that.

cant comment about the idiot at the yard