Separation Anxiety

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Ok, to cut a long story short, I think the reason for Ty being a knob in his loan home is due to him having severe separation anxiety from Oscar.

So, seeing as Oscar is going to be on box rest for a good 6 weeks, and probably not going to go out 247 again till next summer, do you think that 6/8 weeks apart, but on the same yard could cure the problem?

I'm going to speak to yard owner tomorrow again about keeping Ty in another field but not that sure it will be an option.

There is a slim chance that I'll get a hefty car allowance at work soon - i've been told I'm getting one but not how much. My sharer said that she could afford £200 a month towards him, so if I paid the rest (about £150 for shoes/insurance and extras in winter) maybe, just maybe we could keep him.

I just don't want them both getting attached again and having the same problems we've had in the past - I also don't want oscar getting into a state and hurting himself while on box rest.

Opinions?
 
I'm not sure i understand the full story, but I always feel bad for horses that have formed pair bonds and are then separated as in the wild they would bond for life. To the horse it is not just a little whim, it really can affect their emotional well being. Could he not have his pair bond with him, whilst he is on box rest and then could they really not stay together? Knowing his buddy is on the same yard, but not able to see him, may be torture for him.
 
The issue is that the anxiety makes Ty a nightmare to handle and makes oscar nap!

Sharer rode Oscar out on the Monday after Ty went on loan and he was a star....proof in the pudding I guess.
 
Stick with the plan to perm loan/view to buy Ty....... if you find the right people he will get over his attachment.... becasue what happens if sharer decides to move to Oxford or whatever, you are stuck with the 2 of em again..... I know it can happen on loan to, but if they are better behaved apart then thats what I would do.......
 
Guess so L, you know what I'm like though, even now I'm still trying to find ways of keeping the little git!

Oh well nice sounding lady is coming out on saturday hopefully so fingers crossed.
 
I know mrs...... you love him to bits so its hard, but it'll be the right decision in the end, you know it will!! Hows Oscar?
 
Will find out today as he has a second tap on his hock to check if the fluid is still infected. Hopefully all being well hell be home next week. Going up to see him later on today.
 
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It's really hard this. Is there another horse you can use as a buddy for Ty for the time being? or preferably a group rather than pairing up all the time.

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They are in a herd anyway believe it or not. What makes me feel bad is that Oscar wouldn't have been kicked if Ty was there as they kept themselves to themselves....it's only because he was hanging around by the gate on his own waiting for Ty to come back....
 
I had the same problem with one of my horses, he was so attached to my older horse even though I had only owned him 4 months and my older horse had always had a paddock to himself before so was used to being left on his own but when I bought another horse and put them in the field together which then meant I turned both out in the mornings together, brought in together etc they became inseperable. I couldn't catch one of them as the new one just galloped off starting them both off, then it got worse, neither would stay in the stable on their own even to just be tacked up for work, It got so bad I decided to bite the bullet and seperate them completely, my new horse was left out 24/7 on his own for 6wks with me just going to check on him 4-5 times a day, this formed a bonding with us, he started to regard me as the Alpha horse as I told him off when needed and praised him when his sillyness stopped. 5 months down the line he is like a different horse now, he still has his own field but I now bring him in at night with the rest of the yard and I can leave him till last for turning out without all the silly box walking, calling kicking out at the box etc and when I actually walk him to his field he is really calm on the end of the lead rope. I think we have to just sometimes say 'tough' you can bloody well get on with it and stick with your decision but stay calm regardless, after a while the horse sorts out his own head because it becomes the norm for them. Good luck but I would seperate them completely if it is effecting your riding horse.
 
well I've just been told that a yard I liked ages ago may be able to offer me part livery for oscar and grass for Ty - in separate fields which would be a perfect situ. Just waiting to find out!
 
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