Sharer Troubles GRR

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My friend put her big tbX mare up for share 6 months ago as she found out she was pregnant. Nice seeming youngish girl came to try her and seemed reasonable... Not the best rider in the world but didnt do anything awful. When the girl tried her she was told that the mare had had problems with her back and had been off for 6 months with various problems however had been treated accordingly and was coming back into work. I schooled the mare 3X a week and the sharer just ploded about/ or did nothing. Yesterday she said she no longer wanted to share as she didnt feel the horse was going to be ready to do X country by Christmas. (however she hasnt put any work into the horse or she would be ready by now ... she always texts and says she is just going to feed her today as its too cold wet or shes too tired to ride) .... Also there is no outdoor X country in winter anyway. I am rather annoyed about the whole situation because my friend is about to give birth to a baby and now needs to find a sharer?! has anyone else had problems like this?
 
I have never been in that position with a sharer.. When I was pregnant my horses were in light work by me and when I got closer to having the baby they come out of work and were off for about a year. My partner and my parents helped me out with them, mucking out etc. Is there no way you would be able to share? As it sounds like you've been doing most of the sharing for her already lol
 
Did she get a contract with the sharer that includes a period of notice? This would give her longer to find another sharer. TBH there are lots of people looking to share at the moment, I know far more than there are horses available. Try putting up some flyers at tack shops and riding schools. It is annoying, but that's what people are like unfortunately. At least she has done no damage to the horse.
 
I've never been in this position exactly but I have seen both first and second hand how tricky shares can be. It sounds like your friend is better off without this girl. It always amazes me how many people have horses to ride but just don't bother...but that's a rant for another time :)

If you mention where abouts your friend's horse is then you never know, there might be someone on the forum who is interested. Otherwise, are you able to continue riding the horse for her? If you are riding three times a week then the horse is being kept ticking over at least.

There are good sites for advertising for sharers, but that might be more hassle than your friend wants just now. If she cannot find someone else then, as PonyFeet10 did, it might be best to turn the horse away. Even once she has had the baby, your friend may well prefer to take a break while he / she is very young. It is a shame in a way when there is a healthy horse who could be ridden and enjoyed by someone standing in a field, but the horse won't mind I'm sure!
 
Yes I will continue to ride her and the trouble is she has had so much time off she cant afford to have anymore!!!! And the other problem is that she cant live out and wont do well being in and not being worked she gets too difficult. I unfortunately have my own and cannot commit to another one !!! The mare is just outside Milton Keynes.

Flyers will be printed its just such a hassle at a bad time of year and unecessary stress!! She has such potential is so frustrating !!
 
If it helps I found my current share horse on rightequine - or rather her owner found me! I put up a 'wanted' ad and got quite a few responses, so check out the 'wanted' section and think about putting up an ad. Newrider is another one you could try but I think you have to pay to join. I also got responses for my 'wanted' ad on gumtree but this was more hassle to put up and I got a lot of spam too.
 
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