WishfulThinker
Well-Known Member
Right, I just need some advice.
I have a girl riding my horse, well its like a share but she rides him all the time as I cant get out to see him and its the summer hols so she is off school so why not let her have him all the summer.
I have jsut past my driving test (woop) so I will be able to get out there more - still like 2/3 times a week - and I would like to ride him a bit once she is back at school(so like Mid Aug).
Now, he is being a bugger to catch. This only started when he went on working livery, and I thought he would grow out of it but he hasn't. And I don't think he will until he is on a sparce field (he is a fatty cob), and we take his little field mate away to another field(well other fenced off area.
So, dad tells me she is getting fed up of coming down and not being able to catch him, or its taking ages. Now I define onver 20-30 mins as ages. I am not sure how long it is taking her. Also the neighbours kid(also horsey)who she knows and rides with, it becoming rather bitchy and vindictive and she does like it (also a pain that she has all the jump poles as I gave them ours to use thinking they would be riding together - and I am too weak to ask for them back as they have now painted them!). She wants to move him up the road - about half a mile - to a rented field with a mate. She says she will pay livery(currently horse at my parents so no one pays rent - she pays for his feet to be trimmed every 6-8 weeks thats it).
Now, my issue is this. If he is at this field and she is paying livery I can't expect to ride him and not pay livery cos thats just shitty as its her wages that will pay it - not her parents. Also, if he is up there I can't take my daughter up as its next to the main road north - its busy and fast. Also, that would mean that I am having to work round yet more peoples schedules, and in the winter it will be like 5:30pm I get out there and dark. My parents have floodlights for our fields so I can ride at night.
And, shitty devil pony will be on his own. My dad thinks that will make him more catchable, I disagree as she doesnt care if he is on his own - as long as no humans are near him! But It is not fair so I would have to get another pony - OH did suggest another horse on loan I can ride but lets face it - who would loan a horse to someone who is 17st - answer - no one. And I already have a horse.
But.....my problem is that I don't want to come across as a whiney biatch. As I cant argue about having to walk up as she has to walk down - and further. I cant argue that I won't feel comfortable as well, she doesnt feel comfortable cos of bitchy neighbour teen. Basically we have the same reasons for wanting him different places. I have thought of offering that her mate could bring her horse down to ours - for free. BUT, we only have 1 stable. They have 3 up there (but already 3 horses and a pony).
My horse likes her and they go well together, so I don't want her to go, as lets face it - I need her to ride him as I cant do lots other than some schooling and hacking (I don't jump him cos of my weight). And, I've jsut spent £250 on fencing for the field to sort it out, and had she said she was considering moving, I would have left it as it was and never gotten devil pony as a companion.
Ugh......... I don't know what advice I need really - just some input from the wiser HHOers!
Contreau and Ammaretto cookies if you got this far.
I have a girl riding my horse, well its like a share but she rides him all the time as I cant get out to see him and its the summer hols so she is off school so why not let her have him all the summer.
I have jsut past my driving test (woop) so I will be able to get out there more - still like 2/3 times a week - and I would like to ride him a bit once she is back at school(so like Mid Aug).
Now, he is being a bugger to catch. This only started when he went on working livery, and I thought he would grow out of it but he hasn't. And I don't think he will until he is on a sparce field (he is a fatty cob), and we take his little field mate away to another field(well other fenced off area.
So, dad tells me she is getting fed up of coming down and not being able to catch him, or its taking ages. Now I define onver 20-30 mins as ages. I am not sure how long it is taking her. Also the neighbours kid(also horsey)who she knows and rides with, it becoming rather bitchy and vindictive and she does like it (also a pain that she has all the jump poles as I gave them ours to use thinking they would be riding together - and I am too weak to ask for them back as they have now painted them!). She wants to move him up the road - about half a mile - to a rented field with a mate. She says she will pay livery(currently horse at my parents so no one pays rent - she pays for his feet to be trimmed every 6-8 weeks thats it).
Now, my issue is this. If he is at this field and she is paying livery I can't expect to ride him and not pay livery cos thats just shitty as its her wages that will pay it - not her parents. Also, if he is up there I can't take my daughter up as its next to the main road north - its busy and fast. Also, that would mean that I am having to work round yet more peoples schedules, and in the winter it will be like 5:30pm I get out there and dark. My parents have floodlights for our fields so I can ride at night.
And, shitty devil pony will be on his own. My dad thinks that will make him more catchable, I disagree as she doesnt care if he is on his own - as long as no humans are near him! But It is not fair so I would have to get another pony - OH did suggest another horse on loan I can ride but lets face it - who would loan a horse to someone who is 17st - answer - no one. And I already have a horse.
But.....my problem is that I don't want to come across as a whiney biatch. As I cant argue about having to walk up as she has to walk down - and further. I cant argue that I won't feel comfortable as well, she doesnt feel comfortable cos of bitchy neighbour teen. Basically we have the same reasons for wanting him different places. I have thought of offering that her mate could bring her horse down to ours - for free. BUT, we only have 1 stable. They have 3 up there (but already 3 horses and a pony).
My horse likes her and they go well together, so I don't want her to go, as lets face it - I need her to ride him as I cant do lots other than some schooling and hacking (I don't jump him cos of my weight). And, I've jsut spent £250 on fencing for the field to sort it out, and had she said she was considering moving, I would have left it as it was and never gotten devil pony as a companion.
Ugh......... I don't know what advice I need really - just some input from the wiser HHOers!
Contreau and Ammaretto cookies if you got this far.
