Should I ask her to pay?

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My horse died of colic just over a month ago. I washed his saddle cloths, rugs etc and left them at the yard. A livery has used my black saddle cloth and left it filthy. She also used my brand new white one which has also been left filthy and is now stained. I feel she should pay for a new white one and wash the black one for me. She is only 17 and has no money. To replace the saddle cloth will cost about £40 so I suspect her parents will have to get involved. I like my yard and don't want any fighting and unpleasantness but feel she should pay up. What does everyone think?

PS - there are only 2 liveries - her, me and the YO (who I co-own a horse with) and its her horses hair on the saddle cloth so no room for error!
 
No she didn't ask, she took them. I certainly would not have been letting her borrow a brand new expensive white saddle cloth that is now useless as it was specifically for shows.I can still use it for everyday use but I still need to fork out £40 for a new white one for shows. It upsets me that she took advantage of me not being at the yard due to my horse dying. I now have half a horse (I have bought a horse with the YO) which is why I am now out at the yard and found my saddle cloths!
 
I think you need to mention it to her, You could say. " I am quite upset that you used my saddlecloths without asking. The white one was kept especially for shows and now it will have to be replaced. Would you like me to ask your mother for the money or will you"? If she says she thought you wouldn't be needing it anymore, you can just tell her that she is wrong and repeat that it will have to be replaced. I wouldn't get into an argument as it is only a small yard, but if you haven't had the money in say a week, then I would say mention it calmly to her mother. Good luck x
 
Thanks. I am glad you don't all think me a horrid old hag asking a 17 year old to stump up and getting her into trouble with her parents (who I suspect will be very angry with her). Good tactic popsicle. She previously used a wintec saddle of mine without askng - taking it to pieces to fit a different headplate then not putting it together properly. This caused my horse to buck me off as it hurt his back. I had no proof that time but I told her someone had been interfering with my tack causing what could have ben a very nasty accident and she went white and looked very guilty. She hasn't touched my things again until now.
 
I would be upset that she used it without asking-especially as it is now damaged.

Had she asked to use it and stained it, I would still expect her to offer to buy another.

Sorry to hear about your horse BTW.
 
Have to say I would be livid that she had not only borrowed stuff and used it but also that she didn't have the respect to think that as it belonged to your recently lost horse you may also have a very sentimental reason for not wanting it used or ruined!!
Some people just can't see past their own wants and needs and have no regards for other peoples feeling or property
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honestly.....if she'd used something of my passed on horses I'd have pinned her to the nearest stable door in anger, it's bad enough that there's those out there who seem to feel they can borrow and take others things without any regard for feelings with what they do BUT to do it with the added insult that your horse died is IMO unforgivable, it's not something you can replace and it's up to YOU to decide if they get used again, not some thoughtless idiotic livery!

am very sorry about the loss of your neddy *hug*
 
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