Should I claim or just forget ? (Sharer)

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My friend (now ex friend) was looking for a horse to ride as she couldn't afford to take lessons or loan a horse. So, I said she could take out Niagara once a week on a thursday afternoon (her only afternoon free) and I asked for a small amount just to cover the cost of his shoes. And by small amount I mean 10e a month. She said she didn't have a penny and couldn't pay me (although she could buy herself booze,fags and new phones/clothes etc..). So I said she could ride him for free as she honestly did sound like she was broke.. in a way.

Anyway, She 'loaned' the horse for 6 months and then things started getting awkward so I basically let her understand the deal was off with my horse as I was fed up TBH.
And when I said that it was best for her to stop with the loan she snapped back 'Oh well I'm going to the riding school I've been having 2 lessons a week there'.

So this is the person that couldn't pay me 10e a month because she was so totally skint, but she can pay to take lessons at the riding school..
I think she is really taking the p*ss ..

Should I ask for some money towards his shoes as she said she was skint when in fact she could afford atleast 10e a month, or I should just forget about it?
 
I would forget about it and let it be a lesson. If someone can afford booze, they can afford 10e a month. In the end, she's lost out, as she no longer has your nice horse to ride and HAS to pay for the privalege.

How would you claim it back? Did you have a contract? It wouldn't be worth the hassle, IMHO.
 
She clearly took advantage, i'd cut your losses and dont be daft enought to forgive her, when i moved to my new yard, i kinda made friends with a couple of the younger girls there (mid - late teens) as they where kinda the only other people there at same times as me, and one's step sister couldnt afford to loan or have her own horse, so i kindly said she could ride mine, on the one day i couldnt get to the yard without it being an absolute pain in the a** and a made rush, it turned out, that they'd been charging to give lessons on my then 4 year old mare! and broke the tree on her saddle, spoke to citizens advice, in my mad ranting red rage mood, only to be told, technically nothing was formally in place, so end of ramble, dont let anyone ride you horse without something signed and firm in place! dont be afraid to sound mean, as ppl will take the p*ss outta your kindness x
 
Unfortunately I think you're gonna have to forget and let it go hun. She sounds like another one of those bloody pain in the rear paople who see no problem in taking those around them for a ride (excuse the pun!).

Learn from it and get a little tougher, sadly it's the only way to protect yourself. I have had people take the p*** so many times I am now a cynical old cow and am very careful and choosy about who I help. This has even extended to family members, but only because one has behaved this way too many times, even I'm not usually that harsh!!!

Remember.. shame on those who fool you once, shame on you if they do it twice.
 
What mishaspey and others said - best to get things in writing. It's your word against hers now and if she was going to be that much of a scrounging cowbag in the first place, there won't be any joy resulting now, especially not without a contract. You're rid of someone of dodgy character now. Foot down next time!

How are things with your YO?
 
Trust me she won't be coming back. What a great friend she was.
- Have spoke to the yard owner, He is going back into his old stable when they come in for the winter, He has promised to put a door on the tack room and there is a new livery coming in september so I won't be on my own :) (Finally - It's only been 3 years!)
 
Agree with others to try and forget it, you won't get it back off her, since she wouldn't give it you in the first place. Also wouldn't be worth bothering with the small claims court as you would have to pay and would still be unlikely to get it back. Must be quite annoying but at least it's not hundred's.
 
You have no case for claiming against her! You agreed that she wouldn't pay - the reason really doesn't matter.

Yes she took advantage of you and I can fully see why you're upset - but all you can do is get over it and move on, there isn't any kind of legal case here. Plus its only over 60e - not even worth getting worried about.
 
you were too nice and got walked all over dont give her the pleasure in saying no or telling you were to go.
Do you believe her ,maybe she said that just to hack you off two lessons a week, booze and fags add up quite a bit maybe she was winding you up
just if you do it again with someone charge the going rate, you get more respect then
 
With friends like that, who needs enemies, eh!! Cut your losses pet, and look forward. Have been there too, and because I love horses, and horse riding, I'm a total muppet when it comes to other people. I give of my horse to show "them" how fantastic it all is, usually for it to be thrown back at me. I taught pony camp this summer, and have had my faith restored. The "kids/teenagers" at camp were so thirsty for information, it was fantastic, and I had brought all my boots, bandages etc to show them, I had a set of brushing boots that i'd bought for my horse (that was PTS last nov), so hadn't been used, and gave them to one of the girls for her horse , as they fitted, and she came back the next day with a thank you card and a lotto ticket as thank you.
There are still nice people out there that appreciate your generosity, you just have to figure out who they are!!
 
niagaraduval said:
Trust me she won't be coming back. What a great friend she was.
- Have spoke to the yard owner, He is going back into his old stable when they come in for the winter, He has promised to put a door on the tack room and there is a new livery coming in september so I won't be on my own :) (Finally - It's only been 3 years!)
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Sounds like developments - good on you.
 
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