Should I give up work to be a horsey stay-at-home-mum?

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Ok, I know that seems as if it should be posted on netmums or something but I am looking at it from a horsey point of view.
I work PT, 2 days a week with young family. Although my job is very well paid, I am bored and having taken maternity leave, I have "missed the rung" on the promotion ladder.
I have wondered about giving up work as that would mean I could ride more when children is at nursery, at the moment I struggle to ride 4 times a week. It would make it much easier to go away for training etc.
BUT, I think I would miss work as I may get bored being home without using my brain so much, would having more horsey/me time make up for it? I would also miss the money a bit, as I would need to get from OH who doesn't always understand that horses cost money!
Has anyone other mums made this decision and did you enjoy it or live to regret it?
I would add that if I stopped work, I would not be able to rejoin it in later years due to the nature of it.
Any thoughts?
 
I suspect you will get bored and if 2 days fits around your kids then I would carry on. I've been working 3 days a week for the last 4 years and have recently been made redundant. So I have more time to clean the house, and shop etc and of course can ride our two horses in daylight whcih is great - BUT I am really missing going out and seeing/talking to people.

I would think carefully about giving up your job if you enjoy it and like the people you work with.
 
Stay at work, you will miss it and will definitely miss exercising your brain. You will miss the conversation too and of course the money. At least you have the best of both worlds as it is now!
 
I have literally just started back at work p/t 5 3 hour morning shifts after 6 years 'off' to have a family. I Love it!! I can still 'do' my horses and take the children to where they need to be. Sadly i have a few hours to do the house work (bummer!)
I would stick with what you are doing at the moment, staying at home with kids can be 'boring' in reality despite being 'great' on paper!!
 
not only do I think you would be bored but you would certainly miss the financial independance. You already said Oh doesn't always understand the horses cost money. I feel sure if he had to pay for EVERYTHING he would get a lot worse especially if you chose to give up work, He may even expect you got give up something that costs if you lose you wages (not saying he would mean to but mens brains seem to work that way when theyre not even meaning it too)
 
Am I the only one that thinks this sounds like my ideal life?! I don't have children, but this has always been my goal - to be a stay at home mum. Obviously I may feel differently when I do have kids.....
 
ahhhh wish i could quit work and stay at home/ride all day. i don't have a family but would just love to actually see my horses is daylight other than at the weekend, be able to hack out whenever and generally have time for everything. heaven!

I need to find myself a very rich land owner who can afford to keep me and my boys
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I didnt work after I got married, i dont have children though just horses!! But all my friends were at work and I had no one to ride with most of the time, my oh works away alot so it did get a bit boring, ive got a great part time job now and I love it
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I dont think id ever give up work totally again, well not till we retire!!
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I'm like Keltic, although I'm not married yet. I have no intention of having kids and every intention of enjoying my life. I gave up full time work to basically ride and do sports all day. I do BSJA, showing, running, triathlon and downhill mountain biking. I also run a few rental properties and do a bit of part-time lecturing. However I can get plenty of stimulation without the necessity of sitting in an office gossiping or making money for someone else's business. For instance, last month I went on trips to Hadrian's Wall and the Yorkshire Dales which was certainly a lot more stimulating than filling in forms and dictating. I've actually made more money since giving up my job and I certainly save plenty with not having to commute any more and buy awful officey clothes. And I was a solicitor, so not badly paid. OH is perfectly supportive. There are loads of people who don't have jobs, it doesn't mean you're lazy, it just means you can think outside the box.
 
Thanks everyone, seemed to be a one horse race to start ie work but a few latecomers came in at the end there!
Headless - interesting because I am in a simlar job to yours, know what you mean about not having to buy suits for work!
I think the key to my giving up my work is to try to come up with something I can still do at home, or ad-hoc that can get me out and about a bit and maybe earn some money. Would also get me away from the kids as well!
 
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