Should I say anything ??

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I share a field with a friend and everything works out well. We always look after each other's horse when on holiday or ill, take it in turns poo picking and we buy our hay together as whoever gets down the field first feeds them. This has always worked really well, but last year my friend bought 5 rabbits and decided to buy 5 bales of hay to last them the year. I know she takes much more hay as I see her most weeks with big bags full. Again this year she has bought 5 bales but will not keep them separate from the horses hay. We have paid £3 a bale and I really can't afford to subsidise her rabbits. I know if I ask her to keep them separate she will hit the roof. Would you say something and risk ruining a good relationship or say nothing?
 
I would say nothing myself, I know she seems to be being selfish but if you think she will really hits the roof you risk damaging the set up you have. It's rubbish that you have to pay for her rabbits but think how much it would cost or how much extra time it would take if you didn't have each other to check the horses etc. I always keep the people who check my horse on side, even if it means biting my tongue and paying over the odds at times.
 
I would say nothing myself. It may look like a lot of hay, but it's probably not that much in the scheme of things. I suppose you've got to weigh up the pro's and cons of the relationship - is it worth throwing away what you've got for the sake of a few bales of hay?
 
I totally agree with the above. If you think you will be in a much worse position if your friendship is ruined, then i would say nothing!

Or you could try and be subtle and say "god, our horses must be hungry the hay seems to be going down quicker?" Depends how clever she is and if you think she will catch on to what your getting at!
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Good luck hope things work out!
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Dont say owt - surely five rabbits cant eat that much ?? and if she is looking after your horse right enough I'd just leave it.

or..... accidently leave the rabbit cage door open - oh dear how heartbreaking - lol
 
If I understand this right it's costing you £3.00 a bale and she is helping herself to the horse hay. How much could she be using for the rabbits? Even if it is 10 bales a year, that would only be £30 a year. I know it's her rabbits and you shouldn't have to pay one pence for their feed, but if you fall out with her and she leaves, you will have to pay the rent for the field by yourself, all expenses by yourself and have no one to help you, which would be a lot more expenssive. Just getting someone in to check on the horses if you are holiday could be £7 an hour. So I'd say nothing.
 
depends if that the only thing thats bothering you!
i've just moved out of a set up i shared with a friend, too many little things were annoying me and it was spoiling my enjoyment of going to see my horses, stupid thing is it was me that invited her to share in the first place
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won't be making that mistake again
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Thanks everyone, perhaps I will say nothing but it does start to annoy you when she passes me with yet another bag load of hay and mentions that she is thinking of starting up a rabbit hotel !! Maybe then I will have to something.

Jellyshake, I am finding that one thing is beginning to lead to another....but it would be such a shame because we have such a nice set up.
 
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