should we sell or loan out???

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My step daughters 14.2 hasnt been ridden properly since October. I know its hard but we are not sure if she really deserves him. WIthout going into it she dosnt mind going and mucking him out after school, but on a weekend/school holidays she dosnt want to go to the yard like the rest of the kids and ride/groom/play about etc etc. When we went away after xmas (she was at mums) we left her money to get a taxi to the yard, she spent the lot on take aways, feeding her friends, and having her hair & nails done!!!! she didnt once in 17 days attempt to go to the yard. its only 2 short bus rides away!!!

so we are paying for a very expensive orniment. and her dad has now flipped and said get rid!

Are horses making a resonable price? or should we maybe loan him/share out till summer?

thanks
 
Without wanting to sound horrible- she sounds like she doesnt deserve the pony at all, why should she have it back when she decides she can be bothered??!

If its a nice pony and would be a good mount for a more grateful child I would sell it. Otherwise you run the risk of loaning and another child losing interest and then you end up looking for another home again!

If she decides in the future that she wants a horse again she will have to prove she will look after it r she knows the consequences!

Sorry if that sounds mean but I know so many bratty kids who pick up and put down their ponies. There are so many kids who spend all day looking after their neddies- they deserve them! :)
 
Is there any chance that she may have lost confidence riding him, if she is happy to muck out, but not so keen on riding? Perhaps she doesn't want to admit it?
 
blimey that sounds like my situation a few years ago except her dad didn't say get rid, in fact he said that i should keep looking after his daughters horse until she came round and saw sense!

i told my step daughter that she either stepped up to the responsibility or the horse goes, simple as that.
she replied (10 days after i gave the ultimatum) saying she loved the horse but didn't want the responsibility, in otherwords she was too lazy to get off her arse and do anything. the horse went back and my step daughter asked to come and say goodbye (4 months since she last bothered to see the hore) and i said not a hope in hells chance is she coming back to my yard.

her dad wasn't happy but supported my decision. i got slated off the family for taking things away from her but it was her choice. she only had to do the work on the weekends she was here and holidays but never bothered.

so personally no your step daughter doesn't deserve the pony, i'd find a nice home for it and move on, although you can give your step daughter the ultimatum as well and see if she steps up to the mark. at least you have your husband on side.
good luck whatever you do.
 
I would sell the pony to a great home that a child or small adult will appreciate, because by sounds of it she doesn't want to know the pony and she certainly can't pick up and put down as and when she feels like it, too many kids out there and adults alike would love to have an opportunity to have their own pony.

Sorry if that sounded bit harsh but when I was a child all I wanted to do was be at the stables all day long at that :)
(those were the days lol )
 
How old is she? I think there comes a point in a teens life (when they own ponies) that they either stay dedicated, or they want to spend their time with their friends and doing teen stuff. It happened to me, lost interest, loaned out my pony, ended up selling him. I got back into it, but at the time, I wanted to spend my time elsewhere.

I would sell the pony if she isn't interested anymore.
 
I would sell the pony. I had a break from horses in my teens - I had a lot on at school, a part time job and had started going out and having boyfriends etc. It did me no harm, and I came back to horses a couple of years later.

Sounds like her interests lie elsewhere at the moment.
 
Sorry, I'm another one saying sell. The pony might find a forever home where he is happy and getting all the attention he needs. Your daughter sounds like she has a lot of distractions at the moment so it might be best to let her go her own way for a while and pursue other interests. It would certainly cut down on the arguments at home!
 
Ask the girl! Say that you are paying a lot of money for the pony but aren't sure that she is getting that much benefit anymore. Ask her if she wants more lessons/more free time/to take up violin/someone to look after her in the dark at the yard and so forth.

I barely ever got to ride as a child as we didn't have money for transport (tube/bus) to a yard let alone a pony. But that doesn't mean I have to take a harsh view of those lucky enough to have parents that can give them those things. There were plenty of things I tried/loved/went off/went back to and so forth. It is normal.
 
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