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I'm so sorry for your loss. It is heartbreaking but is totally fine to be all snotty. There are lots of whys but you made informed decisions at each stage and you couldn't have done more than that. It is totally OK to be self-indulgent and pathetic too (not that you are but it is OK to feel it). Look after yourself but be sad as long as you need to be. Thinking of you x
 
I know you say he wasn’t warm and comfortable in his bed at the end, but I know when my dog feels a bit under the weather he far prefers to go and lie in the garden, even in the rain. He just takes in the air, the sounds and smells and seems more peaceful and calm than in the house. Maybe your dog was doing the same. Maybe the wind and rain and fresh air was what he needed. I don’t think it’s unusual for dogs to take themselves away from their families when ill, so please please don’t beat yourself up about that, it was his choice, maybe doing what felt most natural to him. Huge hugs and love to you from me and my lad (who has been under the weather today and was choosing to lie outside in the storm).
 
I’m so sorry for your loss, what a horrible shock for you. But you need to be kind to yourself, I believe that you have posted about your boy’s extensive health problems before. He was a very lucky chap to end up with you, without your care he wouldn’t have had such a good life or lasted nearly as long as he did.
 
I am so sorry. What a terrible shock. Bless him he was probably just doing what he wanted to do. Don't say you are being pathetic - grief is awful and unexpected grief must be worse. When we make the call we have usually had time to come to terms with it and prepare, even then it hurts so much. He was obviously very loved and he was certainly very beautiful. Thinking of you x
 
So sorry for your loss. Please don't second guess yourself. You did your best using the information available to you. Most of us would have done the same. I have Rotties too & agree that they sometimes seem to prefer being outside even if it's (to us) cold & wet. They don't seem to notice.
 
I’m so sorry for your terrible loss. I lost my boy in November, he was 14 so not unexpected, he had a fall, took to his bed and wouldn’t get up again and we took him to the vets to be pts the following morning, he wasn’t stressed and it was as good as it could be.

The next day I completely fell apart, I’m sure it was shock. Luckily for me I had a day on my own to process my feelings a bit, I went and hugged my horses, walked the other dogs and generally bawled my eyes out all day. I couldn’t believe he had gone.

Big, big hugs for you.
 
Thank you everyone. Your messages have really helped. His vet called me today, she was also very shocked that he went so quickly. His dog walker was also in tears. I've put away his bowls and treats but can't bear to move the beds. With this weather and the fact that he was a slobber chops, they need washing (as always!) and it feels too much like clearing him away right now.

Tomorrow I've got to talk to (and pay) the crematorium as they came out as an OOH emergency today. I've never had any of my animals ashes back but I think I'll get his back as part of the package. I'm not sure how I feel about that but thinking of getting a huge pot and putting some ashes in there and growing strawberries or blueberries. He always robbed any I grew just as they got ripe :) and was very pleased with himself in doing so...
 
cbmcts said:
Thank you everyone. Your messages have really helped. His vet called me today, she was also very shocked that he went so quickly. His dog walker was also in tears. I've put away his bowls and treats but can't bear to move the beds. With this weather and the fact that he was a slobber chops, they need washing (as always!) and it feels too much like clearing him away right now.

Tomorrow I've got to talk to (and pay) the crematorium as they came out as an OOH emergency today. I've never had any of my animals ashes back but I think I'll get his back as part of the package. I'm not sure how I feel about that but thinking of getting a huge pot and putting some ashes in there and growing strawberries or blueberries. He always robbed any I grew just as they got ripe :) and was very pleased with himself in doing so...
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My dog killed two trees in the years we had him by peeing on them (all our other dogs were bitches so can’t blame them), so I am thinking of buying the same type of tree and planting it as a memory.

The day he died I took his collar outside and hung it in a tree, it made sense to me at the time but I don’t think Finn approved as he didn’t like having his collar off and we both heard such loud odd bangs and noises in our tiny one level open plan homethe night the collar was outside. I also felt him bang the back of my calf with his nose the day after he’d died, but he has gone now and I miss him a lot.
 
Tiddlypom said:
We left the late JRTs various beds in situ after he’d gone. He had a choice of beds in both the sitting room and the kitchen, so we could always pretend he was just in the other room...

Mind you we only lasted 3 days before getting another dog.
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I must say that I have always felt that the best way to fill the gap is to get another dog asap. Of course last time, when we lost R, we got the pups to take her sister's mind of her loss.;):oops:
 
I am so so sorry to hear this , such a sad loss but I'm going to echo others in that it is better that he went so quickly at home, in a place he loved and he knew you were there and that you loved him too. My last cat died totally on his own in the dark at the vets with nobody there at all and I can't express how much this hurt me and my OH and still does . Just so wrong, and I would spare anyone who loves their animals this sort of guilt and pain. Massive hugs to you cbmcts, we all share your loss on here. xxxxxxxxx,
 
Shady said:
I am so so sorry to hear this , such a sad loss but I'm going to echo others in that it is better that he went so quickly at home, in a place he loved and he knew you were there and that you loved him too. My last cat died totally on his own in the dark at the vets with nobody there at all and I can't express how much this hurt me and my OH and still does . Just so wrong, and I would spare anyone who loves their animals this sort of guilt and pain. Massive hugs to you cbmcts, we all share your loss on here. xxxxxxxxx,
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I agree, I had to have a nervous cat pts at the vets, following tests that I left her there for, I couldn't get to her because the area was flooded and vet advised that pts was urgent. I have always regretted leaving her there.
 
I'm sorry for your loss. We had Spot's ashes returned to us after she was pts in May. We haven't scattered them yet but plan to do that when the weather improves (and I can bear to say a proper goodbye). We clipped a little fur from her after she passed and we put a small amount of it in a barrel that Peril has attached to her collar. When Peril is belting around the countryside at 100mph, Spot is with her, encouraging her to roll in fox poo and behave badly. ❤️?
 
This is such sad news. You were both very lucky to have each other. Please don't feel bad about what happened, there is no possible way you could have known. I think to go on one's own in the clear air of the garden of a house you loved, near to one you love, in the quiet of a dark night, is no bad thing. It's certainly something I would choose for myself.

It is so difficult for those who are left behind. The love you had for him shines through your posts. I am so sorry.
 
I've spoken to the crematorium today and his ashes will be back in a week or so, along with a pawprint. The house feels so empty and I've had to unlock the dog flap as it felt so wrong to have it shut - how daft is that?? I'm still looking for him everywhere, going to feed him in the mornings and yesterday, while working at home didn't realise that it was 7:30 because dinner time was 6pm and from 5:30 onwards, if I twitched I had a big dog plonking himself beside me in anticipation. By 5:55 I would have a nose under my elbow sending the mouse or coffee skyward...I also lost it today when I was prepping veg and there was no dog bowl to put the peelings and scrap into. The food waste bins are going to get fuller quicker. I'm never going to have to retrieve a teatowel from the garden, push food to the back of the counter/table, dial into a meeting or have a work phone call with a big dog on my lap and have to apologise for the heavy breathing again. I'm going to have to clean the floors myself and hoovering is going to be very boring without a dog begging to be hoovered everytime the wand was taken out to do the stairs or under the furniture. Only last week, he was convinced that if he kept his eyes closed, I couldn't see him sliding up the sofa to lie on me and when I asked him what he was doing, his tail wagged and he kept crawling. Rationally I know that we all have to go through this as animals never live long enough and I've lost many animals over the years but this one has absolutely flattened me.

I know what you mean about getting another dog and in the past, one has always come along but it's not the right time at the moment - we're away for 2 weeks at the end of March and while my dog walker would have moved in for Sam, that's not a great idea with a new dog. Also, I promised myself that my next dog would be a pup after a few challenging rescues (didn't expect to have to look for a pup for a fair few years yet though) and really not in a position that we could do right by a puppy at the moment. In fairness, I have to think of my OH too - this dog was a real challenge for him and while he loved him too, he is not and tbh, will never really be an animal person. He would never say no to me if I did get another dog(s) but as I said on a post here not that long ago, that I probably shouldn't take on such a difficult dog in the future even if the difficult part was only the first year/18 months. I'm desperately trying to be sensible and grown up here, but really, who am I kidding? Thank you again for all your kind words and listening to my demented ramblings.
 
Oh what a huge shock. You must have been beside yourself. I can imagine what a hole he has left and can appreciate how much it hurts. Take care of yourself, enjoy the memories and do whatever you need to help you get along. XX
 
Your last post shows how loved he was and what a wonderful life you and he had together. It's the hardest thing to say goodbye but what wonderful memories you have of him even though just now they must all be rather bitter.
The right dog who needs you will come along just when you aren't looking
 
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