So annoyed!

[sylvapak]

Today has just got better and better

Had a two hour exam on equine anatomy and physiology this morning... and it could have gone far better.

Got told that we had no chance of winning if we appealed on our assignment.

Had a jumping lesson at college...We were supposed to be doing a fun mini puissance with david hamen, our last from him for a while... but it turned out we had our new instructor... so i decided to choose what i thought was a fairly quiet horse that probably had no jumping ability but at least i would have some control over the beast... however, i hadn't heard about the fact he thinks hes jumping the puissance even over a 2 ft jump... wasn't expecting a take off in the middle of the trotting poles

didnt fall off anyway, and did an amazing save after i lost both stirrups in mid air... then bombing round the school. i really must have been slightly shocking today! just couldnt get it right

anyway got home to find out my horse is bloody lame! Got kicked by one of the new mares

my mum had some story that was different each time she told me
" her fetlock is quite swollen"
" Is it massively swollen?"
"no its not swolen at all"

"She is holding her leg up"
"is she limping on it?"
"yeah but she was fine to walk back to her stable"

"the vet had a look and its not broken"
yeah but there could have been other damage than a broken bone...

"he gave me some bute to put in he food but she wouldnt eat it"

so confused and angry! so i decided to go down and have a look at her

got to her stable she was hunched up in the corner holding her leg up looking very sorry for herself.

looked at her feed bucket and it was filled to the brim with food... how many times i have tried to drum into mother that too much food will cause behaviour problems etc etc... in a 6 yo TB mare! especially if i have limited time to work her.

Anyway got over to her and her leg was shaking! and she was sweating.

no swelling or heat below her hock so took my hand up her stifle... under her rug... it was boiling... pulled my hand out and it was covered in blood quickly pulled her rug off and a nice perfect bloody hoof mark was staring right at me. Went mad! how did the vet not see this? So called him over (his practice is the other side of the courtyard)

"oh yes" he said
*pause*
"what would you like me to do?"
"i dont know your the vet"

anyway he gave her two injections and she did seem a lot happier... he told me not to bathe it or anything? anyway i will see how she is in the morning.... he tells me it will be swollen like a balloon but the only way to get rid of it is for her to be tuned out and to walk about. oh and to hot and cold compress it tomorow. have a nice £55 bill now... but he did kindly take off the call out and examination fee as he only had to take about 20 drunken steps to belles stable

anyway rant and rave over... mother needs a few lessons taught i think... im the one that ends up picking up the pieces after her daftness.

must go before i end up with a few more things to rant about... resulting in missing the puissance!

well done if you have read this far! :

xxx

 

[Jemayni]

God that sounds pants! Hope she is OK in the morning, and if it makes you feel any better, my emergency call out is £85 and thats just to get the vet there! Hope your feeling better after the puissance, it was good tele!

 

[Helenabbey]

To be fair to your mum, she was trying to help by getting the vet and feeding your horse was she not?

 

[Tia]

Is your Mother non-horsey? If she is then I think she did very well to be quite honest. I feel sorry for her and if you were my daughter I would be mortified to find a post like this about me, written by my own daughter, on view to the whole world.

If I was her and I had bought the horse for you.......it would be on the market first thing tomorrow morning, and if you bought it then I would be asking you to vacate the premises.

Sorry to sound harsh but, to me, your post makes you sound totally disrespectful of your Mother.

 

[piebaldsparkle]

Hope your horse and you are feeling a bit better today. Bad days happen, but don't be too hard on your mum, I'm sure she was doing her best. You are very lucky to have a parent that will go to the yard - mine wouldn't, not even for an emergency.

 

[showjump2003]

Sounds like your mum did the right thing. She got the vet out not her fault that he missed something.

I have non horsey parents that have taken on the full care of my two horses whilst I'm away at uni. They have had to learn alot along the way and alsthough I might be a little upset if something like this happened, I wouldn't be quite so vocal about it as if it wasn't for my parents I wouldn't still have my horses.

 

[Marbs]

Strange that the vet would miss it, would have thought he'd want to look at the whole leg straight off. Although, you can hardly blame your mother. In all fairness, for someone that is made to sound not very up on horses ("needs a few lesson taught") she's not only very brave for taking yours on (mine are too scared and wouldn't do anything even if there was something dire wrong) when you're busy, but it sounds like she tries hard to look after her as best she can. To be fair, if you really do think she's daft then perhaps you shouldn't leave her to care for your horse. It's good that she called the vet, I hope your horse is feeling better soon and her leg's on the mend.

 

[glenruby]

My non horsey parents often overfed my ponies or forgot to turn them out, left the stable rug on when they turned them into the muddy field. They were doing me a massive favour - how could I give out about them for it? I Think its mighty unfair of you to give out about your mother like that, especially in this very public manner. You really should be ashamed of yourself.

 

[sylvapak]

no i was just frustrated that what she was telling me made no sense... i really do appreciate what she does but was just fed up of the end of the day and needed a rant. and what i meant by mother needs a few lessons taught is that i just want her to understand the way i see things... working for kitty has made me quite perticular... we're both as stubborn as each other.

As for belle... she is 10x better today. Not feeling so sorry for herself very stiff but thats to be expected but she is putting weight on it and even caught her resting her other leg. Cuts etc are healing up nicely still a fair bit of heat tho especially once i had walked her back from her field.

Hope you all understand...?

 

[barkinghorse]

How rude of you to disrespect your own mother on an open forum!
Think yourself lucky she had the sense to call the vet in the first place.
I know many parents who wouldn't go to all that trouble, and at least she gave your horse some food!
If i was you i would be making up to your mum and THANKING her, not slating her, she tried to do her best god bless her.
Jo

 

[sylvapak]

she didnt actually call the vet... he was wondering around the yard.

and she went against what i had said about the two mares being in fields next to each other and just put them in together.

also none of you understand how my mum has treated me in the past... fair enough i see what you are all trying to say but it must be said that i have never had a fantastic rellationship with her... and some of the things she has done to me are far worse than this... and no i am not looking for revenge... i don't want to argue with you all.

can anyone see where i am coming from?

 

[henryhorn]

I hope for your Mum's sake she never sees this post, as I'm sure she would be rather upset.
Think yourself lucky she is interested enough to attempt to help, and I suggest you buy her a bunch of flowers as an apology for your ungrateful behaviour.
Speaking as someone who has seen lots of injuries it's always wisest not to be too definite in what the diagnosis is immediately but to view injuries as they develop before stating exactly what they are.
You sound as if you are aiming for an equine career, I think you need to start thinking before you speak or it won't last very long qualifications or not!
Arrogance is the least favoured trait in employees and I'm sorry, you need to come off your high horse a little, just because you're training doesn't mean you know the lot..like most people I am still learning after working with horses for years, please be a little gentler with your Mum, she did her best I'm sure.

 

[sylvapak]

when did i diagnose what the injury is? i never said exactly what it was... all i said was what i could see and feel

yes i am aiming for an equine career...
i truly do believe i know very little...
and no one could ever know everything anyway

if you met me you would see that i am hardly arrogant... and that i am a complicated person to understand

can we not just accept that yesterday was a bad day and i was mainly upset and frustrated about belles injury. I didnt intend for this post to be aimed at my mum. we all make mistakes?

 

[barkinghorse]

Ok i for one will call a truce with you, you had a bad day, like we all do and came on here to vent.
Mothers can be pains and sometimes it feels like they actually do things to wind us up even if thats not the case.
Glad today has been better for you, and i wish belle a speedy recovery.
Jo

 

[sylvapak]

thank you

 

[henryhorn]

No, the impression you gave me was that you felt your Mum should have ben able to say more accurately what the injury was, when by the sound of it she was being prudent just telling you the vet had examined the horse.
It's a fact of life horses hurt themselves, even when on their own in so called safe fields, you need to calm down and accept that sometimes things happen and deal with it professionally. I bet kitty whatsit doesn't go off on one if her horse injures itself! professional riders tend to be calm despite being in knots inside.
Yes it is horrible when they get hurt but getting worked up is the very last thing you need to do if you want to work in the industry. Think of the most impressive
vet you have met, they tend to be calm and cool under pressure.
I accept you had a bad day and probably regret what you said and did, but I'm afraid you did come over as arrogant and disrespectful. making the excuse you are complicated doesn't wash I'm afraid.
And I still think you owe your Mum an apology..

 

[sylvapak]

I agree with everything you said. Belle is very precious to me and i have managed to change her so much in a year... more than i thought possible. And i dont want anyhing to harm her... would love to be able to wrap her up in cotton wool all day.

But as for your opinion of me that is up to you but you really dont know me... So i am sure we will never agree here.

This post was mainly about belle and i didnt intend to make it sound like i was having a dig about my mum... etc etc.

 

[Tia]

You don't have to apologise to any of us, we bare no grudges, it's your Mum you need to apologise to.

 

[Fairynuff]

If I was your mum I wouldnt touch one of your horses. If you dont like how she is trying to help you,DO IT ALL YOUR BLOODY SELF!! To work with other people AND animals you will have to change your attitude-quickly. Mairi.

 

[siennamiller]

I am not condoning OP behaviour towards her mother or agreeing however I think maybe some of you are being a bit harsh. OP was understandably worried about her horse and however novicey her mum is maybe if she had been told to do something by someone more experienced than her she should just follow instructions?
belles_mum, why don't you make up the next few feeds for your horse (labelled with days and am or pm) so that if she or someone else has to feed her then they can't really make a mistake? Thats what we do at our yard
hope your horse is better soon