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Ahrena

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I've been pondering buying a baby for a while now, and an advert for a 2 year old coloured cropped up and i fell rather head over heels.

Seller sent me loads of photos and videos and she lookederfect and exactly the type of horse i wanted. Aways secretly harboured after a coloured too so that was a bonus!

Unfortunately she is well over 200 miles from us, so we decided to hsve her vetted then go up in lorry to see her and take her home if all was well in one trip.

Seller promised he would keep her for us until after the vetting. Just had a call to say he'd sold her :( :(

If i knew that was on the cards we'd of made the 2 trips and put a deposit subject to vetting!

I know at the end of the day, its whoever pays up first but still gutted he specially said he wouldn't sell her before we saw her as he thought it'd be awful if someone did that!

I didn't say a lot on the phone as was gutted but really want to send him an email complaining now :(
 
That's a b*mmer Ahrena! Such a difficult situation when buying. Really feel for you - but nothing you can do except think of it as Fate and you are meant to have someone different - hopefully one day you WILL think that about a new youngster.
 
I know, trying to tell myself that already! Just gutted as would of gone up yesterday had i known he would sell her anyway.

Why can't people just be honest? I would of understood if he said I'm sorry but without a deposit I can't promise to keep her for you until after vetting, in which case we'd of made a trip to see her yesterday, but he was adamant he'd hold her for us.

Bah humbug!
 
Let put this in easy terms..his job to sell his horse. your job to buy a horse. phone calls promises mean NOTHING , a firm buyer with money means His job done. Just because you could not be arsed to travel don't blame the guy for doing what he had set out to do. he has already spent time & money on a advert which has only so much self life plus the cost of keep for the horse each week. If a buyer comes along YOU SELL.If you wont to buy a horse go and see it and if it is the one put a deposit down. if you don't and the horse is any good someone else will. Dont blame the guy just because you wanted to do things the easy way .
 
Okay, absolutely no need to be so harsh or so rude!

As previously stated, we would of travelled if he had not promised us she would not of been sold.

I have also already acknowledged that I realise it is within his rights to do so, but that does not mean I cannot be disappointed or upset that the promise did not fall through.

Not so much that fact that I can't be 'arsed' but unfortunately I have to work and unfortunately diesel is very expensive so when someone promises you they won't sell a horse until its been vetted, one may be inclined to be trusting.

This is obviously a post wanting a little sympathy, so no need to kick someone when they're down, given I have already acknowledged it was within his rights to do so.

Why make promises if you aren't willing to follow them through?
 
I agree with Stateside the seller hasn't got a clue if you are a decent human being who will keep to their word. My guess is he probably thought you were a timewaster!!!!! You can't blame him at all for selling. However it is still a bummer when you are genuine :-( it's unfortunately all the dishonest idiots that spoil it for the rest of us. I'm sure you will find another neddie
 
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Do agree obviously he couldn't be sure he had a sale with us, although he must of known we were genuine given the vetting was booked.

I just don't understand why people promise things thry have no intentions of keeping? If he had said he would sell if someone came before, I would of thought ok fair enough, and gotten there sooner or been prepared.

P.s. Thank you for the nicer wording ;)

Oh and can someone stop me murdering my darling mother who is currently ranting in my ear how we will NOT buy anything other than coloured because bays are boring??? I want a blooming future eventer not a CHAPS showing star. Coloured was a bonus.

Sorry, bit cross!
 
Dont murder your mum! Inconvenient paperwork ;)

You sound like a sensible kind of person so I am sure colour is NOT going to be your primary motive! (unlike me who bought a foal just because he looked SOOOO cute!!! with big brown & white patches)

It's Fate. All will work out. xx
 
OP - I am sorry you have been left very disappointed. However, I have now given up being surprised by buyers who think that a seller will wait for a potential sale. You have to put yourself in the seller's shoes, especially in the current financial and horse selling climate! A bird in the hand is a very old saying and should be taken on board by all potential purchasers and sellers!

I saw the advert for my current mare on a Friday morning, called seller immediately, drove 4 hours (each way) with two young children to see the mare by 12am Saturday morning, left a substantial deposit immediately, had vetting done and dusted by Thursday evening (only held up that long because vet was too busy!) and had paid remainder and organised delivery by Friday lunchtime. If you do not want to be disapointed to HAVE to be ready to move on a sale immediately. Obviously you should not make a rushed or rash decision but if the horse is right and sound then pussy footing around will lead to disappointment!
 
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If you snooze you lose!

It was not meant to be - keep looking and regardless of how far away - go and see the horse.

My Clydesdale I bought as a weanling - saw the ad, phoned and made an appointment for next morning, arrived after a two hour journey, viewed the horse and paid for it. Seller said I was lucky I phoned so early the phone had been ringing off the hook since my call. I have my darling still - she's nearly 10 now.
 
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Totally agree with selling tothe first person who comes, it's the why promise you'll wait - seriously, i specifically asked him about this as otherwise would of gone right up, and he had a hoe speech saying he wouldn't dream of selling before the vetting as he knew how disappointing it would be! And he sounded so genuine.

Literially if not for that I'd of been there yesterday.

Blah. Had a scout around and literally seen nothing I like. Bah.

You know, I really really do understand horse's aren't shifting ATM so fair enough, sell to the first person who hands the money over, it's just the lying that's upset me, I'd of come sooner if he hadn't insisted he wouldn't sell her until she was vetted (fri lunchtime and we were gonna be there fri afternoon)
 
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Maybe he knew it would fail the vetting ?
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Just what I was thinking, If the seller knew the vetting was booked, he could be pretty sure that he had a buyer if the youngster passed the vetting. It sounds as if the actual buyer didn't have it vetted.
I was once dealing with a woman I had bought from before, she was too busy with a show at the yard to show me the cob I was interested in but her OH took me across the land (huge place) to see the mare, showed me loads of his other stock and made an arrangement for us to go back during the week. Then I got a message to say that the woman's brother had sold the horse from the field. I was rather miffed although woman was very apologetic. I later learned that the buyers were extremely novice and sold the horse on as it was too much for them to handle but by that time I'd bought my Westphalian, who I'd first seen advertised a year before but her buyers had found that she was too much for them (sorry getting complicated here).
The point of this rambling being - don't worry, as my late mum used to say 'everything happens for a reason'. I'm sure you'll find the perfect horse and then you'll be glad that you didn't buy this youngster.
 
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Aha more positive post!

I've actually just found another I really like, literally round the corner from me with better breeding. And coloured so will make my mum happy if he's the right one (and I would prefer a gelding).

I am a big believer of fate but can be difficult to see it if you have your hopes up about something :)

Lesson learnt anyway - don't take anyone's word and if I like a youngster, go see it right away!
as it's late I just text owner if still available which he is and arranged to phone to tomorrow and then if possible see him later tomorrow.
 
I have been on either side but still give first dibs to the home I think is right. Had a games pony that a team were coming to look at, a lady phoned wanted her for her daughter etc could she come first. I said no I had made an arrangement and that I would call them after they had been. Turns out she wasnt fast enough for open so they wanted to come the following evening. Waited two hours and they never turned up, never rang, never text me. Luckily found someone two weeks later and she loves her.
Our most recent one we went and saw three times before we decided , i told seller that if anybody else came up then fine but I wasnt going to rush but she wanted us to have him . My son fell for him and although she lost a £1000 on him in five months is very happy that he is settled with us .
 
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