So frustrated with a dog that Hates me!

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Hi all! Hoping you can give me some advice!

We have taken on another chi from a friend as she didn't get on with previous owners life style and we could offer her a more suitable home. She is a sweet little gremlin but she is petrified of me! She frustrates me so much as I have been working loads with her and today she ran in tail wagging and jumped on my lap, I let her sit there for 10 minutes and then gently stroked her, she was fine for 3 strokes and then all of a sudden got up yelping and ran out leaving a trail of pee. I ignore her mainly but will randomly offer her calming food (dairy etc) and I'm never loud or move quickly around her so I'm un sure of how to move forward with this!

Just a little disclaimer that she has had a trauma in her past with a bloke beating Crap out of her but she was rehomed through family so not because she is an issue!

And another update is wolf dog isn't coming, oh's security dog has come to live at home due to medical reasons and we think he will be beat off working and living at home. Two dogs would of not got on!
 
My advice would be give her time. How long have you had her?

I know it can be hard when all your doing is showing her kindness but she is obviously nervous as you have said. Feed her, talk to her and show her kindness.

She will need lots of time and patience but I think fom experience that she probably feels totally overwhelmed and maybe is feeling a little pressured?

How does she react on walks and will she play with a toy? Something she will enjoy?

Sorry if its everything you know and have done already. Good luck with her :)
 
Dont force the issue, let her come to you, if she is asleep in her bed leave her there. See if she will play with a toy but again dont force her if she isnt interested. Put down a little piece of tasty food near you to encourage to come to you but dont attempt to touch her. I would certainly take my time with her, it sounds like she has had a rough time. One other thing, do you move quickly? some dogs can find this very unsettling so I would slow everything down.
 
Have you had her checked over by a vet for pain? Just wonder if she has been beaten and she's such a tiny thing that maybe she has a damaged rib or something and that may be why she yelped when you stroked her and is worried about being touched?
 
Time is what she needs and patience. Lots of both. Don't try to win her over let her work it out. It is frustrating but so rewarding when it finally comes together. I always reckon that 2nd hand dogs take a year to become the dog you hoped you were getting. I have an Italian Greyhound with similar issues as yours and she has definitely been a 2 year dog! However she has been worth the wait.

Good luck with her. Do you have any pictures of the little soul?
 
I will post some pictures later for you :)

She has been vet checked all over and spayed etc after her previous life, before She came to us :)
 
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