Middle class isn't bad at all, it's something a lot of people strive for. I am currently working towards owning my own home, which is considered a very middle class thing to do. But traditionally, class is associated with money which I never seemed to have much of either growing up, or when mum moved away my salary went on rent & commuting costs and saving wasn't ever in question because I never had the money to do so! I think children from middle class families are taught to save and the value of home owning. I was never taught to save, I saw my mum living pay check to pay check, don't get me wrong we had a nice life, mum prioritised experiences and clubs for us (Brownies / swimming / riding lessons) and Christmas was always magical, but rent may have been late or other bills not paid. I remember in 2008 when there was a recession and I thought to my self well it doesn't matter if prices go up because I'll always be poor anyway. I was 16!! And had that mindset!!
But then I guess we enjoyed these hobbies and went to a CofE primary school in the first place and were mixing with others who were middle class means we could be considered middle class whether my mum had the money to afford these hobbies or not.
When someone pigeon holes me to a category I would never consider myself, I'm a bit like, with all factors in mind i.e. able to save for a house (I would have never dreamt of this pre-pandemic), owning my own horse, good job etc I think how the bloody hell have I ended up here?? Bit of imposter syndrome I think and lack of confidence to be like wow I am doing well and finally getting my life together etc.
What I didn't like was someone calling me middle class just because they saw a pic of the horse and made assumptions and I was a bit taken aback because I know my background, and the person who said it doesn't.