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I currently have a horse called Summer, bought her as a rescue in hope she would stay reletivly quiet once back to health and has proved to be way too much for my riding capabilities... unfortunatly i have absolutly fell in love with her and could not be parted with her. I now am craving for a horse that I can actually take to shows and hack around and generally have fun on! But the problem is I can only realisticly afford to keep one... I could never sell Summer and would never regret buying her, just think its time I had some fun and not pay for a big pet! I can not decide on my dilemma... Summer is ridden by Lee-ann who comes up on the weekends to ride, she loves her too and would be devistated if I sold her or put her on loan to someone else... but putting her on full loan at my yard to keep an eye on her seems the only option for me to be able to get another horse... But unfortunatly Lee-ann can not take her on full loan herself so I would have to advertise for a 'loanee' and this would stop lee-ann from riding her at weekends... and i would feel bad on lee-ann because she has helped me for the past 2 years
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HELP give me a solution haha thanks for reading x
 
You either want to keep her and not ride or you want a different horse. Make up your mind as you obviously cant have both.
 
try to get a loaner/sharer who will keep her at your yard. there's no reason why she couldn't be ridden twice a day at weekends if they both wanted to ride. you owe it to yourself to have a horse that you can have some fun with.
 
Just an idea - what about putting her on working livery at a riding school - would she be calm enough then for you to take her out and your friend could still ride her? Alternativily, your friend could still ride her at the weekends and you could get something else.
 
I know... if I found someone to have her on full livery, im not sure if they would like the idea of letting lee-ann still ride her on weekends when they are paying for everything etc. I suppose I could mention that in the advert and see who replys... it still makes me nervous the thought of putting her out on full livery haha it feels like a end to something even though shes still going to be mine!
 
I am guessing that Lee-ann is a friend of yours. Surely she would understand. Does she contribute financially at all? You could look at finding a sharer to share with Lee-ann and they can each pay half. If she can't pay anything then I think if you want a horse for you then you should get a full loaner. I know that she has helped you, but she has also been riding for free and can you not let her ride your new horse?
 
No Lee-ann does not does not contribute financially, but rides her for me and buys her odd things now and then... and also looks after her if i go on holiday etc. I mentioned something about getting a new horse the other day and she said I would be devastated if you put Summer out on full loan... then she asked how much it is to keep her, but I just dont think she can afford it or have time because she has a 2yr old boy and a full time job. Someone said to me could the new person who loans Summer not let Lee-ann ride Summer once a week, but I dont know if this is too much to ask. She could ride my new horse and probably will but I think she just does not want to part with Summer as she loves her too! I just feel terrible stopping her after its become a routine for the past 2 years
 
I don't want to sound horrible but if Lee-ann doesn't contribute financially then she has no say at all in what happens. I'm afraid I think she's trying to blackmail you emotionally a little bit too..."I'd be devastated if you put her out on loan to someone else"... and all that. Tell her in that case she can take her on full loan or you will have to find someone else.

I know it sounds harsh but you are not a charity. I put a horse I adored out on full loan nearly 2 years; I had said I would never sell him and couldn't be parted with him. Within 6 months I was wishing I'd sold in the first place and as luck would have it, the loaners got the money together and bought him last month. Once they've been gone a couple of months and you have a new horse, they're a little "out of sight, out of mind".

Personally I would put her out on loan with a view to buy. I wouldn't have sold my boy to just anyone but he'd been with his loaners for nearly 2 years when they bought him so I know they will look after him and love him, so it was the best thing. Seriously think about LWVTB and get yourself something else. I'm sure your friend will love your new horse just as much as your current one.
 
Just wonder what you mean about her being too much for your riding capabilities. Would you not think about perhaps having some lessons at your yard to see if you could perhaps figure it out.If she is badly behaved, then possibly having her professionaly re-schooled. Then perhaps you could have the nice riding horse you want.
I too agree that lee-ann can't be your main consideration. you are paying to have a horse for her to ride, that you don't yourself. I am sure she must understand that you are sacrificing your enjoyment, so she can have the horse that is ideal for her.
I bet she is not that much of a beeter rider than you.
 
Yes Lee-ann is a much better rider than me, she has owned lots of show-jumping horses when she lived in africa... and has experience in all sorts, where as Summer is my first horse... I took the chance that if she turned out to not be suitable for me to ride I would use her as a brood mare but unfortunatly she lost her last foal a few months into pregnancy... so I really dont want to put her through that stress again even if she could still have foals again.

I can ride Summer in the school but with her having slight problems in her front legs (slight navicular and other arthritis starting) I can not learn on her because she can not do too much, maybe could have 1 lesson a week but I wouldnt be able to go to shows or jump her as much as I would like to, we like to keep her jumping down to a very minimum.

Baisicly Summer hacks out once a week, very easy going with only a few canters... and maybe ridden at most 2 times a week in the school for about 30 mins each time and nothing strenuous. This is because she has leg problems and is about 16-20 years old now.

Its not only that she is too much of a head strong fizzy chestnut mare that can have a mind of her own its the fact she can not do too much work, which would limit me.
 
just to say i doubt you'll find someone to take her on full loan and let lee-ann ride her as well, i certainly wouldnt

also it might be hard to find someone to take her on loan given her age, headstrong-ness (lol) and navicular etc

i certainly wouldnt be selling her on with her health problems at her age

can lee-ann contributr half of her keep to you to help her out and make it more official?
 
The only thing I could think of to suggest is couldn't you try getting a sharer for the 5 week days then your friend who is riding her atm have her on the weekends?
You could get the sharer in the week to pay for her rent and say to your friend could she buy her hard feed in exchange for her riding her on the weekends? that way you've got a sharer that's going to ride and look after her 5 days a week and pay your stable rent and your current friend still gets to ride her but has to buy her hard feed that wouldn't be too costly for her surely?!!!

Then you could see about the sharer and your friend splitting the cost of her shoe's between them and then your just left with hay/insurance vets bills etc...

I can really understand what you mean though about loving her and not wanting to sell her but also really want something to ride! PM me if you ever want a chat as I have been there!!!
 
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