Someone slap me and tell me it's NOT going to happen again.

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This morning my OH gave me the very kind offer of driving me to my parents house on a Friday. He'ss come home and look after the animals and He'll come pick me up on the Sunday.
I realy miss my parents and havn't seen them since April and that was only for the day the last time I saw them for any length of time was in 2010 when we all went on holiday. :( I don't realy speak to them on the phone as we don't have a landline and i'm pay as you go mobile and it costs a fortune to phone out. :( He got thinking when I said last night I was thinking about getting a contract phone if I could then I could call them with the free minuets.
So this morning he made me the offer and I burst into tears. NOT happy ones i'm afraid :(
I'm scared to leave my ponies as last time I left them for more than a day was when I went on holiday with my mum and dad. 3 days into the holiday Lucy was PTS :(
For those who don't know Lucy was ill anyway. LOOOOOOOOOOONG story but she had picked up before I went away and semed to be doing well which is why I went away. If I had known she was going to go down hill I would NEVER have gone away. But it all happened so quickly and I had no way of getting home and as I didn't want Lucy to start suffering I never got to say goodbye :(
Please someone slap me and tell me it's not going to happen again.
Sorry for the long pointless post but i'm feeling abit better for putting it all down. Feel free to ignore me i'm just being silly. :o
 
Can I give you a hug instead of a slap? Because I'm the same and so I understand - I can't canter on grass since losing M in case it happens again :( its perfectly natural.
But you do need to face it I think. Maybe going to your parents is a good idea - at least you won't be out of the country so you can reassure yourself about getting back if at all necessary (not that it will be of course because IT'S NOT GOING TO HAPPEN AGAIN xxx
 
Sweetie, your concern is perfectly understandable, but it cannot rule your life. I know it's hard for you (I'm a twonk when it comes to going away - leave more lists of instructions and contact details than you could shake a stick at).

If something is going to happen then it will happen whether you're there or not. I hope that came out right, head not in gear yet!*

Your OH would be able to come and get you if there was an issue. I'd come and get you if he couldn't. Sometimes you just need to see your parents. Hugs hunny.*
 
I think it would be a good idea, to break that bad thought, of "if I go away something bad will happen". (Worded that really badly, but hope you get what I mean :) )

As Mrs M said your OH could get you, by the way he sounds very helpfull :)

Sometimes we all need our mums/dads no matter how old we get. Go have a nice time and the ponies will be fine with OH.
 
Laura, hugs not slaps from me. :(

I know how terrified you must feel, but the two ponies you have are both well, and you trust your OH to look after them as you would, so try and enjoy a little break and some precious time with your parents, you deserve it.

As Mrs M said, stuff happens, good and bad, whether you are around or not, so take a deep breath and go and have some family time. :D xx
 
Definitely hug time, and they're rare from me. How far away are they? Surely your (lovely!) OH would come and pick you up asap if there were any issue - which it's highly unlikely there would be.

I can completely understand - one of my worst fears when I'm away is coming back to a situation like that. The thought plagues me and I can't really enjoy myself. However, I think you should trust you OH and others to keep an eye for a couple of days and go and see them. Then get a contract phone when you're back, to make things easier :)
 
I'm not superstitious, or a worrier by nature, but stuff like that I feel exactly the same as you. I'm sure you don't need me to tell you the why's & wherefores of it being a needless worry, however unrational I'd be the same in your shoes. What I do is think of it another way. Eg your ponies are going to be around for another 10/15/20 yrs at least, its probable at some point you will be ill & its to their benefit to learn they are ok without you. Not saying they aren't btw, just trying to think of something positive to focus on about leaving them instead of your fear. And hugs, I'm usually very practical, but have equally unrational fears about certain things because of previous things that have happened.
 
Thankyou everyone. Glad you don't all feel i'm stupid for feeling this way :o
My paremts are only about 1 1/2 away (I think) so not realy that far in the great sceam of things and I'll see the ponies on the Friday Morning and the Sunday Eve so realy it's only 1 day away from them ;) I think you're right and I need to face up to this. I can't spend the rest of my life to scared to go away incase something happens. I realy miss my parents so much and when we do manage to go up for the day, it's never a whole day as we need to get home for the animals :rolleyes:

Emilieu (((((((((hugs)))))))))) to you. x

MrsMozart and picolenicole I got what you were saying. Both very true :)
 
baby steps. stay at a friends for 1 night, then somewhere for 2 then your parents for 3.

its breaking that cycle of mind.

i have started falling off recently from 1 habit formed when jumping so my instructor put the poles on the floor and we went right back to basics. weird analagy i know but its getting your mind past that point.....like cognitive behaviour therapy? putting the road block in front of the path you are taking with your thoughts now and veering them another way so, yes baby steps i think?

good luck and you dont deserve a slap at all x
 
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