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margaretb

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I made the decision today that sadly Poppy is not the one for me. I've had her a month, which may not sound long, but I lost my nerve within a week of having her. I love to handle her on the ground, she is an absolute sweety. My RI came out this morning and rode her to assess her and saw where I was coming from. Poppy is just too forward for me. Nothing nasty just keen and interested. She would be fantastic for someone who has less nerves than I do, and she deserves more. Sadly I have got very fond of her, but it is not fair on her not to do her justice. I am a complete nervous wus.

I will go back to my riding school lessons and slowly climb back up the confidence ladder.
Sorry Poppy.
 
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Aw hun. A difficult decision. No doubt you have already considered getting someone else to ride, to be with you, to have lessons with, etc. whilst you build up your nerve again.

Have a hug and a hot choccy hun.
 
Its so hard when they are nice and the problem is you, but you are still making the right decision. I think it takes a long time to find the one you 'click' with. I am in the same situation at the mo, although I am not looking in earnest so i know hard it is. I've gone back to riding lessons as well, to remind me of how much I used to love it when my mare was alive. Hugs, it will come right one day.
 
I feel nothing but sympathy for you that it didn't work out. It's even worse when they are not at fault in some way. Such a hard choice to make - at least it had only been a month so hopefully the strong bond wouldn't have set in which would have made it more heartbreaking than it already is.

I moved from riding school horses to my TB ex-racer and there was no way on earth that I would have even considered it unless I hadn't already arranged total backup from an instructor at every step and in a safe environment. I found a yard with an instructor who already had her horse down there - she also has the patience of a saint who tells me off for being spineless - all the time
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. It's taken several months and i'm just getting relaxed on him now.

I think you're braver than I am. I wouldn't have the nerve to give up and sell him on. That would be harder than the riding. Hope you sell her ok...
 
Perhaps I would have been better if someone had said "oh get on with it", stop faffing about.

At the back of my mind is perhaps if I took her up to my riding school and got on with working with her within the safety of the school and my instructor.... She's only 9, and could have so much to give with the right person and schooling I am sure..
 
((BIG HUGS))

I was just about to PM you.

I know how difficult this has been for you but totally understand, if you are not happy it's not worth upsetting yourself further about it.

Poppy will find another lovely home, she is a sweetie, just not the one for you
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Don't despair, there are plenty of options for you: continue with the RS lessons, perhaps consider a share etc with the back up of a livery yard, perhaps see if anyone local wants help with their horses? There is lots you can do to get your horsey fix without actually owning one.

It would be lovely if you came to visit mine or come and say hi at our next RC training/competition - the invitation is always there
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I need someone with a hipflask at my next dressage comp
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((BIG HUGS))

I was just about to PM you.

I know how difficult this has been for you but totally understand, if you are not happy it's not worth upsetting yourself further about it.

Poppy will find another lovely home, she is a sweetie, just not the one for you
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Totally agree. If it wasn't right then it was better for both of you to make the right decision. I didn't have that luxury hence my story
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Rising 5 YO chestnut ex-racehorse, 2 owners in 3 months? fat back fetlock? (water retention) where do you think he would have ended up?

Better luck next time and back on the RS horses causing mayhem
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