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Its nearly the day my beautiful girl went to be the brightest star in the sky.
I still have her here in my living room.
My OH says i should be spreading her but im just not sure. I feel i should do something with her but not sure if i'm actually ready??

What has others done who have lost there horses?

( i had anyother post going, a full on essay, but it never posted for some reason :( slightly tipsy and feeling down please excuse any spelling mistakes)
 
I think you should only do something with them when you are ready. I have a slightly different situation. I tried to breed from my mare last year. After a very good healthy pregnancy, we unfortunately lost her filly at birth. We had her cremated and at the moment, her ashes are in our spare bedroom. She never got to see the world, had no favourite places, so I think I will probably keep them and put them with Dolly when I eventually have to say goodbye to her. (Hopefully not for a good few years yet).
 
oh bless you hun it's never easy....I still have my lad in the lounge too it will be 2yrs this year that he went to the great sky above...

I don't have anywhere I could happily spread his ashes so I have kept him as he is plus he used to like being in his bed having cuddles with me...so I feel it right to keep hold of him.

You do what is best for you and your horse if you want to let her ashes go then do it when your ready...or keep hold of her up to you my sweet.

Chin up and remember the fond memories you both had.

I still cry for my boy I miss him terribly and wish I could have him back...alas..

xx
 
Thanks you for your lovely replies.

I do still cry all the time and talk to her when im cleaing up (sounds crazy i know) i cant believe the year has nearly passed already.

I might go for a walk to the beach were we used to love going on the day and see how i feel.

I feel knowone i really know understands how it feels. My friends think im crazy and never know what to say (the close ones are great though)

When we finally get round to buying our own house i think i might bury her in the garden so i know shes always with me and she is laid to rest close to me x
 
I took my amazing long time friends ashes to spread under an apple tree on my old farm.(I no longer had it). Mygirl friend came with me. It was a lovely clear blue sky but as I went to scatter fleagles ashes all hell broke loose . Thunder lightening, half of his ashes were blown back in my face! My friend,she just said "well he always had toi have the last word didnt he"!!
 
I lost Holly 5 yrs ago on Dec 7th. We scattered most of her ashes on Christmas Day that year and the remainder are in the box in the conservatory with her headcollar. She was scattered under the tree where she used to shelter when it rained. I still miss her now and think of her often, she would have been 12 now and in her prime.
 
i've got the ashes of my horse and a few dogs, i've told my OH that if anything happens to me then i want to be scattered with their ashes on a beach or high on a mountain.

however if i manage to buy my own place before anything happens to me then i will scatter their ashes in the garden and plant an apple tree there.

i'm not ready to 'let them go' just yet but they aren't taking up any room in my home and i always 'talk' to them when cleaning too.
 
I still have the ashes of my boy at home somewhere!!!! I say somewhere because its 10years since he went and I still can't get a grip to see the box. OH has hidden it in the garage somewhere, I dont go in there unless I really have to.

I will spread his ashes when we buy our next home( we are planning to move in next 2 yrs).
I couldnt leave him behind.

I will make a special place for him in a quiet area and put our dog and cat there too.
 
My friend decided to scatter her old horses ashes on their favourite hacking route. This sounds and could be a lovely idea, but poor lady decided for some strange reason, to put the ashes in a plastic bag with a hole cut in it. This in itself would be ok if you were walking but she was riding her new horse who then was spooked by the plastic bag and resulted in her falling off and knocking herself unconcious. Thankfully she came round and got back on horse who took her home! She said she would do it again but put the ashes in something less noisy and flappy next time.
 
nice to know I am not the only crazy one that 'talks' to their beloved when doing the cleaning....every time I polish his casket I always say right that's it Merls time for a muck out...then usually ball my eyes out cos I hate not having him around anymore...he was a sod but was my little sod...lol :)

It does get better OP...honest you will cry with the good memories you had together.
 
We lost my husbands warmblood mare in March 2010 from joint collapse (she had been on treatment for Navicular for a while)

He decided he could not cope with keeping the ashes at home as it was too upsetting so we spread them on private woodland adjacent to our biggest turnout field, the woods are untouched and there is a small stream adjacent, its close to where she rested in the field scratching her bum on the holly and a lovely spot.

I like to think of her still "turned out" with her friends and worry when I move them to another field as Molly will be on her own.
 
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