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I posted on here last week about my beautiful rottie Tia who was diagnosed with bone cancer. She was put to sleep on Friday and today I have received her ashes.

It has really upset me, I was surprised how heavy they are, and I have put her in her favourite room until my husband comes back home from work again at the end of the month. He had to return on Tuesday after making it home to see her and be here for her last moments, and we will now wait until he is back before we spread her ashes.

I'd like to hear from anyone who has done this and to see what comfort they got from it. I am finding thinking about it so upsetting and I'm trying to think about her going back to her favourite place but it's just not helping. Does anyone have any thoughts about it that might help please.

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RIP big girl x
 
So sorry for your loss. We couldnt bear to part with our dogs ashes so they are in a beautiful casket with a little bronze plaque on the top with his name, date of birth and death date on in our bedroom next to my husbands side of the bed as that was where he slept every night.

We miss him terribly and I still cry to this day ( he died 10 years ago) every time I dust his casket and I find myself talking to him and telling him how much we love and miss him.
 
What a beautiful photo of Tia, she really was a lovely girl.

I would be in no hurry to do anything atm, its still very raw, Ive never had a dog cremated before but can see that it gives you the luxury of time if that dosnt sound disrespectful.

All my dogs were buried at home and their graves are marked, I am thinking you are feeling that once youve buried her ashes it will be final and thats where the difficulty lies. My last dog was pts at the vets and because he was treated for Lepto I wasnt allowed to bring his ashes home, that for me was heartbreaking but have come to realise it dosnt matter that was just his body and his spirit is still with me.

I really hope what ever you decide you get closure, there are pet bereavement counsellers who can help you and your vet should be able to give you a phone number of one.
 
We took Barney's to his favourite walking place and scattered them, and to be honest, it was hard. It felt like we were abandoning him, silly as that is. It is nice to go back now with Henry though, it's like taking them both for a walk (again, I know how silly that sounds).

I'm really sorry for your loss, I would echo what others have said about not making any decisions until you feel ready.
 
So sorry about Tia she's a beautiful girl

I agree with Dobiegirl, there's no rush so its probably best to wait until you feel ready. I felt better with Hector back in the house as such, that was 8 months ago and i've yet to decide if i want to scatter the ashes so until i'm sure one way or another the pot sits on a shelf with his collar and photo. I was a bit of an emotional mess for the first few weeks but it does get easier in time. Someone advised me to try think of the good times and while still painful it did help OH & me talk about Hector and even laugh remembering his daft antics.
 
I am sorry for your loss, the photo is lovely.
When our lad died, he did stay in the box for a little while, mainly because we were waiting for all the family to be together (not easy when myself and my brother where away at uni) and then he was scattered under a tree that is in the local church yard that was planted for my Great grandad.
It is lovely that we can go there to go and remember him :)
 
its nearly one year since i recieved my ashes of my beloved rotti bruce
i have kept his ashes at home he always wanted to be with the family and as much as he loved his walks he always looked happiest at home wacked out on his sofa :}
i too talk to him everyday and miss him soooo much
hugs to you xxx
 
Thank you for your replies everybody, I know I'm not the only person to ever lose a dog but it does help reading everybody's thoughts.

I don't think I want to keep her at home although like wildwests' bruce she was always happiest on the sofa with her legs in the air.

I don't have anywhere at home to bury her and I like the thought of her being free by the river she loved so much, but when I think of physically releasing her ashes there it makes me really upset. I think Spudlet hit the nail on the head when she said she felt like she was abandoning Barney - I think I will feel the same leaving her there on her own.

Part of me is wishing we didn't have her cremated now as it's such a difficult decision, and I know it will be a very sad day when we do scatter her. Maybe I feel like this because it's all too soon and I should take advice from you and give it some time before doing anything.
 
I'm doing thi soon with my mums old dog. We going to scatter his ashes on the walk where he took the puppies for their first run of the lead. We taking them two then we sort of having a little wake with a chilli and few drinks as he was part the family.

My brother and OH think we gone mad:eek: but its are way to say goodbye and remember:(
 
A few years ago we lost our first MinPin, Murphy -- and I too was really surprised at how upsetting it was to gt the ashes back. What we did was keep half the ashes in an urn in the bedroom, and the other half under a new rose bush that we planted. That way she could be part of something beautiful, but I would never leave her behind if we moved. I plan to put Corki's ashes with Murphy's in the rose bush, and keep half. I find comfort in being able to speak to the rose bush.

I'm sorry for your loss as well.
 
So sorry for your loss. I still have Tiggy's ashes after a year and still don't feel ready to do anything with them. I know we won't be in this house for ever so I don't want to bury or scatter them in the garden. I thought of putting them in a large planter with a bush or rose tree in it so I could take it with me, but I think I might keep them and have them scattered with me when I die. I think you just have to wait until you feel the time is right, there is no need to rush a decision
 
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