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Penny Less

Penny Less

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I am collecting Granny Gordons ashes today. I have never had the ashes of any of my animals before, and always felt as if Id abandoned previous dogs by leaving them at the vets. However,I think perhaps that was the right decision as Ive been in tears for the past couple of days thinking about collecting them and what Im going to do with them. Ive got no one to collect on my behalf as my good friends are all away on holiday at the moment. Not looking forward to this afternoon.
 
It is a sad reminder that she is no longer with you .
However, I was given a salutory lesson in how immediate death is when I had my Lab bitch pts at home because she hated going to the vets'. She was lying on the rug in front of the fire with our other dogs in the room around her, they were always very respectful of her and very affectionate towards her. The vet injected her and the end was very peaceful, as soon as the vet stood up, the other dogs rushed to fuss the vet, trampling on the body as if it were a part of the rug. they would never have done that if the Lab had been alive. The dogs knew instantaneously that she had no further need of the outer shell.

You didn't abandon your other animals, you simply made a practical decision, which seemed best at the time.
 
It’s natural and understandable to feel like you do - have a good cry if you like, it doesn’t help to hold it all in. She is coming home to be with you forever now xx
 
Lévrier;13780990 said:
It’s natural and understandable to feel like you do - have a good cry if you like, it doesn’t help to hold it all in. She is coming home to be with you forever now xx
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This. And the vets will not be at all surprised by tears and emotion. Our dogs get a tree or a shrub when they go, it is a nice memorial.
 
Just been to collect her. I opted for a scatter tube as thought I would do this as v small garden. Now I wish Id gone for a casket to bury.
Bawled in the vets. May take her for a last walk this afternoon 0ut in the woods. Cant believe that's all that's left of my beautiful girl.
 
I’m so sorry. I found it horribly hard when we got our collies ashes home. I think I had made my peace with the fact that her body wasn’t her anymore after she died, so to have her home in such a different form didn’t feel right. I don’t think I would do it again as I now feel like it isn’t the body that made the dog, or horse, or human special to me. We always plant something nice in their memory, ashes or not.

A last walk sounds a lovely idea. Huge hugs from me, it’s such a terribly hard thing to have to go through.
 
so sorry you are having a hard time at the moment, it will get easier but the pain never goes away. my lurcher is on my laptop screen and i see her every day, it was sept 2016 when i lost her and some days i can still be blubbing when the screen comes up.....hope you soon feel better....
 
Lévrier;13780990 said:
It’s natural and understandable to feel like you do - have a good cry if you like, it doesn’t help to hold it all in. She is coming home to be with you forever now xx
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Absolutely this. Hugs xxx
 
Penny Less said:
Just been to collect her. I opted for a scatter tube as thought I would do this as v small garden. Now I wish Id gone for a casket to bury.
Bawled in the vets. May take her for a last walk this afternoon 0ut in the woods. Cant believe that's all that's left of my beautiful girl.
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It isn't all that's left of her - there are all your wonderful memories of her, too.
 
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