swore would never have another horse...

[mulledwhine]

I cant beileive it, and feel soo rubbish for even thinking it..

I lost my favourite dog this time last year and cannot even think about having another...

However I lost my best horse friend of nearly 17 years nearly 2 weeks ago, and after swearing I would never have another, I am already thinking I need another.

I just feel soo much at a loose end, and keep thining I have forgotten to do something... Is this wrong?

For those that have lost a great friend, is this normal?.... I just cant help feel guilty as I still cannot get another dog!!!!

Or is that our lives are soo taken up with our equestrian froends that a greater hole is left????

 

[tinkandlily]

I know how you feel, after my boy was pts i swore i didn' want to ride again, but i was asked to work with the yo horse who had never left the yard for 14 yrs, i didn't really want to but i felt lost and needed something to do,

When i could hack her out, i remembered the times i rode my boy out, and regularly went to his fav place to have a good gallop, like i did with him, and for a short while i felt like i was back on him (sad i know) but it helped.
Don't feel guilty, the fact your thinking of another horse maybe just that your so used to doing him everyday, you don't know what to do with yourself now he's gone.

 

[tristar]

i lost my little puzzle 18 months ago, fortunately i have her daughter, but she is 12 years old, mind she's a jack r so its not that old, i was was distraught, and i always thought i was'nt a 'dog person'
i think its trying fill too big a hole to expect another to take her place, one day maybe another little puzz will find me, i too can't have another yet, i think what you feel is perfectly normal give yourself permission to feel what you feel.

 

[Black_Horse_White]

I lost my best friend Jake in June I was truely devastated, I had another dog the next day. It didn't make my loss any easier but the house was not complete without a dog in it. You do what feels right for you.

 

[mulledwhine]

Thank you, I just ' always knew' it would be worst with my horse boy, and it was except for the fact he took it out of my hands!!!!!!

I just cant understand how I was 'absolute I would never have another ,, but soo soon after I know I CANT BE WITHOUT another, it is very odd to me

 

[splashgirl45]

you are not on your own. when i lost my dog at 15 1/2 i felt i could never have another, but after 6 months i was able to face getting another and have never regretted it. when i lost my horse at 24(owned since yearling) i felt the need to look for another almost straight away. i feel the same as you, i cant understand why, maybe because the dogs fit in whatever we do but the horses are a way of life, not because we love one more than the other. go ahead and look for a horse if you feel ready and dont feel guilty..good luck