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has never been my strong suit. But how do I tactfully tell someone that I don't trust them?

I share a field with a friend - the field belongs to her and has her mare and my two geldings on it. I moved there because she needed a companion for her mare and had no money or time for another horse herself. I moved in many months ago, and I have since discovered that she does not worm her horse. She says she's going to, but it's always next month etc.

I can't let it go on any longer, and have told my friend and asked for my horses to be fenced off from hers (they'll still be able to touch over the fence), but she's responded by telling me that she's bought a wormer and will be worming/worm counting regularly from now on. But the sad fact is, that I don't believe her. I know her well enough by now to know that she'll let it lapse again.

I would feel guilty leaving - she can't afford another horse, and no one will livery there as she's let the fencing get into a terrible state. Not sure what to do, though, apart from worming her horse myself. But to be frank, I already do all of the poo picking and fence fixing, and I pay for most of the hay. Worming her horse too is just taking the P.

Any thoughts?
 
Sounds like a difficult one, especially with friends, although are you paying her to be there, or is it free? If you're there foc, i guess I'd pay for a regular worm egg count for the three horses (probably cheaper than buying 3 wormers) and see what the results are, and then if you discover they all need worming, do them all yourself - if I had foc livery I'd be happy as larry to do that kind of thing...
 
Harsh to say it but she's not being a great friend to put you horse's health at risk because she can't afford the relatively small price of a wormer.

I'd want an assurance that they were going to be wormed or counted regularly or I'd be moving.
 
I would just be honest and say either worm your mare or am going to have move my horses or go along the lines of am popping into x shop to get horses wormers I'll pick x one up and do her with mine you can just knock it off feild rent.
I would also be concerned about the fencing though tbh it does not sound a great set up to be honest
 
She knows how to worm... and I know she understands the dangers of not keeping on top of worm burden, she's just got too many financial commitments, and is also really lazy and a terrible procrastinator. And I could say, 'right, I'm going to worm your horse and you can knock it off my livery bill', but she's not the easiest of people, and she may well tell me to butt out and mind my own. Its also yet another responsibility that goes unthanked. Ho hum.
 
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