Thought i had made a huge mistake but...

[Serianas]

Hey all,

So as you know i had my boy delivered 3 weeks ago. However since I got him my luck has turned for the worse. During this time I have had a chest infection, my partner had a complete nervous breakdown, my cat was ill, my chameleon was pts and i found out I may have to have an op on my eye... all in all not a good time to get a pony...

Anyway after not being able to ride him straight away due to things getting in the way he was a bit of a cheeky sod in the field the other day when i came to get on i.e. wouldnt let me... now we have no school so I can understand why riding in the paddock isnt appealing to him.... I beat myself up badly for this because I thought i should have been getting riding straight away for hours a day etc... but it wasnt my fault...

anyway we are now starting our relationship all over because he doesnt know me from adam really... im just the person with the bucket I have seen another thread on here and apparently the spring grass will be making it worse, and also he wasnt on 24/7 turnout before...

In a positive light we are moving to a yard that I love on Saturday, with tonnes of support, fun things to do and a very relaxed atmosphere and I cant wait... Just spending this week getting to know him with no pressure on either of us... just plenty of grooming and talking and maybe a ride if i feel like it

So there is my story... its a little pointless but Im feeling optomistic about this little lad and already love him to bits just need to get him to trust me

 

[Meowy Catkin]

I hope the yard move goes well. Let us know how you get on.

PS - sorry that you've had such a tough time recently.

 

[Arizahn]

Take it easy, doing too much too soon won't help either of you. Enjoy your new yard

 

[YasandCrystal]

Sounds like you have had a tough time. My advice would be take the pressure off yourself and take it at a pace you and your new horse are happy with. If you need help to gain your confidence the new yard sounds ideal. Good luck OP - things will get better.

 

[Pearlsasinger]

There is nothing that you 'should' be doing with your horse. Most of us keep horses for pleasure and they have to fit in with us and our busy lives. So long as the horse is fed, watered and secure, you can take all the time that you need to begin to work the horse. I always leave new horses at least a week to get to know their new surroundings and the routine before riding. Don't put too much pressure on yourself!
It sounds as if you have had a very difficult time recently, so it's no surprise that you've had to let the horse take a back seat.