fiwen30
Well-Known Member
This is going to be a bit of a moan, I guess, but I don't have any other horsey people to ask for advice, and I really don't know what to do.
I stable my mare, Lola, at my brother-in-law's, fiancee's yard. She has also become a rather good friend; which is why when she said she was visiting my BIL for Christmas, I agreed to hold down the fort. What she failed to mention, was that he had booked it for ALL of the holidays - Christmas Eve, Christmas Day, Boxing Day, my birthday on the 30th, New Years Eve, New Years Day, and up to the 5th of January. I was a bit annoyed, as no one had actually ASKED me, it was all just assumed, but I figured I'd make the best of it.
Most of the horses aren't a problem. Her 5 horses are on 24/7 turnout at a second yard just down the road, and there's only 2 which are stabled overnight at my yard - my own mare, and a gelding which belongs to someone else, and is here for training from SIL-to-be. It's the gelding that's the problem. He's a 16hh, 2 year old with a terrible attitude. He barges, walks over the top of you, crushes you against the walls, plants when leading or threatens to go up, and he bites. Not just baby mouthing, actual ears back, teeth first towards you as you're trying to lead him. He also weaves, box walks, has seperation anxiety and is such a bully that none of the other horses will tolerate him in the field.
The last 5 days I've been managing OK, my mare and the gelding are in seperate paddocks, but within eye sight, and they've been turned out in the daytime and in at night. Only yesterday everything froze, and the route to, and by the gate of, my mare's paddock is flooded so it all froze solid. She refused point blank to walk through it, even after I'd broken the ice, so they stayed in yesterday. The only paddock accessible in the gelding's at the front, and I asked SIL-to-be about alternating their turnout days, but she said no due to the gelding's seperation issues. I don't want to turn them out together as there is no one at the yard to supervise, and my mare is such a wuss that she wouldn't defend herself when he picks on her.
I've been forced to keep them in again this morning, and the gelding is getting completely out of hand. He almost knocked me over trying to barge out of the stable, and I'm not too proud to say that I'm almost too scared to handle him now. I can't leave him 24/7 in the paddock, as there isn't any shelter, and he'd probably break out if my mare was brought in but he was left out. I had a very near miss earlier in the year handling another youngster on the ground, when a freak accident caused it to rear up and strike me in the (thankfully helmeted) head, and now any severe playing up while leading makes me really nervous, which of course doesn't help!
There's no one else at the yard to help or in case of an accident, and I just can't believe I've been stuck with this monster, which isn't even close to being my responsibility in the first place, all through the holidays. The thought of handling him makes me sick with worry, I've not been able to enjoy the holidays at all. It's stopped me from sleeping properly, from spending any time with my own horse and I'm actually shaking just thinking about it.
I'm really at a loss as to what I can do to help. Turkey toasties and a big glass of wine to anyone who actually read all of that!
I stable my mare, Lola, at my brother-in-law's, fiancee's yard. She has also become a rather good friend; which is why when she said she was visiting my BIL for Christmas, I agreed to hold down the fort. What she failed to mention, was that he had booked it for ALL of the holidays - Christmas Eve, Christmas Day, Boxing Day, my birthday on the 30th, New Years Eve, New Years Day, and up to the 5th of January. I was a bit annoyed, as no one had actually ASKED me, it was all just assumed, but I figured I'd make the best of it.
Most of the horses aren't a problem. Her 5 horses are on 24/7 turnout at a second yard just down the road, and there's only 2 which are stabled overnight at my yard - my own mare, and a gelding which belongs to someone else, and is here for training from SIL-to-be. It's the gelding that's the problem. He's a 16hh, 2 year old with a terrible attitude. He barges, walks over the top of you, crushes you against the walls, plants when leading or threatens to go up, and he bites. Not just baby mouthing, actual ears back, teeth first towards you as you're trying to lead him. He also weaves, box walks, has seperation anxiety and is such a bully that none of the other horses will tolerate him in the field.
The last 5 days I've been managing OK, my mare and the gelding are in seperate paddocks, but within eye sight, and they've been turned out in the daytime and in at night. Only yesterday everything froze, and the route to, and by the gate of, my mare's paddock is flooded so it all froze solid. She refused point blank to walk through it, even after I'd broken the ice, so they stayed in yesterday. The only paddock accessible in the gelding's at the front, and I asked SIL-to-be about alternating their turnout days, but she said no due to the gelding's seperation issues. I don't want to turn them out together as there is no one at the yard to supervise, and my mare is such a wuss that she wouldn't defend herself when he picks on her.
I've been forced to keep them in again this morning, and the gelding is getting completely out of hand. He almost knocked me over trying to barge out of the stable, and I'm not too proud to say that I'm almost too scared to handle him now. I can't leave him 24/7 in the paddock, as there isn't any shelter, and he'd probably break out if my mare was brought in but he was left out. I had a very near miss earlier in the year handling another youngster on the ground, when a freak accident caused it to rear up and strike me in the (thankfully helmeted) head, and now any severe playing up while leading makes me really nervous, which of course doesn't help!
There's no one else at the yard to help or in case of an accident, and I just can't believe I've been stuck with this monster, which isn't even close to being my responsibility in the first place, all through the holidays. The thought of handling him makes me sick with worry, I've not been able to enjoy the holidays at all. It's stopped me from sleeping properly, from spending any time with my own horse and I'm actually shaking just thinking about it.
I'm really at a loss as to what I can do to help. Turkey toasties and a big glass of wine to anyone who actually read all of that!