Loudabell
Active Member
right, I am seriously torn and would like some advice/thoughts please.....
I have a 6year old IDX. Owned him for 5 months now and previous to me owning him,he had been in Ireland and hunted. Nothing much else. i'm not into showing, not got the balls for cross country yet and only jump small jumps. this could change though as I get to know my boy better but ive never been seriously confident or competitive though so at the age of 32 is it likely too?
I am an intermediate rider although have had horses for ever. I've not got balls of steel and just want to have fun with my lad. we've already done a load of farm rides and have weekly lessons with my instructor. my horse is a sweet natured goon and has the potential to do anything and would turn his hoof to anything if asked.
we have been working on his schooling, getting him to work in an outline, canter on the correct lead etc real basic stuff for now and he can throw the odd tantrum if he doesn't want to do something. he has the potential to be strong and a bit rude but that is because he is a baby and has never been taught. he doesn't get away with his strop and then he soon gives up.
I have done some Natural Horsmanship work, with a friend, with him in-hand and have loved it. he's responded so well and is developing some nice manners. he will move out of my space now, back up and we've got him out of a serious biting habbit. I'[m loving the bond we are developing through it and he enjoys it. I've always been seriously interested in the natural horsemanship methods as I just think it makes a lot more sense to me.
In lessons though my instructor is all about 20m circles, inside leg, outside rein and of course after 45 mins he throws a wobbler as indeed I would. if he does something right, ie picks up the correct canter lead, we do it again and again to show him it was correct. well, it's not sitting with me well at all as surely he will start to resent his schooling work? we have had a couple of instructors and the lady I have at the moment has helped us to make real progress so I have stuck with her. she has helped me to get my lad lighter in the hands and so much more balanced. we are getting there and I do feel a sense of achievement as he;s improved and I've improved loads but.....
my friend rides western and has a very good instructor that uses a lot of natural horsemanship methods. the methods that she uses seem to make a lot more sense to me and seem kinder. it has been suggested that I use her western instructor to teach me and my horse but still in English tack etc. the instructor has done this before.
im seriously torn.
I want my lad to love his work
I want to not worry constantly that he is hating having his head forced in and being forced to circle all the time
I want to enjoy my lessons
go on farm rides
go to clinics
not feel like i'm trying to conform to something that doesn't suit me
be good at something rather than feeling like i'm always the less experienced or confident one!
BUT
I want to still jump a bit
be able to do the odd low level dressage test
not confuse the hell out of my horse
not teach my horse methods that will be difficult to reverse if we decide to do something different later on
do I suck it up, continue doing things the traditional way, perhaps consider another English instructor if mine gets stuck in a circle rut again?
or
try something different that might suit me a lot better? maybe it wont?
i'm open to all advice. I feel a massive responsibility to do the correct thing for this wonderful, young horse that I've waited my whole life for.
I have a 6year old IDX. Owned him for 5 months now and previous to me owning him,he had been in Ireland and hunted. Nothing much else. i'm not into showing, not got the balls for cross country yet and only jump small jumps. this could change though as I get to know my boy better but ive never been seriously confident or competitive though so at the age of 32 is it likely too?
I am an intermediate rider although have had horses for ever. I've not got balls of steel and just want to have fun with my lad. we've already done a load of farm rides and have weekly lessons with my instructor. my horse is a sweet natured goon and has the potential to do anything and would turn his hoof to anything if asked.
we have been working on his schooling, getting him to work in an outline, canter on the correct lead etc real basic stuff for now and he can throw the odd tantrum if he doesn't want to do something. he has the potential to be strong and a bit rude but that is because he is a baby and has never been taught. he doesn't get away with his strop and then he soon gives up.
I have done some Natural Horsmanship work, with a friend, with him in-hand and have loved it. he's responded so well and is developing some nice manners. he will move out of my space now, back up and we've got him out of a serious biting habbit. I'[m loving the bond we are developing through it and he enjoys it. I've always been seriously interested in the natural horsemanship methods as I just think it makes a lot more sense to me.
In lessons though my instructor is all about 20m circles, inside leg, outside rein and of course after 45 mins he throws a wobbler as indeed I would. if he does something right, ie picks up the correct canter lead, we do it again and again to show him it was correct. well, it's not sitting with me well at all as surely he will start to resent his schooling work? we have had a couple of instructors and the lady I have at the moment has helped us to make real progress so I have stuck with her. she has helped me to get my lad lighter in the hands and so much more balanced. we are getting there and I do feel a sense of achievement as he;s improved and I've improved loads but.....
my friend rides western and has a very good instructor that uses a lot of natural horsemanship methods. the methods that she uses seem to make a lot more sense to me and seem kinder. it has been suggested that I use her western instructor to teach me and my horse but still in English tack etc. the instructor has done this before.
im seriously torn.
I want my lad to love his work
I want to not worry constantly that he is hating having his head forced in and being forced to circle all the time
I want to enjoy my lessons
go on farm rides
go to clinics
not feel like i'm trying to conform to something that doesn't suit me
be good at something rather than feeling like i'm always the less experienced or confident one!
BUT
I want to still jump a bit
be able to do the odd low level dressage test
not confuse the hell out of my horse
not teach my horse methods that will be difficult to reverse if we decide to do something different later on
do I suck it up, continue doing things the traditional way, perhaps consider another English instructor if mine gets stuck in a circle rut again?
or
try something different that might suit me a lot better? maybe it wont?
i'm open to all advice. I feel a massive responsibility to do the correct thing for this wonderful, young horse that I've waited my whole life for.