Trial with view to buy, v stressed-would you feel bad?

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Our sed d mare has been out on trial since early october last year. The agreement was that they would buy her 1st week in january, when the time came they moved it to 1st week in feb....they then moved it to 3rd week in feb.....and nothing has been arranged to pay for her and we are now in march.
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Last week i bit the bullet and told them that if they are to keep her then they must pay for her within 2 weeks. One week later and they have not been in touch at all.
I have asked if money is a problem but they have said that the money is sat in her hubby's business account.

So with that i have just contacted her to say that she must be paid for this week or we are picking her up on sunday.
They have another one of our ponies on loan, i now have a feeling this is going to get awkward.
Now, i have given myself a bagful of stress but wasnt sure there was any other way to deal with this?
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I think you have done exactly the right thing - its her fault and it should be her who's feeling awkward not you. An agreement is an agreement and you have given her plenty of time beyond her original payment date
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I agree with jumpthemoon. I'm afraid they are properly taking the ****. I doubt they have any intention of paying. I would pick her up as soon as you can. It really isn't your fault and you have no need to feel awkward. You've been MORE than fair moving the date back and now I think their conduct is unreasonable. I'd pick her up asap. Good luck.
 
i agree with xcalicox in that they would rather have both horses on loan, i would pick up the on trial horse on sunday as you've said and also look at the agreement you have about your other horse and possibly think about taking it back too! these people have started to take the mick and they arent going to be happy that you've taken a horse away from them so id be uncertain as to what they would do with your other one.
 
if this was me i would give them till the weekend and they didnt pay or it wasnt sorted out i would go and collect both horses, they are taking the p*ss
 
The replies def make me feel better, i did think they were taking the p**s but was giving them the benefit of the doubt.

I am sure i have done the right thing, she hasnt got back in touch with me and that was 2 hours ago. i have said that it needs to be sorted today, no matter what.
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Watch this space
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I would have been and fetched her the 1st week in Jan when they didn't pay up - don't feel bad about it, they are taking the **** IMO!

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Exactly what I thought too.
 
yes go and get the horse and if they pay for her upfront then she can always go back to them.... not that I would do that to be honest
 
its not nice that feeling of someone walking over you, its a fact of life that some people will always think that its ok to take advantage and play you for a fool. mind you they are also the same people who will think they are hard done by, especially if the worm (ie you) turns on them and say enough is enough.
know how you feel, thought someone was a friend, but had enough of their demissive attitude to me, especially when they think its ok to drink and drive a lorry............................................mutter muttermuttermutter

sorry hi jacked your post but feel better now
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Down side is you may be bringing home 2 this weekend
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totally agree with the taking the p1ss though...

not sure i'd have been so patient.
 
I have been amazingly patient for me! Yes i thought that i would probably have to bring both ponies back so back up plans have been organised.
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The loaner has been in touch to say that they will pay for her a week today.
She is replying in a rather abrupt manner which i am not happy about so my patience reserves now kicking in.
Horses def easier to deal with than some people.
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Sorry, but that just delays it by another week..... they are still going over what you have said by taking it over next weekend.

Put your foot down, there is no reason if the money is there that it has to be a week today
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I would be very worried by now. I wouldn't take the 'i'll pay a week today' as that is just delaying it yet again.
You need to be more firm. Giving them another week gives them the opportunity to sell this horse or at least make it 'disappear'....do you have written agreements for both horses?
 
Get down there asap and collect both of them, they are trying to take you for a mug. Either the money will be forthcoming immediately as a result of your actions or (in my opinion more likely) it won't. I fear that her paying for the pony "a week today" is yet another stalling tactic. I am also concerned that if you turned up at the weekend with transport you may find the ponies have been moved. Enough is enough, you sound like you have been incredibly accomodating so far, time to draw a line and get extremely tough with them. Make sure that if you hear any murmurings about how horrible you've been, you put that person straight about exactly why you had to take the ponies back.

Aren't some people awful?
 
Hi, yes i have BHS agreemeements for both ponies. They do keep them at their home so the only good thing is that they are less likely to move them anywhere.

After our discussions last weekend i did say i would give them until monday next week to organise the monies, which is the only reason i am allowing them that time. I always try to keep to my word but find it hard when others dont.

I am going to have a chat with her this week about her 'attitude' because if she does in fact pay for her, i need to have a good relationship with her with regards to the other loan pony and as he is only a 2 year old the agreement states that i am to oversee his training. At this point i cant see that being feesable unfortunately.
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I do agree with everyone totally, i have been more than accomodating.
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