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For all those that didn't see my 'how much post' i took a horse on loan last year straight out of a field having done nothing for years, he's 13 and his only result in life before i got him was that he won £57 BSJA in 1999. So the owners told me a few weeks ago they'd decided to sell him and have a friend that will pay £8k for him but that i can have him for £4K but could keep him on loan for another year if i couldn't afford to pay the 4K up front.

So the owner phones me tonight and says actually the loan can only be for 4 more months, and she can either put it in the agreement that i pay the money by the end of that term or pay half and pay the rest within the 4 months after that. So i say i can't do that because i have no money and therefore don't want to sign something saying i will pay 4K for something within the next 8 months. She says that her friend will buy him unless i can sign this so i said i'd speak to my boyfriend and call her saturday.

So boyfriend v annoyed and feeling like these people are just taking the mickey calls the owner to say i have no money and that the horse is clearly not worth the money particularly as he's unlikely to pass a vetting due to a very strange almost stringhalt action behind - when she has the cheek to say that he only developed that since he's been with me and that i've damaged him.

I have taken this poor bored horse out of a field, made him fit, schooled and gorgeous, qualified him for Lincoln and i'm about to affiliate him BSJA plus i love him and pamper him with every spare hour of my day and they just throw it back in my face and try to sc**w money out of me. I'm so upset and angry!
 
Get angry! And then send the horse back!
If she's prepared to make such statements i would not risk signing a contract!
The horse is 13 and has done nothing, (well until you took him over) and if u are correct in that he will not pass the vetting, it would really be money down the drain!
Take your care and what you've done with this horse and find something that either you can buy, without being pushed in, or with owners that arent just trying to make money out of you.
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OMG thats awful
I agree with your husband they are trying to rip you off!
I dont believe anyone would pay £8000 for this, and realistically do you think if they were offered £8k they would let you have the horse for £4K out of the goodness of their heart??!
TBH I would give them the horse back, i know its heart breaking but the own it and sound like they are only going to muck you around. Cut your losses.
I bet when you say you are giving the horse back they will be backtracking big style!
 
Ditto GlamourDol - this is a very very very frustrating situation for you to be in and I sympathise. I would walk away at this point - as hard as it is. Wait until he fails the vet - and then I am sure that they will come back to you with a more sensible suggestion.
 
Well boyfriends last response with them was that we'd take them £3K cash on Monday and that would be it - we're waiting to hear back from them. Its just upsetting that its all happenning this weekend - i'm supposed to be packing for lincoln and getting a good nights sleep but i'm just wound up!
 
I remember reading your previous posts.

They clearly are just wanting to benefit from all the work you have put in, and unfortunately, this can happen with loaning.

You would think considering YOU have done all the work, they would offer him to you first at a fair price.
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If you think the horse is worth £3,000 and you would be happy to pay that to keep your friend(the horse), then so be it. That is your decision.

I really feel for you. Soooo stressful.

But,,,,,try and enjoy the weekend. These things always work themselves out one way or another.
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I wish you all the very best.
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I just feel stupid, you hear these stories all the time! Whatever the outcome i will not loan a horse again - he was a family pet that would never be sold last year!!
 
oh, gosh, that's so unfair, poor you. the other side of loaning.
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don't pay them the money, even if you've got it. she's being very very unreasonable. if she really can get £8k out of a friend for him, then so be it. a huge shame for the horse.. but then, the friend might be a good home too, i guess. sorry, not much comfort. *hugs*
 
Is there really a friend who is going to pay 8 grand for him? I can't imagine she will would willingly let him go for 4 grand less than she says she can get for him
 
Call her bluff and say come pick the horse up today. Some people like to see if they can push it and it's BullS**t that she has been offered 8K, if she had, your horse wouldn't still be with you
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She is taking the Pi$$, if you call her bluff and she says, ok, I'll come get him tomorrow, at least you know you're not being messed about, but I'm worried she'll back down and start messing you around, so you carry on paying for everything, training it, loving it etc, then she'll turn around in 5 mins time and say, right, i'm selling it now.....


Be careful
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I agree you could call her bluff! Or offer her a more realistic price depending on what a vets says.

Or have the attitude, this is a nice horse, Im really happy with it so I will pay to buy him. At the end of the day if he really is such a nice horse, and you are really comfortable and happy with him, you know his problem doesnt seem to stop him than in a sense you have a great advantage over most people who buy a horse "blind".

But I would pay to get him thoroughly checked as the problem could be degenerative. (Im not saying it is as I have no idea but would be worth checking!) You dont want to be paying 4K for a horse that is 13 if at 14 its going to go lame.
 
That stinks. If you can afford 3K and think the horse is worth it, tell her that is what you can pay and subject to vetting you would be happy to buy. Tell her you need an answer within a set time, say a week, if the answer is no then please make arrangement for the horse to be collected.

I am so sad to hear that you have received such shabby tretament for all your hard work. I know it must be heartbreaking for you, esp if the horse goes but just look forwards. For 3k you could buy something nice to bring on for yourself
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