We have parted....

NW1

NW1

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I have recently taken on the biggest decision of my life so far (or it seems like that!). I had my boy since he was a year and a half old, broke & backed him & done all his training, we competed & got 5th at HOYS 2008 (he had just risen 5), competed in the National show circuit for a year, schooled to Elementary, jumped 3ft courses well and was a pleasure to hack – never put a foot wrong for me!.

I decided that my lifestyle could not warrant the 100% attention a horse required due to my circumstances of working in London, getting a mortgage & wanting to get married etc I could not spend as much time with my boy (and competing) as I felt this truly special horse deserved. I could never be one of these owners who nipped up the yard (even on livery) I would always spend at least an hour fussing him – because he loved it!

So after 7 1/2 amazing years of owning him I decided that for the both of us he would be better with a new mummy. Fortunately one of my very close friends who always loved him took him on. She taught me all I knew about young horses & competing & her other horse was my horses best friend so they have been reunited.

It was vital to me that he went to the right home so I didn’t even sell him to her – just passed him on (she got a real deal!!!) with all tack and rugs!

It was hard and I know it was for the best, I passed him to her a few weeks ago & I can now only bring myself to write about it & even so am welling up. I’m not sure if I am being too sensitive but have needed a few days off work as been suffering from stress – which im sure is as a result of this.

He was the most special horse I have ever encountered and will miss him dearly but at least know he is in a special home and I can always go and see him if I want to (I’m not sure it’s a good idea at the moment though as he was incredible clingy) just the hard thing is I will always see him as my horse but he isn’t anymore 

I know it was my decision – but wasn’t fair on either of us for the lack of time & money I had – but still I never thought it would upset me this much. The worst one feeling that comes to me is the feelings I had when I loaded him up for the last time and he left without me.

One day I do intend to have another horse when I am more settled, but I am missing it so much – I feel like a big part of me has gone.

Has anyone experienced something like this & when do you start to feel better?

(I need a hug now  )
 
no, not yet anyway - Im in a situation where one of my horses isnt working out and am finding it very hard to come to terms with the decision which on some levels I think Ive already made.

All my other horses have been for life, and Im not sure which is harder, losign them at the end or letting them go to a new home.

Hugs anyway, it sounds like you did the right thing, hope you start feeling better soon x
 
I just want to come and give you a big hug right now!
I know how you feel, I sold my horse this time last year, I went to see him a couple of weeks after once he'd settled and he come running over, calling too and it made me so sad, he remembered me. But then I went again a couple of months ago and he was too busy playing with his mates to come and talk to me!
Words cant describe the bond you get with your horse but it's like anything, it gets easier as time goes on, I can imagine it's so hard for you though if you haven't got any other horses to keep your mind occupied.
There is no cure only time, give him a little while to settle and then go and see him, if this lady is your friend she really isn't going to mind and she will understand how you feel, I'm sure she wont mind you doing whatever with him even just to cuddle him for an hour, I'm sure she understands how you feel, chin up sweet x
 
Thanks for your kind words guys

I think I have just struggled because there is no one horsey in my family & my boyfriend tries to understand but really struggles to. I haven’t even been able to face the yard to visit my friends yet & I guess I just feel alone.

It’s so warming to know that total strangers (in the nicest of ways) can be so understanding & non judgemental and provide me with comfort in this difficult time.

Thanks again guys xx
 
Only horsey people will understand how you feel! It really annoys me I know non horsey people don't have a clue but when people say "well at least its just your horse and not your child" Ehh hellooooo....They might as well be the same!
You will start to feel better soon, get your bum up and out and go and see your friends! Trust me you'l feel better for it! Xxxxx
 
I sold my girl a couple of years ago as we were moving to London for the business and couldn't really justify the expense. Horses are such a big part of your life it is very hard to adjust. I found it really hard to figure out who I was if I wasn't a "horsey" person.
I am now looking for a new horse and can't wait to meet a new horse and have fun with them
 
you will allways know were he is you havent sold him and moved on you know were he is for visits you never know you could have him back one day !
 
big hugs- Im verging on doing this too, though Im being a selfish mummy and keeping her at the moment, though you did the most unselfish nicest thing ever and should be happy that hes happy and maybe you could have him back later in life when everythings settled Im sure the lady you 'gave' him too wouldnt begrudge you that much!! :) xx
 
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