what a pain

[oliviacharley]

Have you ever done a favour for a friend for them to then let you down...?
Must of happened a few times to people but I am quite annoyed about this one and I just wondered what peoples views where..

I have an old work friend who is moving locally and got in touch with me to ask about local yards she could move to. I had not heard from this person before last year for three years and she had not really been that friendly to me when I worked with her.
Anyhow she seemed friendly and I met up with her the once and kept in touch through text so I felt obligied to help her out when she text me asking about yards.
I got a close friend to speak to her yard owner who did have spaces and organise a time for *hannah to go down and look around the yard. I also mentioned I would go with her. To cut a long story short I did alot of arranging and when it came down to it *Hannah didnt want to go in the end and said she would just leave it.

Two months later she text me asking for the number again and mentioned if she didnt get it she might have to sell her horse...which I know she adores...so I sent her the details again. Hannah then arranged to go and look at the yard and text me saying it was not for her and too far.

After a couple of weeks I got a text from hannah asking if there were any more yards in the area she could look around and if I would mind driving her around and showing her them...bearing in mind she is quite fussy and quite tight on her budget I know fully well it would be a tough one and prob a waste of time. So basically sent her the details of the local saddlery and told her to have a look on the board there....havent heard from her since.

My close friend emailed me yesterday saying the YO was pleased * hannah would be joining them soon. I knew for a fact hannah was not in any way intending to go to the yard, I have close links with the yard, my close friend is there who does loads of favours for me and I regularly go to local shows there where people know of me so I was fuming to find out * hannah was messing these people around.

I wrote an email to my close friend apologising for this and asked that the YO checked with hannah on her place...
I am so angry....I heard a saying once that you dont do favours for people...urrrr!

 

[mickey]

Yes, this is a tricky one. Essentially, you have gone out of your way to help someone you didn't know that well. Now you fear that she will show you up by saying she wants a place at the yard you recommended and then letting it go.

I wouldn't worry too much that this may reflect badly on you - You cannot be responsible for other's actions. I know it could be embarrassing if she drops out of taking her place at the yard but really you are not to blame. You can just explain to YO that you wished you had not helped in the first place. It's a shame because it may well put you off going out of your way to help someone again.

For whatever reason, this Hannah has serious problems making decisions and sticking with them. She is all over the place by the sounds of it.