What is it with people and texting?

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Have had a few texts now about Betsy (who is advertised for sale). What is the point? I can only think of a couple of good reasons to do this: firstly hearing problems, secondly if you are in a job where personal calls are a no-no. But if this is the case explain it in your text and I'll be a lot more understanding! As it is I am very inclined to look on anyone who texts me as a time-waster and be curt in response. There is a thin line between shyness and rudeness, and this is way past it IMO.

Sorry for rant, just wanted to share!
 
I hate calling people about things like that and to be honest, i texted about my mare when I made first contact. the person selling called me back later on and we arranged a viewing and I bought her.

Not all texted are time wasters - maybe I was an exception but I bought her from an initial text so I was serious.

I do always say in my text its becasue I can't take personal calls, which is true but the main reason is shyness.
 
Never felt the inclination to text about horses I wanted to find more info out about when I was looking.

I just think it's rude.
 
I agree, with texting being rude - ive had a few text enquiries for lorries - but I feel I have to reply to be curteous, but to be honest they have all turned out to be timewasters. what is wrong with picking the phone up - or e-mail.
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If someone text me then I'd just ignore it, if they were serious about the horse and didn't get a reply then they would phone anyway!
 
Very rude, to be honest, unless someone explained why they were txting rather than calling I would ignore a text and put it down to timewaster.
 
Moocow - at least you put a believable reason in. But when I get things like "Can I come 2 c her Fri?" 24hrs after a text from same number saying "Hi just wondering if ur mare is still 4 sale", I do have my doubts....

Equally I will never put my email in an ad if I can help it as I find I get so many mind-bogglingly stupid enquiries...
 
Even though I cannot use the phone myself- I completly agree with you T_E. I could easily text but I always try and get someone to phone for me which is a task in itself as I have to write a long list of questions for them to ask ! My Mother always says 'Oh why can't you just text them?' And she never seems to quite appreciate how rude texting can appear in these stituations!

So sometimes I have no choice but to text ! But these are generally recieved well because the texts don't use text speak and I don't sound like one of these teenage time wasters. I usually ask for a email address so that things can go on from there.
 
I received one text about Jacada, but the lady was at work and explained that, so was understanding.

I would rather phone about a horse, you can watch out for those 'awkward' silences when asking questions, get a better idea about the horse
 
Well I think I have just, indirectly been called rude there - i suppose each to their own but it was never my intention to be rude when I texted. It was just that I found the initial contact really daunting and i would use text as the initial contact.

Also, I find there is a huge difference in the way people use their mobiles over here than in the UK. Text is definately used a lot more over here.
 
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A phone call is much more polite, texting is just plain rude

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I disagree. A phone call is like walking up to someone when they are doing something and just starting to talk at them. Texts and emails allow the person to deal with the message and respond when it is convenient to them.

I find people who phone me up when they could have texted or emailed impertinent and will not answer if I am busy.
 
I like email as first contact for most things. On horse enquiry i would have thought that what owner wrote would be more binding than just spoken word. I would phone later.
 
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A phone call is much more polite, texting is just plain rude

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I disagree. A phone call is like walking up to someone when they are doing something and just starting to talk at them. Texts and emails allow the person to deal with the message and respond when it is convenient to them.

I find people who phone me up when they could have texted or emailed impertinent and will not answer if I am busy.

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I'm with you on this one, maybe its a south derbyshire thing
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I don't see why texting is rude so long as you are polite? If you don't want to be texted it should say so in the advert. I hate ringing someone I don't know and perhaps ringing at the wrong moment, so I have texted to find out if a horse is still for sale and asked them to let me know when is a good time to call - glad the lady selling George didn't ignore me!
 
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A phone call is much more polite, texting is just plain rude

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I disagree. A phone call is like walking up to someone when they are doing something and just starting to talk at them. Texts and emails allow the person to deal with the message and respond when it is convenient to them.

I find people who phone me up when they could have texted or emailed impertinent and will not answer if I am busy.

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I find that rather bizarre! Surely most people have answering machines nowadays, so dont have to answer if they are busy?

As TE said, I would be very cautious of someone who texts... an email for me would be ok, as there is more scope to say exactly what you are looking for etc, but a text for me is too informal.
 
I am more likely to be a buyer than a seller and would want to hear the seller speak - I think I can judge a lot from tone of voice and how even a few simple questions were answered to tell if the seller was trustworthy and the sort of person I want to buy a horse from....sounds very snobby, but isn't meant like that.
 
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I don't see why texting is rude so long as you are polite? If you don't want to be texted it should say so in the advert. I hate ringing someone I don't know and perhaps ringing at the wrong moment, so I have texted to find out if a horse is still for sale and asked them to let me know when is a good time to call - glad the lady selling George didn't ignore me!

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Couldn't agree more! Well put
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Ha ha, yes, have also had people (admittedly ring, not text) me and start haggling before asking anything about her. Didn't really mind though, they said they genuinely didn't have asking price and would I go lower, no point in finding out all about her if they couldn't afford her, so fair play to them, but I was a little taken aback!
 
I don't think texting is rude but I would probably want to phone the seller. When I was looking to buy recently I rang up about the horses I was interested in & it was good to be able to ask a few questions in one go. If I was texting it would haven been quite a long process. I do, however, see moocows point as I am quite nervous & stuttery on the phone to people I don't know & I found phoning people quite intimidating.
I think one of the rudest things is when people answer the phone but are obviously distracted. Why answer? If people are serious they'll try again!
 
I was the same when people text me in response to the ad for my pony - especially when it was in text speak!! That made me more mad than anything else! I use text speak when I talk to friends but not for something like that!
 
Lots of people send me texts to order/reorder products and tbh I don't mind at all - I think it's just a sign of the times - However I don't like text-spk in any form - but this is quite rare normally my messages are jolly and friendly!
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Kate x
 
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