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kylie88

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I have just found a girl to share/ ride my 14.2 pony. Hes generally very good but can be strong headed so you have to let him know whos boss. Shes been ridding a while (only at ridding school thou) but I feel pony is really trying his luck with her! this is the 3rd week and she had a lesson with my instructor on sat, she said she did well and on sun we went out on a hack. we was trotting across a field when out of now where he took off and bronked! hes never done anything like this before and i really feel he was taking the peee big time!
Should I call it a day or give her a chance as its only been 3weeks and she will be having lessons on him??
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She wants to get on and learn, her nan use to have horses and has told her shes not going to learn to ride by going round in circles at a RS. My instructor said she did well and she listened to everything she was telling her. no he isnt really ridden by anyone else, shes a really nice girl and loves him but shes being to nice to him if that makes sense, I know its hard when its not your horse to tell them off but mayb after sunday she might realise that shes got to toughen up a bit!
 
Maybe have a talk with her and say you dont mind her getting a bit tough with him ect, i know when i loaned i felt a bit nervous about really telling a horse off incase the owner didnt like it or someone else on the yard moaned about me to the owner. Id give her a few more weeks after that see how things work out, 3 weeks really isnt that long afterall. Hope it works out for both of you
 
I agree with what Gingernut says, when you loan you do feel a bit initmidated in the owners presence and end up behaving like a numpty with nerves too.
Maybe also suggest she has a concentrated spell of lessons with the RI so he gets to know he can't get away with it, really needs nipping in the bud now before it becomes a problem. We had to do this with daughter and No 1 Little Grey Welshie who took the p constantly when we first loaned her, but is perfectly behaved now.
 
Totally agree on the timining and more lessons. It wasn't until a few weeks into my share that horsey started testing.

I was fortunate to have a really supportive owner who makes me feel comfortable asking questions and being strict when necesary. No harm in saying straight out what you think she needs to do. If the RI got on well with the girl wd def suggest a few more lessons too - the one I have was great for sorting out little things like horsey refusing to open his mouth for bit - I was worried it was hurting, in fact he was fein with owner and only tried it on a bit with RI. He'd just been testing me. IF sharer is used to RSs only it might even be worth suggesting a half in-hand, half ridden lesson to make sure she is confident with him form the moment she arrives on the yard.
 
I agree with the others, 3 weeks isn't very long, it takes time to get used to each other. My sharer couldn't get my pony to go on a hack twice, she just refused to move! This hadn't ever happened before. My pony likes to see what she can get away with! I agree its harder if you don't know if the owner minds if you give the horse a tap with whip. If she's having lessons and is keen I'm sure you can sort it out.
 
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