my bfg
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Yard is divided into three blocks, my block consists of me, a very good mate and a M and D. M seemed lovely, D (my age) well known for having a chip on her shoulder but I'm pretty thick skinned so just ignore her bitchiness
Last year I lost my girl to arthritis and D messaged me to ask if I would share her horse, which I declined as I knew I wouldn't be able to stick to their forage regime, as in overly strict strip grazing and a token amount of hay when stabled which leads to their horses standing for 16 hours per night without hay (D's horse has obvious signs of gastric ulcers which are untreated) my horses have always been ad-lib
I acquired my current girl two months later and M&D turned a bit funny, as in not acting pleased for me and not liking FB posts about her, thought it odd but didn't say anything.
Things were stilted over winter, then D decided to keep a bicycle in our narrow tack room due to lack of storage at her home, it was in the way and the YO suggested it be moved to one of the barns, but D refused as apparently if anyone broke in to the yard they would take the bike (apparently ignoring the tack and trailers stored on site)
In Jan my mate asked D to move it, D refused but kept talking to her, in Feb I asked D to move it and both M&D kicked off, so far ive had the following:
Them loudly talking about issues I've had at work (I work with the Dad of the family and was being bullied by my then boss)
Them loudly talking about my confindence issues, though M is in the same boat and D can't hack solo, which I've done
D yelling down the yard at me move blocks, M adding if I moved they wouldnt have to share "their" yard with a "child"
Them talking loudly about my tack, I keep it simple, where as D rides in gadets, strong bit, spurs and they lead their horses in chiffneys as they're afraid of them, but others (including me) have led them in headcollars without issue
When I have a hacking lesson they stand in their fields and stare at me leaving the yard
When I'm lunging in the school they stand and stare at me
D unfriended me on FB and I've had to remove M as she was sharing my old posts
Now had to block both as they were commenting on every fellow yard persons FB posts straight after I did
M has stood videoing me leading my girl in from her field
M has told other liveries that I must have gone through their stuff in the feed room as I swept the whole floor instead of to the halfway point like they do
They have got one livery to leave the yard by directing this sort of behaviour towards them, although i find their behaviour pathetic it wont make me consider leaving, im there to look after my girl not to be bothered by a pair of immature freaks
I've ignored them so far, except for one time when they loudly commented on the fact that I had arrived had "lowered the atmosphere" this was just an hour after I had attended the cremation of a very good mate and I was in no mood for their rubbish, so I accused D of stalking me
My question is what do others think may be the root cause of it, I'm thinking some sort of jealousy coupled with an insecurity complex where they try to make others feel bad to make themselves feel better
Last year I lost my girl to arthritis and D messaged me to ask if I would share her horse, which I declined as I knew I wouldn't be able to stick to their forage regime, as in overly strict strip grazing and a token amount of hay when stabled which leads to their horses standing for 16 hours per night without hay (D's horse has obvious signs of gastric ulcers which are untreated) my horses have always been ad-lib
I acquired my current girl two months later and M&D turned a bit funny, as in not acting pleased for me and not liking FB posts about her, thought it odd but didn't say anything.
Things were stilted over winter, then D decided to keep a bicycle in our narrow tack room due to lack of storage at her home, it was in the way and the YO suggested it be moved to one of the barns, but D refused as apparently if anyone broke in to the yard they would take the bike (apparently ignoring the tack and trailers stored on site)
In Jan my mate asked D to move it, D refused but kept talking to her, in Feb I asked D to move it and both M&D kicked off, so far ive had the following:
Them loudly talking about issues I've had at work (I work with the Dad of the family and was being bullied by my then boss)
Them loudly talking about my confindence issues, though M is in the same boat and D can't hack solo, which I've done
D yelling down the yard at me move blocks, M adding if I moved they wouldnt have to share "their" yard with a "child"
Them talking loudly about my tack, I keep it simple, where as D rides in gadets, strong bit, spurs and they lead their horses in chiffneys as they're afraid of them, but others (including me) have led them in headcollars without issue
When I have a hacking lesson they stand in their fields and stare at me leaving the yard
When I'm lunging in the school they stand and stare at me
D unfriended me on FB and I've had to remove M as she was sharing my old posts
Now had to block both as they were commenting on every fellow yard persons FB posts straight after I did
M has stood videoing me leading my girl in from her field
M has told other liveries that I must have gone through their stuff in the feed room as I swept the whole floor instead of to the halfway point like they do
They have got one livery to leave the yard by directing this sort of behaviour towards them, although i find their behaviour pathetic it wont make me consider leaving, im there to look after my girl not to be bothered by a pair of immature freaks
I've ignored them so far, except for one time when they loudly commented on the fact that I had arrived had "lowered the atmosphere" this was just an hour after I had attended the cremation of a very good mate and I was in no mood for their rubbish, so I accused D of stalking me
My question is what do others think may be the root cause of it, I'm thinking some sort of jealousy coupled with an insecurity complex where they try to make others feel bad to make themselves feel better