What to do…

[Caol Ila]

I'm trying to do both. Keep my youngster (and her BOGOF foal) but I'm on the hunt for a riding horse, who I will sell (LOL) or share (more likely) when the youngster is old enough to work full time. The BOGOF is being sold once he's weaned because I need two babies like a hole in the head. But I don't have children, and I bought the 3-year old with the view that I might have two for a wee while, because I really did think my old horse -- who I had to PTS at the start of June -- would rally.

But I totally understand how having a baby you can't ride is really frustrating.

 

[meleeka]

I could keep her for the summer, see how I get in with the ridden and then decide. However I don’t want to get too close to winter then being stuck with one I can’t sell! But there’s a while of summer left yet

If you offer her back to the breeder you shouldn’t have that problem. Even if they don’t want her back, if her bloodlines are as good as mentioned above, it doesn’t sound like you’ll have any trouble selling.

You’ll either click with the new one or you’ll realise what you have is what you want. It’s a win win if you can take your time.

 

[PSD]

I'm trying to do both. Keep my youngster (and her BOGOF foal) but I'm on the hunt for a riding horse, who I will sell (LOL) or share (more likely) when the youngster is old enough to work full time. The BOGOF is being sold once he's weaned because I need two babies like a hole in the head. But I don't have children, and I bought the 3-year old with the view that I might have two for a wee while, because I really did think my old horse -- who I had to PTS at the start of June -- would rally.

But I totally understand how having a baby you can't ride is really frustrating.

I also didn’t think I’d lose my mare so I was fine to wait a while to ride my youngster. But now I’ve had nothing to ride for over a year and wouldn’t mind just being able to have a bit of fun after a rubbish time.

I’m going to view the ridden one next weekend to see what’s what. Who knows, he may not be suitable! Then I can make a decision. It’s a hard situation but I need to be realistic with where I put my money, up to now she’s just an expensive pet whom I get virtually no joy out of. In fact it’s the opposite of joy, it’s quite stressful!

 

[Caol Ila]

It is a hard situation. I’ve threatened to sell my 3yr old multiple times, not least since she’s become a teen mum. But she could be a stunning dressage horse and I genuinely like her. Hence finding the second riding horse and committing to selling the foal.

Everyone says my old horse left me with a gift when we realised my baby was pregnant on the day she died. That was definitely weird, but I could do with Gypsum now.

 

[chaps89]

Quite right. 12 is a fabulous age and he’s already seen/done most of what I want to do. He’s absolutely lush too, right up my street. I’m going to arrange to view him next weekend and go from there, not really much point me making a decision until I know if he’s what I’d want in a horse. I always said I’d never have a gelding too, so who knows maybe a change is good.

Tbh, based on everything else you've posted on this thread, I would be selling her on regardless of whether the other horse suits or not.
It doesn't sound like you've clicked, nor that you have the time to set you both up for success. There's nothing wrong in admitting that, quite the opposite in fact.
YCBM sums it up well when she says the horse deserves to be someone's number one.
TFF knows her stuff when it comes to Fells so I'd listen to her advice too.

 

[FlyingCircus]

I'd sell, I never think it's fair when people with no time or inclination bring youngsters on half-heartedly. I think it is a really important job, which you only have one chance to do right. If it goes wrong (due to lack of time/commitments) you or someone else ends up having to spend even longer picking up the pieces later down the line.

 

[windand rain]

I am the opposite would never sell a baby for an unknown someones problem horse or even if he is perfect his age would pt me off a bit. Not because he is old but unless you know his current owners well you do not know what wear and tear he has had. I do concede I have always raised my own or had young horses only tried loaning an older horse once it was a disaster

 

[SatansLittleHelper]

Meet and try the other horse and then decide..??
I personally think I'd be inclined to sell regardless...unless something changes dramatically you are time poor and that's stressful enough. Life's short, have fun

 

[PSD]

I am the opposite would never sell a baby for an unknown someones problem horse or even if he is perfect his age would pt me off a bit. Not because he is old but unless you know his current owners well you do not know what wear and tear he has had. I do concede I have always raised my own or had young horses only tried loaning an older horse once it was a disaster

This has always been my view but times have changed for me and I just want to take a back seat and enjoy the hobby. After having such a huge loss it’s been so hard to get enjoyment out of it.

Luckily owner of ridden is known well by my YO and a few of my friends and has been open about any issues horse has had. I wouldn’t say he was too old either, as I say I’ll view him and then decide. I have a niggling feeling he may overhorse me

 

[Gloi]

It’s more the time it’s going to take to train her that I’m lacking in, my time away from the kids is the time I want to spend enjoying my hobby

If you don't consider having a young one enjoying your hobby then sell. For me this is my favourite time with them and there is usually someone around whose horse needs riding occasionally.

 

[southerncomfort]

You are overthinking. Your Fell will easily carry you and even with kids you will probably have no trouble training her, it's not like she's a TB.

Agree. My Fell is 13hh ( think he will just squeeze 13.1hh) and I'm 5'3. I'm backing him now (after an enforced break trying to find a saddle) and I don't feel big on him at all. He still has a bit of filling out to do but already takes up my leg nicely and is lovely to sit on.

I do understand though. When you're thinking about a youngster's education and all the various steps you have to take to end up with a happy well educated pony, it can feel daunting! And if you're busy with life generally it can seem impossible. I think you have to really enjoy working with youngsters and be excited about the journey and the pony's potential.

What I will say is that I've found my Fell to be very clever and quick to learn so we haven't had to go over things again and again. Plus after a break I find he hasn't forgotten anything.

I will admit though that even though I've backed youngsters before, I've really worried about getting things wrong and ruining him. He's a quality pony from a well regarded stud and I feel strong sense of responsibility towards his breeders to bring out his full potential.

I have on several occasions told my husband that I'm going to sell him to someone better!

I think if your pony doesn't make your heart sing and you're not excited about the future with her then it makes perfect sense to sell her on and you shouldn't feel guilty about that at all.

 

[ycbm]

I have on several occasions told my husband that I'm going to sell him to someone better!

How did your husband feel about that? I don't think I'd get a very good price for mine now, he's cracking on a bit. I should have bitten the bullet a couple of decades back when he was worth more.
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[I'm Dun]

Sell/ I hung on to my pony for over a year because she was such a brilliant pony and I loved her. The problem was I didnt like riding her. I have debated it and even said I'm going to sell her but never followed through with it. Until 3 weeks ago when circumstances forced my hand. Shes sold now and in an amazing home. I get a tear in my eye every time I see photos of her and her new owner. My new horse arrives Wednesday and I cant wait!

 

[southerncomfort]

How did your husband feel about that? I don't think I'd get a very good price for mine now, he's cracking on a bit. I should have bitten the bullet a couple of decades back when he was worth more.
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[PSD]

S

Agree. My Fell is 13hh ( think he will just squeeze 13.1hh) and I'm 5'3. I'm backing him now (after an enforced break trying to find a saddle) and I don't feel big on him at all. He still has a bit of filling out to do but already takes up my leg nicely and is lovely to sit on.

I do understand though. When you're thinking about a youngster's education and all the various steps you have to take to end up with a happy well educated pony, it can feel daunting! And if you're busy with life generally it can seem impossible. I think you have to really enjoy working with youngsters and be excited about the journey and the pony's potential.

What I will say is that I've found my Fell to be very clever and quick to learn so we haven't had to go over things again and again. Plus after a break I find he hasn't forgotten anything.

I will admit though that even though I've backed youngsters before, I've really worried about getting things wrong and ruining him. He's a quality pony from a well regarded stud and I feel strong sense of responsibility towards his breeders to bring out his full potential.

I have on several occasions told my husband that I'm going to sell him to someone better!

I think if your pony doesn't make your heart sing and you're not excited about the future with her then it makes perfect sense to sell her on and you shouldn't feel guilty about that at all.

She’s a lovely little mare and she does make my heart feel warm, she really is a sweetheart and she kept me going through the grief.

I don’t even know if the issue is the pony, maybe it’s me. Maybe I’m afraid of getting too attached and having my world turned upside down again.

 

[Gloi]

S

She’s a lovely little mare and she does make my heart feel warm, she really is a sweetheart and she kept me going through the grief.

I don’t even know if the issue is the pony, maybe it’s me. Maybe I’m afraid of getting too attached and having my world turned upside down again.

Probably best not to make any drastic decisions until you are feeling more together in yourself then.