What to do now? Advice please

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I've had my 7yr old ish for a year . She is my first horse & I think I was quite naive when I bought her. I was told she was a first horse but have since learned she was very green and had done very little . I am quite a nervous rider & have had loads of issues with her but have persevered and we were getting on ok . 2 weeks a go she threw me off a big nasty get off buck. Since then my confidence is shot to bits in back to whereI was months ago.
If I'm being honestly myself I think I need to sell her on & get something that has been there ad done that. It will break my heart but I think it's the right thing to do. Please don't criticise ths is not an easy decision . I just want to enjoy my horse & not be constantly worried . Has anyone else been in this situation I would love any advise on what to do :(
 
Who sold you this horse? I abhore sellers that do not ensure a good fit between horse and rider and yes, if this horse is green and you are a first owner, not always a good combination.

As for the issue at hand, can you tell us what led up to the big buck?

There could be any number of reasons why the horse did this and it would be worth you finding out what triggered it, especially if you are going to sell the horse on as you want to make sure you sell her to a home that can cope well with her.

As for selling her on yes, I think that it could be a sensible thing to do. As much as I think it can be very beneficial to you as a rider and horsewoman to work through any issues with this horse...if it is going to ruin your confidence like this, it won't do either of you any good.

What kind of access do you have to expert help?
 
When I was sold this horse I made sure she knew I was a novice owner & also the I was nervous. I ve only found out recently that she was prone to bucking prior to being sold. To be honest she has brought my riding on & if I had endless time to ride everyday & I didn't have kids to consider I would stick with her . I just want to enjoy my hobby & not be forced to ride everyday .x
 
I have been exactly where you are. My last mare bucked me off, then seemed to realise how easy it was. She could be a little star but as soon as she got bored she would just dump you. I had the whole set of check before anyone shoots me down, had her professionally schooled etc but she still did it on occasion and I stopped riding her as I didnt trust her any more. I sold her on and at the time of making the decision was heartbroken, but I have never regretted it. Horses and supposed to be fun not a chore.

My new boy is amazing :)

My advice would be to get the horse checked out and make sure there isnt a physical problem with it and then go from there. I always used to be the kind of person to never give up, but when your safety and enjoyment is at stake, then go with your gut. No one should criticise you for selling on and getting a horse more suitable that you can enjoy.

Good luck with whatever you decide to do. xx
 
I think horses for courses is a great saying. I had a lovely talented querky warmblood straight from Belgium, when I first got him I had time to ride properly every day and he was fine. After 2 years I changed jobs and had to cut down to riding only 4/5 times a week one or two being a quick hack/ lunge. He turned into a nightmare, didn't suit him at all. I had a period of 2 months where literally I fell off every single day, he learned how to drop a sholder and shoot me out of the side door and I learned to land on my feet reins still in my hand (funny now when I look back at it).
Nothing was wrong with me or the horse we just didn't suit each other anymore, it took me a while to be honest with myself but once he'd gone (to a teenager who wanted to hunt and thought he was the best thing since sliced bread, as did her instructor) and I found a horse that was happy without hard work everyday we were all much happier.
There is absolutely no disgrace in admitting a realtionship doesn't work and looking to find a better situation for both your horse and you in the long term.
I think a lot of people stick with the wrong horse because in the horse world there seems to be a stigma around admitting you were wrong! I also think in this situation both the horse and owner miss out on a good relationship (so those that hang on to them for the horses sake I think are a little mistaken also)
 
Honesty with yourself is the thing in this situation and from your post I think you know this is not the horse for you .
One persons problem horse is someone else's dream horse it's no failure to admit this and more forward good luck.
 
It does sound like the wrong horse for you. It probably was for the seller too, and tbh, it's the buyer who has to take what the seller says with a pinch of salt a lot of the time, and make sure they test the horse out. Buyer beware and all that. You really don't have any redress with the seller, so i wouldn't dwell on what's done.

I really would think about getting this horse reschooled and sold on, and then go for something very safe - a COB !! hahaha, I'm biased there :)
 
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