what to do??sorry long

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At yard mother spoke to me about something I said to her daughter.She wasn't nasty (btw neither had I been to daughter (15) it was on a subject that was annoying a few of liveries and I get to a stage when get sick of the bitching and will just say to person)fair do's don't have a problem with that.
Its what she said afterwards that girl had said my OH had a go at kid about about picking rubber out of feet or something and had been watching her ride and they didn't want him watching her.It wasn't til afterwards I thought WTF IS SHE IMPLYING!!!!.Am sitting here fuming and letting it fester hence this post.Mate said should go say that to her but 1)don't want atmosphere on yard.And mate was also there when I spoke to kid in fact she spoke as well
and 2)despite vibes I give off I don't like confrontations if I can help it
OH wouldn't have said anything to kid he would have come to ME so I would do it.This is what he does with EVERYTHING so know he wouldn't say it to someone he barely knew
So should I let it die a death and see how goes.OH was livid when told him and said if I pointed them out he would set her straight-would be verbally not violently lol!
Have got them on facebook but now feel that well thats its inappropriate if they think that of OH.But would that be petty
OH is not up to yard that often and when he does he goes off cycling or follows me around poo picking in new school.
I just want to screeeeeeeeeeeeeaaaaammmmmmmmmmmm.
Thanks and have a large drink if you get this far.Wish I could but don't drink and have packed in the ciggies 6 weeks ago.Boy do I want one!!
 
Talk to your YO/YM - rather than having a go at them and possibly starting a "he said/she said" type of row - that is an offensive thing to imply about your OH and the YO needs to talk to them about the correct procedure to make a complaint like that. Might make the bad feeling drag on a little longer IYSWIM but it should solve it once and for all in the end rather than have nasty rumours popping up every now and again....

TBH, if you have a complaint about another livery (and can't be sorted with a very general comment their way) again it should go to the YO for them to deal with.

BTW, I KNOW adults shouldn't have to behave like this, we should be able to sort out minor niggles between ourselves but an awful lot of the time it doesn't work like that:(
 
Its very much a diy yard ,cbmcts,imo reason you get situations with 40 diyers in a small space!YO likes confrontation even less than I do lol!Its a great yard and don't want to leave but this makes me want to leave iykwim.tThe people concerned aren't stupid people tho was warned a bit weird but thought hey ho take as you find !!Won't be doing that again!
Maybe seem better in morning but aaaaaaaarRRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGH...
 
Oh, in that case, have a very quiet (but with a witness!) word along the lines that you hope that you have misunderstood what they are implying about your OH otherwise you'd be really, really angry......rest best left unsaid and twice as effective for it ;) Then turn and walk away.
 
Thanks again for reply.Mate has said see YO re initial problem that caused this tho have told them they can do that part.Plus same as you said speak to person and she is willing to act as 'witness'.
Will prob come to head tomorrow either way as will not be able to talk to woman politely so better just to shut up.So will either cry,rant or thump her!or all 3
Have since found that woman fell out with other livery re talking to daughter.
 
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