what would you do?/ livery yards gloucester

[moodymares]

hi all haven't logged on for a while but need some advice please.
three months (ish) ago i had a major argument with my parents after suffering 14years of abuse and finally got the guts to say i wasnt going back there, this in turn meant i lost the use of 'the family' horse whom i would ride 5/6times a week and had put alot of work into to get him hacking alone jumping etc. i had already been offered share of a friends horse and have was riding him aswell as well as the heavy. then i agreed with his owner i would have him at least two days a week and do the required stable jobs on those days, no problem what so ever and my friend has paid for me to have lessons on her horse over the past few weeks and we are all very happy with the arangement.

the lady who took me in when it all kicked off with my parents is lovely, i have known her for years and used to take her daughter out on pony rides when she (now 6) was 2. back in april or may i mananged to get her a free share of a pony who she has learnt more riding skills with. we have helped to look after the pony when his owner was away etc and again we are all very happy with the arangement. both of theese horses are at the same yard.

however the yard the two shares are at is the same yard that my parents stable the heavy and they are being (mildly compared to how i know they are) rude and generally obnoxious to my friend, i can cope when its me but not the lady who has taken me in, given me everything i need, got me the help i need mentally and emotionally, helped get a new job this list is endless! My friend cares so much she will not allow me to go to the yard alone because she is worried they will attack me again. but she is disabled and we have agreed for the time being she will come up with me and her little girl twice a week and we will 'pony ride' muck out, turn out etc etc all together to keep each other safe.

but i dont feel its fair that she has been put in this position, its really hard for her but i know she knows how important the horses are especially whilst im going through therapy and stuff.

i am unsure of what to do.
do i:
look for a horse on full loan to go on diy or assisted diy/part livery at a different yard?
keep going up the current yard?
i really am at a loss and this is really hard to explain, i am only 19 but really need a horse in my life for my sanity!!!
also does anyone know of anyone know of any livery yards in gloucester area?

all responses greatfully recieved, but i have tried sorting things out with my parents.
thanks all

 

[Dolcé]

Haven't really got any advice but just wanted to say I really feel for you and hope it all works out ok for you and your friend

 

[moodymares]

thankyou, we are currently seeking help, and looking into moving away from this area but untill i start my new job i cannot get the loan required to decorate any house we are offered. its very hard putting my closest friend in this position and my main priority is making sure that her and the little one are safe at all times. i'm just really unsure of how i am going to make this work with me and little one needing our free shares so much. does anyone know about livery yards/horses for loan or share in burnham on sea, brean, berrow area etc?=
x

 

[Dobby]

Firstly, good on you for getting yourself out of a horrible situation and back on track!

If they are very aggressive and intimidating, could you perhaps get the police involved? Maybe your parents will tone it down after a word from a police officer to show you won't stand for that kind of behaviour.

Another option - would the yard owner consider telling your parents to move their horse to another yard? They can't be allowed to treat fellow liveries like that for any reason.

 

[marmalade76]

I agree with Dobby, and if you can't sort it move yards - it's not nice for you or your friend to have to put up with an atmosphere.

Exactly where in Glos are you? I would possibly consider a share with the *right* person, have a child's pony too. PM if you prefer.

 

[moodymares]

hi, thankyou all so much, unfortunatly i cannot get the police involved as it would get me into a lot of trouble for talking about the issue and i dont feel able to take the risk whilst i still have to see them, i have made an agreement with my friend that when we have moved away i will look into taking action but for the time being i just want to be safe. I live in stonehouse and it looks like i will be in this area approx one more year before we move, would anyone know anything about getting councill houses? i currently live with my friend and her little one in a two bedroom house and i am on the housing list but we are hoping to get a three bedroom house all together when we move. the therapist i started seeing has said i must stay living with my friend that my parents are away at the moment so im spending lots of time with the horses and am able to go to the yard on my own to 'escape' for half an hour or so and i have realised now more than ever that this situation isn't helping and i need to have a horse stabled somewhere where i can do this all the time rather then just when they are away. Also they do not look after the heavy properly in my opion and this breaks my heart so i do think i need to move away from the current yard.