What would you do?

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SophieLouBee

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Right, As you all know I'm selling my mare (without sucess)....

I have had someone emailing me about her, and agreed to let her come tomorrow and see her, gave her my tel so she could contact me.
I asked questions about what she wanted darcy for, how much experience she had, where she woulkd be kept etc etc. Got a reply, "years of experience, own land and stables, wanted a good allrounder and nice person"

I was like, oh ok, I'll agree to let them have a look.

Then I get a call this morning (went to voicemail), from someone, who wasn't who I was originally speaking to, saying that I have been speaking to *won't name* via email, but it's person on phone that is coming to see the horse. I guess the person emailing is a friend or daughter.

Not once was this mentioned in the email, it was always made out that it was person emailing coming to see horse.

To add to that, the person on the phone, has already called and emailed!!! First off said she wasn't ineterested. Which was good, because I didn't think mare would be suitable anyway. I then had and email from her a week later, asking if she was still availiable, which I ignored (in hindsight I shouldn't have).

I have mentioned this person in another post, she sold her horse-of-a-lifetime (14yrs to be exact), a week prior to calling me. It just felt like she was trying to replace the horse she'd just sold, which put me off.

Now I'm thinking, what the hell to do. She obviously MUST really want to come and see her. BUT she has been decietful about it.

I don't really want someone who feels they have to go to that length, to buy her really. I also don't want her to go somewhere where she is totally on her own (which she will be).


I know I must be the seller from hell, but I care about this mare so much, I just want to find her forever home.

What are your guys opinions? What would you do?
 
Well is there any harm in the person coming to see the mare? It doesn't mean you have to sell the mare to her.
You never know the person may turn out to be lovely, and get on well with your mare but is just a bit skatty. The otherside of it is she may be a witch. Either way you still get the deciding vote!
 
Surely the only joy of selling is to have control over who your beloved horse goes to?! But perhaps for the sake of word of mouth, it might be worth letting them come to see her: it'll still be you making the decision, even if it does remain a firm no!
 
Let them have a look, you may have got the wrong impression of them.

But dont be forced into anything,you dont have to sell her to them.
It up to you to accept of refuse an offer.
 
Some people always want what they can't have, until they get it. Its up to you whether you allow this person to view or not, but don't be pressured into selling if you aren't happy. Your horse is powerless to chose her new owner, its the final act of caring you can give her by doing your best to ensure her future well being.
You owe the viewer nothing but curtesy. If you feel confident your horse will be kept with company and she seems suitable, then go for it, she might be ok in reality.
 
I sent a polite, but too the point e-mail saying that I was a little shocked to find out the person who I thought was coming to see the mare, wasn't.

Then explained that I really didn't think mare would be suitable, and told them I'd like to cancel the viewing as I didn't want to waste their time.

They have quite a long way to travel, for this reason I didn't want them to come all the way here, when I'd already decided that I wasn't going to sell anyway. I was hesitant before, because she would be kept on her own, as in, completely alone on 1 acre, I don't think she'd cope with that. The situation as it stands just made me confirm that I definately did not want to sell!

Never mind eh!
 
I don't think you are being fussy at all, you just care about what sort of home your mare goes to - and rightly so!

If you don't like the sound of the person and don't think they will be able to provide a suitable home for your horse, just give them a call and explain that you don't think it will work. You say she would have to be kept on her own and she won't like this so use that as an excuse!

Good luck! :)
 
I also think you did the right thing. Aside from everything else, I don't think it's fair to ask any herd animal to live alone. Whether they can or not, it's still unfair.

Besides I think your gut instinct made the choice for you.
 
Thanks guys, needed to hear that!

Emailed me saying she didn't see what the problem was...
Er? Outright hiding the real identity of the person coming to see the horse when you had every opportunity to tell me?

Didn't grant it with a reply!
 
I would have done the same as you. I wouldn't let either of them come and look at the horse but I would email this dodgy person back and tell them exactly why I'm not letting them come to see my horse.
 
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