When is enough enough?

Such a brave decision.

I think when there has been of long illness or contining issues and procrastinating on what to do, you suddenly reach a point where theres no more thinking about what might happen in terms of recovery; enough is enough mentally and you suddenly make that decision and there is no backing out.

And it's a sensible call, you will feel better in yourself too - maybe not immediately - but you soon will.

Hugs for Friday

xx
 
What a difficult situation to be in. And a brave decision to make. I went to a lecture by the then ILPH years ago and one of the speakers said something in respect of putting a horse to sleep that will stay with me forever:

'better three months too early than a day too late'

Three months sounds a lot but this was in reference to a horse they they had struggled with for 3winters, for it to perk up each summer. But each winter was worse than the last. And they made the decision to PTS during the summer, when she was well.

I hope I can be as brave when the time comes for my two oldies.

Take care, I hope you don; thave too much in the was of repercussions with OH.
 
I'll be thinking of you tomorrow.(((hugs)))

Sometimes I think men function 'in denial'..in that they don't want to face up to how bad things are...

I lost my horse a few months ago suddenly to colic....when I found him and realised how bad it was, I rang my OH whilst waiting for the vet and OH was like 'don't worry, Des will be fine, he's as tough as old boots'. When the vet confirmed the prognosis wasn't good and it was most likely PTS, OH was wanting to go down the surgical route....I knew it wasn't in the horses best interests and didn't want to put him through it. When OH came down to the yard and he actually saw how ill Des was, and how old he looked suddenly- OH knew that PTS was the best option. He had never really 'gelled' with my horse, but OH sobbed like a baby when he was PTS.

Its a pity your OH can't be there to see for himself.....:(
 
You are braver than most who can't face that final decision so you have do do what is right. I lost a horse two years ago as an emergency so the decision wasn't mine but should have been taken before it became an emergency. And a day or two later the horse of my dreams turned up in my life. And I felt no guilt because I had loved and cared for the old horse who was 20yo and had been homebred, but who was clearly suffering. Men can be really funny about these things, they have much deeper feelings than they realise I think. Good luck and you know you have support from your vet. I er em told my OH that I was getting the new one on loan and then somehow or other she became mine and nothing was ever said about it.
 
Not an easy time any time and with the other issues it is even harder.
Thinking of you at this sad time.
Hugs
Bryndu
 
Sorry but whenever I've PTS its always been about 2 weeks too late. Just because I wasn't tough enough (nor OH)

Do what's best for the horse and grieve with OH.

We will never make this mistake again
 
hope things went as well as they could have gone under the circumstances and i hope you have support both in person and from your OH (if he's still away).

thinking of you, i know you loved him and you've worked endlessly with the vets to help him. you have made the right decision for him and i'm sure he appreciated everything you did for him.

RIP Oscar. x
 
Thank you so much guys.

I know it was the right thing to do and I feel Oscar knew it was coming and was happy. It was the first time he has ever stood like a lamb to get a needle in the vein in his neck. Can't describe that but made everything easier. Would also say that my vet was fantastic through it all including the tears and did everything he could to help me and Oscar through it.
 
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