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All I want to do is escape to the yard!

FIL starts on the whiskey at 11am and is the most obnoxious, opinionated, snide and mean person when he has had a drink...but lovely sober.

MIL is lovely, but leaves crap literally spread out all over the place, gets pissy if I move anything, stays up til 4 am because she has to eat a 1k bar of dairy milk every night at midnight, then isn't up until 1pm the following day. If anyone goes out, even to the flipping local co-OP to get milk, she gets in a huff that we have done stuff without her. She will get really excited to go and do something she wants to do, but if everyone wants to do something she doesn't, she will say she is unwell and we all have to stay in. Then...guaranteed, if we say we could do what she wanted to do, she will make a miraculous recovery.

We have four very well behaved dogs, they have two little *****bags that yap, growl, hiss and go completely out of control at the sight of other dogs. We keep ours out of the way, but parents in law want them to meet. We cannot leave them t home with our dogs. Last time we did, they decided it would be ok to let them all play as me and OH would never find out. Well...both of their little rats went nuts and me and OH got home to have to pull one off one of ur collies and the other off our Jack Russel. Or dogs know not to do anything, but we were furious.

One of our collies used to need a muzzle because he had issues with people being loud...not good when FIL was drunk. FIL would then call us mean, cruel, shouldn't have dogs etc because we muzzled him!!!

They arrived two hours ago and I am already pulling my hair out. Making gravy and FIL puts a spoon in, tastes in, then puts the same spoon back in...FOUR times, slurping gravy with his head over the pan. I seriously cannot cope with double dipping...it make my stomach turn. My OH and I really struggled at dinner with his slurping and lip smacking and belching and my nerves are shot.

MIL is now complaining about me not letting her ride either of the horses. One is a TB, one was only backed yesterday...MIL is 16st8lbs!!!
She has just been telling us how much she tries to lose weight. She eats, as well as the 1k of dairy milk every midnight...a box of celebrations a day, a packet of wine gums and a packet of weathers a day...the grab size bags, so not small.
She still eats full meals and does no exercise whatsoever. She has lots of health problems, but of course, there is nothing she can do about them and it has nothing to do with her weight:rolleyes:

FIL is now telling OH how useless he is and generally belittling everything we do...is makes me so angry, watching the hurt caused to my OH...I could honestly swing for him!

This sounds awful, I do love them, but even OH doesn't want them here. Our dogs have to spend four days being shut away because their precious little angels never get left alone, so our lot will be coming up the yard with me and sleeping in our room with us so they don't feel abandoned in their own home.

Well done if you've read this far.

Anyone else feel like this with the In Laws staying???

I think everyone deserves some baileys and cheesecake :D
 
Here is a good way to get through this.

You and your OH should plan an utterly decadent wonderful time together spoiling yourselves completely rotten. It may just be something as stupid as wandering around in knickers with crap TV or breakfast in bed. Just plan something totally for the pair of you and you will get through this.


its awful when people drink too much and your MIL sounds painful. Just support your OH and don't let him take his parents comments too much too heart. Chin up.. look forward to bed time and privacy!
 
Oooh I feel your pain! Next time they want to come tell them your dogs have got really bad fleas that aren't being killed by spot on. Plus you suspect ring worm. Works a treat to keep people away! !!
 
Poor you ! lets hope they are not staying long.

You could always try being evil and hiding the dairy milk lol

makes me glad I havnt got any :D
 
Luci07 said:
Here is a good way to get through this.

You and your OH should plan an utterly decadent wonderful time together spoiling yourselves completely rotten. It may just be something as stupid as wandering around in knickers with crap TV or breakfast in bed. Just plan something totally for the pair of you and you will get through this.


its awful when people drink too much and your MIL sounds painful. Just support your OH and don't let him take his parents comments too much too heart. Chin up.. look forward to bed time and privacy!
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Yeah...bedtime...MIL won't go to bed til 4am...so her back and for to the kitchen for snacks that she thinks we don't know about mean our dogs are on edge and we don't sleep until she does:rolleyes:

FIL is who he is. OH doesn't take any notice of what he says as when he is sober he wouldn't ever say those things, but still hard to hear.

Good idea...I think I may book us a rally day for next weekend to celebrate getting through the weekend alive and without being done for double murder :eek::eek:
 
I feel your pain! And can I have Baileys and cheesecake? :D

Ban FIL from kitchen when cooking. I'd have chucked the gravy, it now has his spit in it, that would have me gagging, quite possibly I would have involuntarily thrown up. :( He sounds like my mother. Yuk.

Ban their dogs, tough, your house. :mad:

Make out the TB has a back issue (God forbid!) I can't imagine any TB taking that weight! :eek:

Organise an agenda for the day, no deviations. Stick to it, tough on MIL.

Go to bed stupid early to escape.

Don't ever invite them again and stay at a hotel if you go to visit them. Best solution!
 
Laugh, just laugh at everything they do, get clever and pour some of the gravy into another bowl for you and oh before fil comes tasting, feel for the poor lil dogs do they really have a great life no exercise, listening to fil getting loud when drunk, making them insecure, support your oh and dont complain it wont be forever, be happy they are still alive that they can come and disturb your peaceful house once in a while.
 
gingerarab said:
Poor you ! lets hope they are not staying long.

You could always try being evil and hiding the dairy milk lol

makes me glad I havnt got any :D
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MIL comes with...and I am not joking here...a blue Ikea bag, the big one full of her "treats". The bag will be empty by the time they leave on Monday. My god that sounds a long time away :D

We didn't see them at Christmas. Last year we put our dogs in kennels for Christmas and had the worst time ever, so this year OH said they could stuff it...could only last so long though and at least when they come here, I can escape to the yard ;)
 
Hahaha...we didn't have the gravy...we let them have it all ;)

Can't tell them to go because despite all the carp, they can be lovely and when family is gone, they are gone, so for the sake of a few annoying days, I'd rather have them here than not have them in our lives at all. They have had a few telling a off already tonight, lol.

When MIL poked out her bottom lip out about not riding, I said, "if I had a weight carrier it would be possible, but you said earlier that we can't go to Westonbirt as you can't cope with steps...so you would only hurt yourself trying to climb on...not to mention the horses back". She took it well and shut up :D
 
Shysmum said:
To make things even worse, my PARENTS want me to go down and see them :eek: That is at least a month's recovery time - I am not joking. :(
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Haha...see, even OH says he would happily have my folks live with us. They are like part of the furniture when they are here. It's just easy and tbh, my OH says he only realised how annoying and inflexible his parents are after he got to know mine. I just think it is sad.
 
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