When you and your family disagree on the most major decision

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How is it resolved?!
Myself and my partner have different views on putting animals to sleep. I'm all for doing it before the energancy vet dash. When I think quality of life is sliding but not gone and the animal isn't in absolute pain.
My partner will stick his head in the sand (that's my opinion of course) and keep trying to persuade me or maybe himself that things are still fine until the choice is no longer a choice.
It's not been a huge issue as the horses are mine so over the years they have been my choice. Our joint ownership dog went downhill like a stone and I suspect even then he'd personally not have taken him to a vet if I'd not been around. So that wasn't our decision really.
Little dog was mine and I fear I left that a day too late as I let him talk me out of taking him to the vet on the Friday, instead it was energancy vets on a Sunday.
Thing is we have a dog who i think is nearing the end. No doubt he's still stupidly cheerful but he's just one of those dogs.
I'm so worried we are really going to come to blows over this one. I can see him going down hill but O/H seems blind to it, finding excuses (he's not sore he just fell down a step playing this morning.... Etc)
 
Best thing you can do (imo) is to both go with the dog for a welfare checkup (you having spoken to the vet previously on the qt expressing your concerns, and asking them to tell you in no uncertain terms if it's time to say goodbye to your dog when you visit). That way you've primed the vet, and your OH geys to hear it straight from the horses mouth so to speak.
 
I think Amymay's idea is a good one. I am sorry you will be facing this soon- I will be as well. Luckily OH trusts me to decide on the when and we've talked at length about how we will handle it when it happens as this is 'our' dog and his first from puppyhood to senior. He's going to take it very hard so having a plan will help I think.
 
Sorry about your dog Motherofchickens.
Amymay, that's a good idea. I may be wrong, he may indeed have hurt himself and it might be completely unrelated to his other issues. This would be my dream situation right now!
However the time will come one day so I'd like a plan.
 
As Amymay says, welfare check and tell the vet exactly what you're worried about. My OH and I were totally on the same page when it came to deciding to PTS, it wasn't a difficult decision. I would have been disappointed had he argued against it when the outcome was clear. When it's not so clear cut and the dog is happy, running round but then lame as hell sometimes, it's hard.
 
I do worry a bit about this. The 3 dogs we have now are "ours". The previous 3 were all mine before OH and I met so the final decisions were all mine and I am firmly in the "day too soon" camp. OH is a bit of a "head in the sand" type when it comes to matters such as this, he brought an elderly cat to the marriage and tbh, I felt he kept her for about a year too long. I tried and failed on several occasions to get him to take her to the vet for a check up. If Im absolutely honest, if push came to shove, I would make a decision without him and face the consequences afterwards. He knows me well enough to know that I will always put the animal first and I would hope that, knowing that, he would understand my decision and come to terms with it. Not a nice position to be in though and no easy answer is there :(
 
Its a problem I have been having with my OH - our opinions on "quality of life" are obviously rather different. However, we have talked endlessly in recent weeks and finally come to an agreement .... appointment has been made. :(
 
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