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Annette4

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With money the way it is and a distinct lack of horsey friends I’m beginning to think I’l never ride again. My confidence has gotten to a point where I’m too scared at the thought of getting on a riding school horse as I’m terrified they’re going to tell me I’m rubbish etc. I’m getting really worried I’m going to be too scared when I do get back on but I desperately want to. I love riding and I can’t imagine my life without it. It’s been over a year now, I should have gotten back on. I’m seriously wondering if I should even keep Saffy, she’s going to make a super horse and I don’t want her to be wasted, she deserves so much better than that. I’m missing that joy in my life and I don’t know what to do.

I don’t really know what I want from this other than to get it out of my system. With money the way it is and a distinct lack of horsey friends I’m beginning to think I’l never ride again. My confidence has gotten to a point where I’m too scared at the thought of getting on a riding school horse as I’m terrified they’re going to tell me I’m rubbish etc. I’m getting really worried I’m going to be too scared when I do get back on but I desperately want to. I love riding and I can’t imagine my life without it. It’s been over a year now, I should have gotten back on. I’m seriously wondering if I should even keep Saffy, she’s going to make a super horse and I don’t want her to be wasted, she deserves so much better than that. I’m missing that joy in my life and I don’t know what to do.

I don’t really know what I want from this other than to get it out of my system.
 
Dont give up, dont give up, dont give up. Tiny fairy steps. One at a time. You will get there. Your horse wont care what happens to her as long as shes fed, watered and warm. Are you on a livery yard? if so is there nobody there who could help you?

It will feel so good when you finaly get there and look back and think "wow, i did that" Dont let anyone pressure you into doing anything you dont want to do though!!

PHRx
 
Shils - Thanks :p

purplehorserocks - nope she's at a private place with a friends unbroken 5yo. Said friend has just had a second baby so I don't get much help at the moment.
 
I felt the same way - and still do to some extent.

The only thing that helped was starting with the basics on my own, such as attempting to mount but not actually mounting - then when that time came, I'd ask a friend to do so, so I could see what horses reaction was. They would do it several times with no problems - then I'd get on feeling confident that I'd be fine, and I was.

Friends are definately the biggest help in situations like this - but other than that, I know this sounds awful but I went to a riding school once and told them Id ridden as a child but had forgotten everything apart from the very basics such as getting on and holding reins - I told them I didnt have a clue how to trot, how to balance etc - as a result they treated me like Id never sat on a horse before which was perfect because I got the dopiest horse, and a very very gentle approach - only took me a few times before I realised I wasnt anywhere near as bad as I thought I was!

Youll get there - use your friends for support!
 
DO NOT GIVE UP.

I put getting back on off for so long and i really really wish i hadnt now. i was the same as you, and do you know what, it comes back, quickly! and yes maybe you might be a bit rubbish for a month or two, but hey, anyone would having taken years off!

So stop procrastinating, i mean bloodyaders if you want to give me the RS number I'LL book a lesson for YOU!
:)
 
I do make the most of my family and friends but none are horsey so they don't really understand and I don't get the chance to be around riding horses. I have horsey friends all over the country but none locally so no chance to just sit on a friends confidence giver. I'm aware I'm being negative and it's external as well as this but it's just gotten to me today.
 
ThePinkPony said:
DO NOT GIVE UP.

I put getting back on off for so long and i really really wish i hadnt now. i was the same as you, and do you know what, it comes back, quickly! and yes maybe you might be a bit rubbish for a month or two, but hey, anyone would having taken years off!

So stop procrastinating, i mean bloodyaders if you want to give me the RS number I'LL book a lesson for YOU!
:)
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Got to wait until I have the pennies then I may get my OH to do that actually :)
 
ahhh netty you'll ride again;) maybe not for another year but you will:) I had a 10 year break but the day i got back in the saddle i was hooked again:D and i've seen you ride so i know you're a good rider:p
i met a girl on the farm the other evening who I've never seen before, she asked if i could walk with her across the field because she was a bag of nerves even tho she knew her horse would be ok, she'd had a bad fall a few years ago and completely lost her nerve, when she finally plucked up the courage to get back on a horse she had to go on the lead rein, taken her months to get up to the point where she could hack out and the night i met her was the first time she had hacked out alone! doesn't matter if it takes you a while hun, you'll get there.
And as for saffy, she's a horse, she doesn't care if she has potential lol, all she cares about is grass;)
 
Thank you hun. Can't you move up north so I can play on Shell :p

I'm hoping I'll be in a position to take a friends 12hh pony when I move. I know I'm too tall for him but I brought him on and I know how much of a safe little dude he is (a certain chestnut from the same person I got Saffy from Ibblebibble). Meh we'll see. I know I always put a lot of pressure on myself, I always have.
 
Where in the country are you?

(Someone on here might have a happy little soul for you to get all emotional on to get it out of your system :) )
 
I have no idea where those places are (I don't get out much!!)

If its anywhere near Worcester you are more than welcome to come and play on the peej!!
 
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