Why do men feel the need to make rude gestures when they see women horse-riders?

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I had the passenger of a lorry make a very rude gesture at me the other day using his tongue and fingers... er, No thanks, mate! i'd rather ride my horse any day of the week!

I also had a creepy man comment on my "lovely thighs" which incidentally are very ordinary.

anyone else get this? how are you supposed to respond? i feel like i should a least have a few witty stock responses ready if i get the opportunity to let 'em have it.
 
As a man, I have always been puzzled by this sort of behaviour myself. It would never occur to me to shout or make any kind of gesture, and I don't really know what this sort of thing is supposed to achieve.

As for replies, I can only relay a story:

An elderly friend of my Mother in Law was having a some lunch at a cafe close to her home. Two male students from the local college came an sat close to her and started a whispered conversation. After a few moments, one of the boy said in a loud voice to the lady "Excuse me, are you a prostitute?". The lady replied "No dear, but if I was, you couldn't afford me". :D
 
Oh let's see, why is my horse better than a man? Well, he's gorgeous looking, never lets me down and always gives me a good time! :p
 
Personally, I have given up trying to understand the complexities of the mind of the human male !

There are exceptions (Neil) .......
 
Devonshire dumpling said:
I am 35 and been riding for ermmmmmm nearly as many years lol and never had anyone go past and do this?? Right Now I am offended lol
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:p

I can never think what to say but some friends are pretty good

I've had the 'oh you can use that whip on me anytime'

and

'does the whip come with leather thongs?' my friends reply was 'only when real men are around' :D


I can't remember what the guy said but another friend said 'you could never compete with what I have between my legs right now'
 
hahaha! i love ALL of these and will def be using them if i get these comments again!

@Devonshire Dumpling... you're obviously too engrossed in your horse and the lovely scenery to notice the rudeness going on all around you... trust me, it's happening!!!

haha:

still laughing at the "sixteen hands are better than two" and "the whip only coming out when the real men are about" responses in particular.
 
BonneMaman said:
Personally, I have given up trying to understand the complexities of the mind of the human male !

There are exceptions (Neil) .......
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Complex? Men? That's where you are going wrong :D It's we women who are complex and who over complicate things :D Men are simple creatures, by that I do not mean they are stupid:eek: More that they see things as black and white and simply ( :) ) don't over-complicate matters - that's our job lol :D

As for a response, instead of getting your high horse (pun intended :D), try something like "Do you want my number?", "Come on then darlin, this way", "Your place or mine" - often this unexpected response will terrify the ******** leching at you and he'll run a mile :D :D
 
I am a bloke and get comments from short sighted drivers, most of the time it has been chavvy yobs coming out with rude comments, the usual one has been "are you sh****g your horse", to which I reply, no, but your mother obviously sh****d one.

I also go for the obvious, if they are wearing glasses, I say, you obviously didn't got to Specsavers, as you look a total T**t in those.

There are others, be imaginative ;)
 
Pedantic said:
I am a bloke and get comments from short sighted drivers, most of the time it has been chavvy yobs coming out with rude comments, the usual one has been "are you sh****g your horse", to which I reply, no, but your mother obviously sh****d one.

I also go for the obvious, if they are wearing glasses, I say, you obviously didn't got to Specsavers, as you look a total T**t in those.

There are others, be imaginative ;)
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Ahhhhh Pedantic, you're such a poet!
 
Pedantic said:
I am a bloke and get comments from short sighted drivers, most of the time it has been chavvy yobs coming out with rude comments, the usual one has been "are you sh****g your horse", to which I reply, no, but your mother obviously sh****d one.

I also go for the obvious, if they are wearing glasses, I say, you obviously didn't got to Specsavers, as you look a total T**t in those.

There are others, be imaginative ;)
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Pedantic You don't half make me chuckle:D:D
 
soulfull said:
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I can never think what to say but some friends are pretty good

I've had the 'oh you can use that whip on me anytime'

and

'does the whip come with leather thongs?' my friends reply was 'only when real men are around' :D


I can't remember what the guy said but another friend said 'you could never compete with what I have between my legs right now'
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oh yes, oh yes, you have reminded me, I was walking past some builders and they said .."I will be your horse" ahhh it ok then I am not abnormal lol
 
roshah said:
hahaha! i love ALL of these and will def be using them if i get these comments again!

@Devonshire Dumpling... you're obviously too engrossed in your horse and the lovely scenery to notice the rudeness going on all around you... trust me, it's happening!!!

haha:

still laughing at the "sixteen hands are better than two" and "the whip only coming out when the real men are about" responses in particular.
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sok read above I remembered one! haha
 
"Wanna ride a real stallion?" UM yes please little boy could you point me in the direction of one?

"Why are you and your horse so fat?" (said to my OH while he was leading a mare in foal) OH-"Cus your mum gives me a biscuit every time I give her one" :0
 
I had a bloke and his sidekick sitting on the pole at the end of a bridleway engage me in a conversation about 'do I enjoy a good ride blah, blah, blah'. I just played along with them in an innocent way and he ended up laughing and telling me what a good sport I was. He was a ginger and so was my horse and I made some comment about preferring my redhead to him any day. It did make me smile though.

I also had some stupid kids being rude and one of them asked me if I wanted to see what was in his trousers. I asked him if he had ever seen the size of a horses penis (I was on a gelding) and that sent his mates into peals of laughter. They were quite pleasant after that asking questions about my horse and his black patch on a bay coat ('is that a birth mark?') etc.

I guess being older I don't get quite so offended and would rather laugh it off than get defensive (unless they are being really vile).
 
I never know what to say or where to look....I WISH I could come up with witty replies! I once got completely harassed by a car-full of young guys who kept turning around so they could drive back past me and make suggestive comments. I'm 21 and not a complete hag, but I was wearing the most ridiculous outfit ever (it was about -3 degrees) and had on ski trousers, a massive duffel coat and was bright red in the face from the cold, so I have no idea why they picked on me! In the end I just told them to ****** off and rode off up a track where they couldn't follow!
The most annoying thing that happens here in Lisbon is that I have my riding lessons in the middle of the city and then have to get the tube back home, by which point I'm all sweaty and disgusting (it was 30 degrees when I had my last lesson!). But I always get comments or gestures from men (on the way home, never on the way there :confused:), despite the fact I feel revolting. Maybe it's the whole jodhs + half chaps combo, but it's creepy!
 
Once when I was hacking out some guy with his friends decided to shout out to me

'Yo mate your horse as got four legs!' my reply 'no *****, as oposed to.....' him looking a bit embarrassed his other friends staring at him, his reply 'errr 3'. Me then laughing so hard I cried, his friends even laughing at him Much embarrassment for him. Lol I think he wanted to shout something cool, couldn't think of anything shouted that and then realised what a mistake he had made! Made my week though.
 
I can't see the attraction myself, having worked with horses for more years than I care to remember it would do me no good to letch over my clients and make suggestive comments anyway, even if I did mean it!
The worst thing I say to clients I am fitting saddles for and I can only do it with some as not all of them have a sense of humour is, "Right I need to see you on board the saddle then I can shove my fingers up your channel to see how much spine clearance there is"
They do take it in good humour, which it is, nothing creepy about it at all. I imagine it's the non horsey men who have a thing about ladies and riding horses?
Oz :)
 
a response showing you are not scared of them usually stops unpleasant exchanges. A reply of 'Language!' , or 'No need to be rude!' or even pretend you haven't heard the content of their witticism with, 'Morning!'. Builders behind metal fences can be asked when they are allowed out of their cages.
Rude gestures - reply with d**khead gesture. :eek:
 
I have always found the shouts very funny if they do get a bit repative after hearing the same sort of ones over the years, normally something along the lines of "sorry cant stop rather busy with the 17hh of pulsating muscle between my legs"
Normally leave them gawping open mouthed as i carry on giggling
 
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