Why do other people always have to interfer?

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welshied

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Why is it everyone on yards always think they know best? I was practising loading my youngster at the weekend and we had a rope on each side of the trailer as a walk way for him to walk down, anyways i was just getting him to the point where he was putting his feet on the ramp and looking inside and then YO comes over and grabs one of the ropes and put it tight around his bum and halled him onto the trailer and horse started panicking i told him to let go as he was scaring him he ignored me saying he is fine he has to learn etc and horse jumped on trailer so eh thought he was great then. One problem i cant get near his fecking backend now and can't even pick up his back legs and he used to be fine. You can only say so much to him otherwise he gets to the point where he chucks you off, but there are hardly any yards in my area.
And now thanks to him i am prob stuck with horse that will never want to go near trailer again, but i am frightened to do practise again incase it happens again! Rant over
 
how annoying and doublely annoying as he didn't listen to you. can you try again when he's not around- gone to shops or for a ride maybe???
 
Hes on the older side and is there all the time, have tried to move yards but there aint many around, i was planning to show him in a couple of weeks but can't even do that now as this wasn't the first time we had loaded him did it when YO wasn't well lol
 
oh dear, how about parking the trailer behind a barn out of his view? or have you got a friend at the yard who could distract him with something really important like (erm, thinking) just seen a dog in the field with one of the horses winding it up???? you can prob come up with a better important thing than that!!!x
 
next time you see him having a row with his wife go up smack him round the face and then turn to the wife and say "well hes got to learn" have you tried to load with the front of the trailer open so he can see right through ? and no one should touch your horse without your permission just because he owns the yard dont mean he owns whats in it, like those that buy a house and think they own the street, you know the type x
 
Just work with it and you should come through. MY grey in the siggy jumped over the breast bar and cut her whole head open as previous owners didnt say shed never had travel boots on when bringing her hoem and she went balistic it took not to long to get her to load and now is pretty good at loading, if your horse trusts you it will eventually come just work at being able to be fully trusted with back end and then just open up trailer so yuo can walk him straight through so he gets used to it also take out partition and slowly put the trailer to how you would have it when you travel
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Thanks so annoying as he had just got the most confident he has ever got with me handling his backend bathing etc now he won't even let me near his back legs
 
Polo's!!! Their magic, when i first had H you couldnt get anywhere near him, but with dad holding him and working my way around him slowly, i can pretty much do what i want with him. Every time he did something good, like pick up his foot dad gave him a polo, if he let me pick it up again and hold it there he got another, then pick up again and pick hoof out another polo, he soon sused that every time he did something he got a treat so it made it worth his while. Now theres no bribery except 'good boy & well done' and he does as asked. Is there someone that can help you do this?? might be worth a try..?
 
omg i wouldve had to punch the idiot, how dare he! you were doing the right thing and some idiotic no it all comes along!! grrrr

I am so glad I'm not on a yard with others!
 
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Grrrrrrrrr, pet hate is the older generation thinking that brut force is the only way.

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unfortuately its not just the older generation in my experience! i can't stand unsollicited advice, its something that really winds me up, i think some people interpret it to mean that i can't take criticism when really its just that if i want advice i'll ask...i don't offer any advice unless i'm asked though so i'm pretty well behaved! OP i have no real suggestions except be patient. i'm sure your youngster will soon forget whats happened if you keep being calm and consistent with him....
 
Didn't you yelling "Drop the feckin' rope" work then? Honestly, I've lost all patience with this sort of thing these days, and get very fierce very quickly.
 
Lol no it didn't i was telling him to let go he was saying hes alright and i was so angry but he has chucked someone off for having a go at him and they only got 1 weeks notice
 
Stand up for your self and tell the YO next time that although you appreciate their assistance (I'd use that rather interfere)you and your horse need to learn to do it together, after all your YO won't always be there to help you (I know it didn't help but choose your words wisely seen as its your YO to avoid any further problems) and well something to that description.

Its your horse not theirs, why should you be troubled with extra problems because they barged in and tried to show you how it 'should be done'.

You might get more respect if you explain to your YO the reasons why there way did not work etc and the problems it has now caused, rather than not saying anything (if see what I mean).

Good Luck.:)
 
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