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Went to look for a horse for sale this morning. Described as ideal 1st horse and 100% in every way.

When we got there we found it out it was a younger than advertised but he looked Sweet so watched the man ride him. Seemed fine so I went to get on. Didn't even get sat in the saddle and it was off broncing around the school and I went flying head first into the floor. I didn't do anything wrong when mounting and def didn't throw myself into the saddle or anything.

Had another to see this afternoon so got my instructor to come with us as I wasn't feeling up to riding but the horse sounded lovely so didn't want to miss out on viewing. He just wasn't as described.

Why don't people just advertise the horse how it actually is rather than lie and waste Everyone's time?

I've has a hot bath but am aching in places I didn't know existed! I also have bruises in the strangest places like my knuckles, ankles, feet and neck! Ouchies.

Please reassure me that there are good horses out there as today was the first day of looking!!
 
Sorry to hear of your bad experience. Unfortunately, we expect people to be as honest as ourselves,,,,,this quite often isn't the case and not just in buying horses!! I speak from experience..

Keep looking and Im sure you will find what your looking for. It usually happens when you are least especting it
 
There are good sellers out there who are totally honest about their horses, however when selling beginner horses many experienced people can find it difficult to ascertain whether their horse really is a beginner horse. They find the horse simple to ride and think that equates to 'beginner horse'. There's a lot more to it than that and there is a skill to being able to tell whether a horse is this or not. Horses can also be little sods too though, so it's not always down to seller's fibbing. Some horses who are absolute dobbins with their owners can spot a true beginner a mile off and will take every opportunity to exploits their lack of riding knowledge. I've seen it so many times where a horse who may well be a plod takes advantage of a true beginner rider and will do things very out of character. Buyers also often have a knack of overestimating their capabilities too so that can also put a spanner in the works at times.

I digress. I hope you find your perfect horse. They are out there but you might have to kiss a lot of frogs first.
 
Sorry to hereof yourexperiences. Hope you find the right horse soon.
Unfortunately this tarnishes us honest sellers. When I have sold people assume my statements are hiding something more sinister and don't take it seriously but I'm just saying it as it is.
 
Thanks for your replies everyone :)

I'm not a complete novice as have been sharing an ex-racehorse for the last 3 years. I don't mind a forward going horse or even the odd buck etc. will happily cope with a fresh horse and spooks etc don't bother me but this was something else!

I just want something sane which this horse wasn't!

Never mind, it's all good experience but I'm just a bit sore now!
 
Ouch - poor you :( There are plenty of horses out there that fit what you are looking for although, unfortunately what is 'perfect' for one person isn't perfect for another.

I hope you aren't too sore tomorrow and good luck with your search for a horse.

Out of interest, whereabouts are you and what what type of horse are you looking for?
 
I find the good ones rarely make it to an advert - so a disporportionate number of those advertised aren't want they claim to be in some way or another.

If you can get the word around your local horsey community, speak to farrier of the horse you've been riding, local pony club, instructiors in your area, local dentist if you can etc. they meet a large number of people every day and may well know or have mentioned to them that XYZ is going to be sold and do they know anyone suitable.
 
I really do not know why, what is the point. Some one could very well end up hurt. We had a woman who could not ride her horse because it would buck and buck till it had you pff see took it to market and said older mare would make great family horse, good all rounder !!!!! Lies lies lies she was sold to a family and two weeks later we heard she was up for sale again and they also lied to try and get rid of her.
 
Looking for a 15.2-16.2 horse in the home counties area.

After something to do a bit of everything with really and can hack alone on roads.

After a friendly horse who likes cuddles and doesn't mind if it's not ridden everyday.

Not a fan of chestnuts and has to be a gelding.

Max cost of £3500 so hoping I could find something. A friend is buying but I will be sharing and doing most of the riding (4/5 days a week).

Main thing for us is temperament and not silly as friend is older and more nervous than me. Am so glad I was the one riding today!
 
Thanks polos mum. Sounds like a good idea. Will ask around to see if anyone knows anything in the local area.

It's such a minefield out there. Think we will give dealers a miss now and buy privately.
 
Yes we definitely want a "first horse" as although spooks etc don't bother me really I want something to enjoy and have fun with without worrying.

I think we want something like gold dust. Forward going but safe and sane :)
 
kppony said:
Looking for a 15.2-16.2 horse in the home counties area.

After something to do a bit of everything with really and can hack alone on roads.

After a friendly horse who likes cuddles and doesn't mind if it's not ridden everyday.

Not a fan of chestnuts and has to be a gelding.

Max cost of £3500 so hoping I could find something. A friend is buying but I will be sharing and doing most of the riding (4/5 days a week).

Main thing for us is temperament and not silly as friend is older and more nervous than me. Am so glad I was the one riding today!
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I'm sure the perfect horse for you will be out there. Might be worth you placing an ad in local tack shops and presume you've looked of Horsemart and other equestrian sites?

If you were closer I know a nice 16.1hh bay gelding for sale who is really genuine. Not sure how much he'll be advertised at but too far for you anyway.

Good luck with your search :)
 
Exact thing happened to me about 15 years ago when I was horse hunting. Stupidly I rode it first and then after it bronc'd me off they said oh he has never done that before but he hasn't been ridden for 3 months, he was 4!

To this day I have a phobia about horses bucking like that as there was NO staying on him :(

Good luck with your search, not everyone lies thankfully.
 
I told all people who enquired about my old horse, that he was a foul natured thing. First person who saw him, bought him!
I can't see the point in blatant lies myself...
 
No I don't either.

Every horse we've enquired about we've said exactly what we're after. It's like a mother/daughter share (although we aren't mother and daughter! Lol).

The man this afternoon said that if we'd told him that is what we were after he wouldn't have let us view. We mentioned what we wanted and the type of riders we are in an email, on the phone and in the stable before he got Thr horse out.

He just wasted all our time and then got the hump when we said thanks but we're not interested!
 
I think as well as those who deliberately mislead you, some people genuinely don't actually realise they are lying. I've met horses that are so well behaved & bombproof, & safe with beginners, but become spooky & jumpy with a nervous but more experienced rider. And it works the other way, I've viewed supposedly nutty, not for novices, need a lot of work etc horses that were nothing of the sort.
When you are looking, be careful to discuss the 'first horse' wording if it appears on an ad. It can mean 'first horse for a teen moving up from ponies' rather than meaning 'suitable for a novice'. And echo the word of mouth too.
 
Because a perfect sounding horse is worth a lot more money than a horse with this fault, that quirk, a lameness history, etc.

Money.

ETA, just be glad the horse showed its dark side at the viewing. Plus horses like the one you tried would be pretty much unsaleable if the vendor told the truth. Can you imagine phoning up and saying "what's it like to ride?" and the answer being, "great, except when it bucks you off when you try getting on sometimes". They wouldn't get many viewers, lol.
 
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