Why do people never remember the good things that you do?? RANT

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I'll try to make this as short as possible.

My friend relies on me greatly to turn her horse out and occasionally bring it in each day, mine doesn't go out every day so she has to just put up with my rota for my own or not get turn out at all.

For the past few weeks i've been getting a bit naffed off with her, because she doesn't so much as thank me, pay me, or return the favour and people have been asking me why i do it and to be honest i used to do it so mine has a freind in the field, although i have come to realise Ardra doesn't need a freind because others are already out when we get there.

Anyway, i'll get to the point of this story..on monday i put her horse out with mine about 10ish, came down about 4ish was in a rush and brought Ardra in ut Connie wouldn't come in, I didn't have time to mess around and there were horses in a field next door to her, so after three attempts i left.

I told another friend that i had to go and was in a rush so i couldn't go down again (field is a long way away) and said friend offered to do it and for me not to worry. Anyway when i got home i text Connies owner and she replied that it was fine and it would teach her a lesson not to come in.

Anyway i haven't put either horse out since, and owner has been blanking me totally, i went up to her tonight and she said i should of told her she was out and that she was in tears when she realised her horse was on her own (which i pointed out there were horses next door) to which she said there wasn't. Well she can't have been left for more than ten minutes, but now i am tarnished with the brush now that i left her horse out...it doesn't seem to matter how much i have done for her or saved her in money i am well and truly out!! And the funny thing is i am always the person that makes sure every horse is in etc

Am i right to feel so mad at her, i think she is being totally unreasonable....

p.s Cookies if you got this far x
 
Yes! You do somthing as kind as that for no reason, and the horse is beig evil at the time, so u leave it and the owner flips. Dont bother doign it in future, tis best that way.
 
Look at it this way, at least you have only got your own horse to worry about now! Try not to get to worked up about it, she will miss u more i should think.
 
She will be the loser in this.I would be very tempted to tell her that as she is unhappy with what you have been doing she had better find someone else to do the things you have been doing for her or do it herself as she clearly isn't happy with the current situation. To be honest no matter what she said to me if I was in your shoes would i continue helping her after this.
 
I know that feeling! I always always help people out whenever I can, but if you get involved as you have done, people tend to forget that it's a favour and rely on you without a word of thanks! I would forget it and move on TBH, in fact I bet it WILL be forgotten in a few weeks, and look on the bright side - you don't have to worry about doing the horse any more! Horse is alive and well, owner will get over it!
I will always remember when I turned my YO's daughter's expensive eventer out with her rug hood folded back (forgot to un-fold it and fasten it) and it POURED with rain and the rug and horse got soaked. Neither YO nor her daughter can remember it now but I always feel so embarrassed about it when I remember it - and it happened about 5 years ago! Funnily enough they got over it and forgot it even if I still haven't. Don't worry, it's her problem!
 
Yep totally!Folk seem to forget what their responsabilties are and can be totally ungrateful for any free help they get!
And you know what these type rarely return the favour!!
 
<makes mental note to purchase Silmarillion something to convey her deepest gratitude for ensuring Finn is never stranded alone in the big scary field>
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You're fine, you always say thank you! Someone else sometimes forgets that I do her horse as if she were my own, for free, and some other people seem to think they're doing me a favour by letting me look after their horses for them
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Besides, mr Findus Fish Cakes is easy peasy to do! (Sorry he has a new nickname, forgot to tell you! He acually answers to "Fishy" now when I call him in the field
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she sounds like a stupid unreasonable cow, tbh, especially as you texted to let her know. i'd totally ignore her, let her come and grovel if she's got the guts, don't do anything for her and see if she notices the difference!
 
Her horse, her responsibility to make sure she has arrangements in place for bringing it in! What an ungrateful cow she sounds - you're better off having nothing more to do with her. It sounds like the others at your place know what she is like anyway, so I'd just leave her to it.
 

they see themselves as whiter than white.
thrive on telling tales
they have a knack of twisting things to make you feel that your in the wrong,
any decent person would repay the favour.

bitching session over!!
 
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