why post for help and then be so rude!

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i have to vent i'm afraid, somebody posted a thread asking for help in finding a horse for her (cob). i sent this member my details, took 2 hours out of my day for her to try him and not even the decency to ring me with her thoughts, has it happens she would not have been right for my boy, but i am annoyed at the rudeness, rant over, you live and learn.
 
I also replied to this person about my cob which I thought would be suitable. She replied and said she'd contact me and come to see him. (Turns out she lives within a few miles of the field.)

Haven't heard from her since, probably a good thing. He's not for sale now, I'm keeping him.
 
I've had a member PM me for help with how to build an arena and ask if she could come see mine and chat...replied immediately letting her know where we live, etc and inviting her over, never got any reply back. OK people are busy but she contacted me, not the other way round!
 
I had someone ask if they could use my brothers dog as a model (after a pic they had seen on her). Phoned my brother to ask (different country) emailed her pics and gave details etc, then Nothing, quite disappointing really, not even a thanks but i have changed my mind!
 
It really is unbelieveable, at some peoples total rudeness. Why bother ask, if you cant be bothered to follow through. My parents drive me nuts at times, (and i'm 32), but they did teach us all good manners. It doesn't take 30 seconds to send a text to say sorry, wont make it or whatever, but come on, it's common courtesy to let people know!!! I'm mad now, and I only read the post, poor you, what a total pain!!
 
it always amazes me too. Peeps ask for help, and then disappear off the ends of the earth when you offer it to them. Bloody rude. :rolleyes:
 
How bl00dy anoying!

Not quite the same, but it does annoy me when you reply to someones post and then they don't bother to respond, at all.
i know that not everyone is glued to their computer all night, but if you wanted an answer, is'nt it polite to at least acknowledge people who have taken the time to respond?
 
I have had people ring asking for a horse on loan and i wills spend time speaking about a horse that would suit them for a time to be arranged and yep no show, no call nothing, drives me up the wall.
If i can spend my time sorting out a horse to suit you, then have said horse in standing waiting, at least tha the darn decency to let me know you cant be bother to get out of bed.
Sorry off soapbox now
Also nearly forgot when people ask on here for help then never respond to the thread again how long does it take to type thanks and hit reply.
What happened to manners
 
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I put a thread on here about Bensons stuff, and wasnt sure what to do with it all. I had loads of people pm me asking what I had. One wanted rugs, tack etc that I had and she knew the price I wanted for tham. Everything was agreed, so obviously when others contacted me about the same stuff, I had to say it was sold. Gave this woman all details of how to pay.......do you think I have heard anything from her? No. Bl00dy waste of time.
 
I replied to a post for someone that wanted to know where to buy a Kineton noseband, I said I had one and that she could have it for nothing, I sent it to her (paid postage) then heard nothing back, I pm'd her to ask if she had received it, she replied that she had ..... I asked to let me know how she got on with it on her horse that she was having problems with ....... I heard nothing :mad:

Never again, I hate bad manners :(
 
I posted on here about a horse my friend was wanting to loan out due to some difficult circumstances in her life. I SPECIFICALLY said I was helping because I wanted it to be smooth and stress free for her.

So I was MEGA cross when someone off here arranged to go and see the horse and didn't show. Then emailed later and said something had come up, sorry, can she come next weekend. Guess what? Didn't show AGAIN and then never relied to any message.

Made me really mad at how low, thoughtless and incredibly selfish people can be!
 
Having this year been made redundant over the phone by someone I have worked for for 15 years and also being advised by text message (from my bro) that my mother has only hours to live, other peoples rudeness and thoughtlessness fails to surprise me any more.

You have my sympathy OP, but you aren't the first and won't be the last.. sadly.
 
Someone posted on here asking for details of a sponsored ride, I went out of my way to look it up for them, posted the date and put a link up to the website it was on with all the details etc. They didn't even reply or say thanks!
 
some people are just so far up their own a@@'es they think other people are there just fir their convenience - sickening!! Sadly, it ruins it for genuine well mannered people :D
 
last week someone asked where to get hold of a schedule (that you can only get if you've competed there before or pay for on the day - it is also online),

I replied saying that I had one and would be happy to post it to them if they wanted

Not a word of thanks, just a "where is it online"!

Maybe i'm just a bit touchy at the moment though
 
a so called friend "other livery person" is moving her horse today, so i thought i would help her out by mucking out her box for her (trust me it needed it, it was disgusting 5 wheelbarrows later) and she saw me when i had finished. i then got a text from her later on when i was then at work (so couldnt do anything about it) telling me i was to put the box back the way it was as her horse was only going tomorrow, all she had to do was bring down the banks i had simply left the wet patch in the middle of the floor to dry. she had also been to the owner of the 2 boxes to make a complaint. she forgets how i have had to put out and bring in her horse for her, give it some of my hay when she hadnt left any out for it and today give it some of my hay because she had taken all of hers to where she was moving to. cant wait to see the back of her she was the laziest person i have ever met and wanted everything for free incl additional grazing in another field, moooooo!!!! sorry to take over your post.
 
I replied to a message at work on an internal database from someone asking about cheap body protectors. I said she could have one of mine that was too small. So I packed it up and sent it to Wales on the Office van... did I hear anything? No not a peep. I emailed her to see if she had got it and she said yes it had arrived but no thanks or anything. Not even a small box of choccies to say thanks. I had saved her a lot of money too! Damn rude.
 
Do not get me started...

I've had numerous PMs on here asking for help. Most of them have been delightful and we've had good natters and good times, but some have been, well, let's just say rude, asking for help and then when they've had it, nothing, nada, no update on the situation/s, zilch.

Each time it takes up my time and energies, which I am more than happy to do, but being only human, I do like to know how things work out and that people are okay.

Harrumph.

:cool:
 
But it's the same in every walk of life now, isn't it? You're selling a car or something, someone 'phones to say they are coming to see it, don't sell it we are on our way - and they never turn up. Same with a house for sale - you tidy up, put a pot of coffee on (;)) and wait in - no one arrives. I am a teacher, and the number of times parents haven't turned up for after school appointments!!! I am giving up my time at the end of my official day for them and they can't even 'phone to say they can't make it!

Rant over! :D
 
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