Worrying over nothing??

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JoG

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My horse is currently out on loan with view to buy by middle of June (3month loan) as I have to give up because of a back injury.

I was really sad to see him go and was chuffed to think that I've found him the perfect home but I spoke to the loaner/potential new loaner the other day and am a bit concerned that he is taking the pee out of her.

Horse is SecD x TB and can be a bit single minded, though if you keep him in his place he is an absolute star and would do anything :D He just needs a firm hand. I never had problems with him but have found that he is tanking off across the school with the loaner and she has yet to hack him as she's a bit worried that she can't hold him. She also said that he dragged her towards the field on a few occassions - something I wouldn't let him get away with as I like horses to have manners :o

She seems to completely adore him and has made no indication that she won't have him but I am worried that it may be a downward circle and he may not be in the best place for him :(

Should I do anything? It would be a nightmare to have him back as i have nowhere to put him and can't ride him but then again i don't want to sell him to a home which isn't suitable. There (at the moment) is no indication that she won't be buying him so do i just stop being so emotional about it and get on with my life?

Sorry, its epic - homemade coffee cake for all :D
 
What a difficult position for you! It is a fine line to tread between interfering with the loaner and supporting your horse. I think you'll have to just stand back and bite your tounge unless they ask for your input. All new partnerships try it on in the first few months. They should find thier own level. Try not to worry!
 
This is a really difficult position to be in. Ideally she should have bought the horse outright so that any problems she created would be her problems to sort. You can keep quiet now, but you risk her getting into more and more problems and then sending him back at the end of the loan. You will then have to deal with a horse that is much more difficult than when he first went out.

I think I would intervene now. Can you offer her some help, i.e. go over and give her some pointers? Or if that's not possible, can you suggest a good trainer to her? For her sake and for the sake of the horse she needs to be able to handle him, school him and hack him safely. If she can't do this and can't or won't get help you are better of taking the horse back now and placing him with a professional to sell.
 
Sorry, just to add. If she is very upset at you having the horse back she can buy him now. That way you don't risk having the horse back in June and she will have a stronger reason to get help.
 
I'd be worried too, it's only natural. I think I'd go over if poss and give her a few tips and maybe watch her ride and try and instill some confidence in her.

as someone else said partnerships take a while to develop and it's early days.
 
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