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put my headphones in when I'm mucking out so I dont have to talk to the slightly batty livery in the stable next door?!

I was in a particularly grouchy mood tonight after a pretty stressful day at work so my the time I got the the yard I just wanted to spend some time with the pony and relax but the girl who owns the pony in the stable next door was at work so her mum had come to look after the pony instead as she sometimes does. The mum is nice enough but quite frankly she's completely batty! Whitters on non stop about nonsense and tells me the same things over and over again, sometimes I just want to tell her to shut up but I can't bring myself to be so rude! Instead I took my pony for an extra long walk around the farm hoping she'd be finished my the time I got back but after about an hour I got back to find her half way through mucking out my stable! She's only being helpful but I'm afraid I pretty much grabbed the fork out of her hands and told her I didnt need any help... oops!
 
Nope - I've done the same to avoid conflict with a nutty livery, worked well, I was unstressed by her and she took no offence :).
 
Putting headphones in is fine but grabbing the fork out of her hands and refusing help like that isn't. I doubt she'll want to talk to you again after that anyway.
 
I try so hard to be patient but sometimes I just can't take it any more! When you've heard the same story about something that wasn't interesting the first time I feel like snapping... I must add that I haven't ever actually snapped at her and always help her carry water buckets etc so I'm not a completely horrible person!

Some days I need to be able to hold up a grumpy sign saying 'leave well alone!'
 
have to agree, grabbing the fork when she was just trying to give you a hand was rude. fair enough if you don't want to talk so put your ear phones in, but good manners cost nothing. maybe a wee apology might not go amiss.
 
Half pony half cow said:
I try so hard to be patient but sometimes I just can't take it any more! When you've heard the same story about something that wasn't interesting the first time I feel like snapping... I must add that I haven't ever actually snapped at her and always help her carry water buckets etc so I'm not a completely horrible person!

Some days I need to be able to hold up a grumpy sign saying 'leave well alone!'
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I'm sure you're not horrible really. Someone's dad used to drive me nuts with his endless stories about working in a chiller room for a supermarket. I used to plan in advance how I would escape, but always got caught out and ended up standing there smiling whilst thinking not-so-nice thoughts. But what the heck, he was a lovely person. If a bit boring.:D
 
I used to chat to a man when walking my dog. Nice enough man but he did go on a bit. One day when my daughter and I were getting in the car we saw him down the road. I said we had better get in the car quick before we get caught . Next day we heard he had died from a heart attack. Sorry now that we couldn't spare 5 mins to chat to him.
 
Chestnuttymare said:
have to agree, grabbing the fork when she was just trying to give you a hand was rude. fair enough if you don't want to talk so put your ear phones in, but good manners cost nothing. maybe a wee apology might not go amiss.
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I didn't actually snatch it out of her hands! Just quite quickly made it clear that whilst I was grateful for her help, she really didn't need to put herself out like that. I very much doubt she will be offended, but I will make extra effort to be nice next time I see her. (Before running away and putting my headphones is!)

Goldenstar said:
One day that will be you OP .
The older I get the battler I get and always I was a bit alternative.
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oh I think I'm not that far off...
 
Half pony half cow said:
I didn't actually snatch it out of her hands! Just quite quickly made it clear that whilst I was grateful for her help, she really didn't need to put herself out like that. I very much doubt she will be offended, but I will make extra effort to be nice next time I see her. (Before running away and putting my headphones is!)

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Ahh right, well that's not what you said. only went with what you said in your original post. fair enough. make sure it is these big headphone things so she gets the hint.
 
Half pony half cow said:
I didn't actually snatch it out of her hands! Just quite quickly made it clear that whilst I was grateful for her help, she really didn't need to put herself out like that. I very much doubt she will be offended, but I will make extra effort to be nice next time I see her. (Before running away and putting my headphones is!)
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And then you are giving her completely mixed signals and are encouraging her to be chatty and friendly with you :confused: If you don't care for her company then remain polite but cool. If you want to be friendly then be nice all the time.
 
I understand where you are coming from OP. personally I can't stand it when people witter on about complete utter tripe, the sort of people who can't cope with a happy silence.
Yesterday at work I was busy at my desk all day but some of the people around me were seemingly chatting all day, just going on and on and on about the most banal subjects, they weren't talking to me so I had no reason to join in and say anything but I just sat at my desk slowly seething all day, rolling my eyes dramatically when the same uninteresting comments on the most boring subjects in the world were made time and time again!!!!! It absolutely did my head in!!! Oh and it's okay I face a wall so I won't have offended anyone by my face-pulling ha ha!😊😊😊
 
Maybe an apologie is needed, as in 'sorry if i was a bit grumpy the other day, it was very kind of you to start mucking out my stable, but i had a tough day and was looking to my yard jobs and pony to help me unwind. If i feel like that again i will bring my headphones and you will know that i need my own space and to be left alone'
That way she will know you didn't mean to be a little unkind and if you are feeling up to her chatting then you can leave headphones off and good feeling between you can be restored.
 
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